"Do sit down, Sergeant. Shocks are so much better absorbed with the knees bent."
Bad news is of course hard to tell to other people (unless someone is feeling malicious), which means it's preferable in those circumstances to try to break the news as gently as possible.
There are several methods. One of the most common in fiction is to tell the recipient to sit down before hearing the news, often in case the news is upsetting enough to cause Fainting
. Often, to show how tough or Bad Ass
they are, the listener usually says, through clenched jaws, "I think I'll stand" or "I prefer to stand" or some variation thereof.
Regardless of the delivery, how the recipient reacts can vary, before and after hearing the news. Before, some might be so anxious, they can shout "Just Tell Me!"
, while others might ask for a minute to prep themselves. After, some can be happy (if the news was actually in their favor without the bearer knowing it), and some can react even worse than the bearer feared.
And it should be noted that methods have been around long enough for many to be discredited. Expect many instances of this trope to be Played for Laughs
A Sub Trope
of Bearer of Bad News
A Super Trope
to Bad News in a Good Way
, Good News, Bad News
- A man goes on vacation and his friend is watching his cat. A few days in the man calls to check up, and the friend says "your cat fell off the roof and died." The man says, "Ouch! Couldn't you have said it more gently, like 'Your cat climbed up on the roof, there was a loose tile, she fell, I rushed her to the vet, but there was nothing they could do?' " The friend apologizes and a few months go by. The man goes away again, and calls to check in. His friend says "Your mother climbed up on the roof..."
- Used in Facing The Giants, when Coach Grant Taylor gets a call informing him that his team will be allowed into the playoffs after all because the team they lost to in the last game cheated. You only hear Grant's end of the conversation, but he repeats the callers question of "Am I sitting down?" with obvious confusion.
- In The Big Bang Theory episode "The Spaghetti Catalyst", Sheldon tells Leonard to sit down. Leonard informs Sheldon that he's already lying in bed, which should be good enough.
- Played with in the Quantum Leap episode "Miss Deep South," in which Sam has leapt into a beauty pageant contestant. Al comes bearing bad news, and insists that Sam sit down before he hears it. Sam sits down and his skirt's crinoline cage hits him in the face. Al relents, "I think you better stand up, Sam."
- Dexter did this in the 2010 season opener when presenting news of his wife's death.
- Dateline NBC:
Chris Hansen: Why don't you take a seat over there?
- M*A*S*H has this exchange over the phone:
General-of-the-week: Are you sitting down, Henry?
Henry Blake: No sir!
GOTW: Maybe you should, I have some exciting news.
Henry: (sits down) Yes sir!
Hawkeye: They're giving you calisthenics over the phone?
- The police officers of Law & Order frequently asked relatives of victims to sit down.
- In Off Centre, Chau says that bad news can be softened by ending it with making your voice high and making it seem like a question. Later, Mike's girlfriend breaks up with him trying the same thing.
- In the World War II Mini Series The Sinking of the Laconia, Captain Sharp says tells Junior Officer Thomas Mortimer "You better sit down", before presenting him with a telegram. Mortimer doesn't sit down; he merely asks, "All of them, sir?". As one can probably guess, his wife and children have all been killed in an air raid.
- Tout Va Très Bien Madame La Marquise: A marquise calls her servants to ask how things are going. They tell her that all is well (tout va très bien), except her horse died. Then they describe the series of events that led to this calamity, with each link in the chain more horrible than the one before it.
- The horse died in the stable fire, the stable caught fire because the castle was on fire, the castle was on fire because the marquis knocked over a candle, he knocked over a candle because he'd shot himself, he'd shot himself because he learned he was bankrupt. But other than that, everything's going fine.
- The title of this article includes this trope in its name.
- A Pearls Before Swine strip has Pig call Goat to ask if he's sitting down. Goat freaks out and asks what's happened, and Pig replies: "Oh, it's just comfy."
- Done in The Navy Lark between Mister Phillips and the ship's Chaplain in a very confused conversation about a pregnant racehorse (which the Chaplain thinks it is a girl Phillips has got knocked up due to how Phillips broached the subject), with the Chaplain being so shocked that after having had to sit down he declares "I think I better stand up again".
- Red vs. Blue: Grif couldn't sit down because both of his kneecaps where shattered, so Sarge ordered Simmons to prepare catching him when they had to explain (again) that his Sister had died.
- Barbara Gordon does this in The New Batman Adventures episode where she fear-toxin hallucinated that Gordon had turned against Batman and gotten both of them killed after she died in the tights. She intends to tell him the truth, and has him sit down before she starts. He cuts her off to maintain deniability, though, as it's implied he already knew.
- Played with in The Proud Family, where the dad says they shouldn't bother sitting down 'cause they're just gonna stand up again before revealing something exciting.
- Spoofed in the Tale Spin episode "Bearly Alive", when Rebbecca got a call about a broken plane part. The guy on the other line said she should sit down, but she already was. The guy told her to stand up, and then sit down.