He Will Not Cry, So I Cry for Him
Akiro: Why do you cry?
He is Conan, Cimmerian. He will not cry, so I cry for him.
Sometimes, even if the sadness one feels is like the weight of the entire world on his shoulders, a malignant combination of cultural brainwash like Men Don't Cry
and personal trauma has sealed a person to his or her feelings
, and the tears simply refuse to flow despite the soul-crushing grief he or she is bearing
There is, therefore, no stronger action that dictates a person's love, sensitivity and kindness than having him cry in his friends' place, to bear their pain for them so that they can have the courage to live on.
A hybrid of the Men Don't Cry
and Tender Tears
tropes. Quite often caused by one character being filled with Mangst
. More often than not, a Tear Jerker
, a Crowning Moment of Heartwarming
or both for a franchise.
Compare Trying Not to Cry
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Anime and Manga
- There were several poems and stories about Spock that had either Christine Chapel or Dr. Mc_Coy saying "I weep for you, you will not weep for yourself." In the narrative poem "Lament for the Unsung Dead" by Jane Peyton (written years before Slash Fic), Spock wasn't able to save Kirk's life. He comes to Christine asking how do you go on when you've lost a friend. Life goes on, she says, you meet other people. There are no others, he says. And that's when she realizes that she has walled off her own emotions... I couldn't even cry for him.
- In the Sherlock fic Alone On the Water, the following is said in John's narration:
"She holds me while I have an honest-to-God sobbing breakdown of the sort that I probably ought to be embarrassed about, but somehow living with Sherlock's perpetual detachment has left me remarkably unselfconscious about whatever it is that I feel myself. I've become an avatar for his humanity. I must express all the emotion that he suppresses, so I end up doing double duty."
- The Trope Namer comes from the film Conan the Barbarian (1982). Conan tenderly dresses the corpse of Valeria, the love of his life, as he prepares her funeral pyre for her journey to Valhalla. Yet for all his love, any tears that are left from his Men Don't Cry upbringing in childhood have been dried away by his twenty years of pitiless slavery. His best friend, Subotai, silently sheds Tender Tears as the Wizard asks, "Why do you cry?" To which the warrior answers: "He is Conan, Cimmerian. He will not cry, so I cry for him."
- Near the end of Lawrence of Arabia, Lawrence and his Arab followers have succeeded in defeating the Turks, but their own internal squabbles have doomed any attempt at forming a united post-independence government before it began, leaving Lawrence broken and disillusioned. Sherif Ali, witnessing the defeated Lawrence, begins weeping, and when confronted by Auda abu Tayi over why he weeps for a man he claims to fear rather than love, he replies, "Because if I fear him who love him, how must he fear himself who hates himself?"
- In James Swallow's Warhammer 40,000 Horus Heresy novel The Flight of the Eisenstein, Keeler cries over the news they brought Dorn; they have broken a brother's heart.
- From Ink Exchange, the second book in the Wicked Lovely series; "Then he was beide her, lifting her hands to his lips, crying tears she wasn't able to shed." The characters are, respectivley, Niall and Leslie.
- Invoked in House of Chains in the Malazan Book of the Fallen series. Trull Sengar cries because his friend Onrack cannot. Somewhat subverted because Onrack cannot cry, as he is undead
- Inverted in The Godfather. Bonasera, the undertaker, is pleading for Vito Corleone to avenge his brutalized daughter. When describing the state he found her in at the hospital, he says "She couldn't even weep for the pain. But I wept."
- In Alethea Kontis's Enchanted, Sunday runs to Rumbold, saying goodby to his dead mother and Unable to Cry; she holds him and cries herself.
- In The Bible, Aaron's sons were struck dead by God because they offered strange fire. Moses told Aaron that he was to continue about his priestly duties rather than engaging in mourning rites, but that all of Israel would mourn them.
Live Action TV
- A very cynical and Rage Against the Heavens take in the song "Tomorrow, Wendy" by Concrete Blonde, about death, and addressing God.
Only God says jump, so I set the time
Cause if He ever saw it it was through these eyes of mine
And if He ever suffered
It was me who did His crying
- Attempted in Macbeth: Siward refuses to mourn his son's death in battle. Malcolm offers to mourn for him, but Siward refuses that too.
Siward: Had I as many sons as I have hairs, I would not wish them to a fairer death: and so, his knell is knoll'd.
Malcolm: He's worth more sorrow, and that I'll spend for him.
Siward: He's worth no more. They say he parted well, and paid his score: and so, God be with him!
- A variant occurs in Fire Emblem: Path of Radiance. After Ike's father Greil dies, Ike tells Rhys a story Greil used to tell him about how the more tears are shed for someone, the more blessings they receive in the afterlife. Being The Stoic, Ike finds himself unable to cry, so he asks Rhys to cry in his place.
- In Fire Emblem 7, right before the final battle Lyn cries in place of Hector for his recently deceased older brother Uther, in a Shout-Out to an earlier scene in which Hector tells her about how he tried to cry when his and Uther's parents died, but he simply was unable to..
- Another variant occurs in Sacred Stones if you take Eirika's path. When it becomes clear beyond any shadow of doubt that Lyon cannot be saved, Ephraim tells Eirika that it's all right to cry, and to cry for him as well.
- Sapphire in Disgaea 3: Absence of Justice has been Unable to Cry all her life, and is commonly thought to be heartless (an assertion she does nothing to dispute.) When her mother died, she cut a lock of her hair and placed it in the coffin. Almaz was the only person outside of her immediate family who noticed, and she first fell in love with him when she heard him tell the other guards that she grieved more than they realized. Several years later, she told Almaz how much this had meant to her, and she was surprised to find that he started crying. "If it would make you happy, I'll cry for you as much as you want!"
- Suikoden V: This is invoked by Miakis, when Lymslea refuses to cry over her parents death to deny the Godwins the satisfaction of breaking her. So Miakis holds her and cries in her stead.