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The IdiotHero, {{Cloudcuckoolander}}, and those who have NoSocialSkills are prone to this. They tend to receive replies like "YouKnowImBlackRight" and "ImStandingRightHere". InnocentBigot is a subtrope. Obviously guilty of frequently committing a FeeFiFauxPas. It may also be the result of a CrazyCulturalComparison or a CrossCulturalKerfuffle. Compare HorribleJudgeOfCharacter, ObliviousMockery, MyParentsAreDead, DeadpanSnarker (when this is done intentionally), HanlonsRazor, and YouAreACreditToYourRace (when the comment is racially based). Contrast MoreInsultingThanIntended, where the insult was deliberate but not to such a degree. See also NWordPrivileges, when the acceptability of a slur depends on whether the person is part of the group in question.

** This goes both ways with Tedd and his dad. Edward, thinking of Tedd's facination with the transformation gun as just one of his son's odd quirks, has made [[https://www.egscomics.com/index.php?id=269 some comments]] about Tedd spending time in female form that [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/2014-12-16-2 hit Tedd hard]] when [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/2014-07-01 they realise they're genderfluid]], to the point where their [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/layers-018 not sure]] why their dad lets them use the TF gun at all. But when Tedd learns (to his delight) that their work on the TF gun has been duplicated by Edward's organisation to help Uryoums, they [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/layers-026 blurt out]] "So ''that's'' why you were so supportive!" This hits ''Edward'' hard, since it apparently doesn't occur to Tedd that he was [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/layers-027 largely supportive]] because working with the TF gun was helping ''Tedd''.

** This goes both ways with Tedd and his dad. Edward, thinking of Tedd's facination with the transformation gun as just one of his son's odd quirks, has made [[https://www.egscomics.com/index.php?id=269 some comments]] about Tedd spending time in female form that [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/2014-12-16-2 hit Tedd hard]] when [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/2014-07-01 they realise they're genderfluid]], to the point where he's [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/layers-018 not sure]] why his dad lets him use the TF gun at all. But when Tedd learns (to his delight) that his work on the TF gun has been duplicated by Edward's organisation to help Uryoums, he [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/layers-026 blurts out]] "So ''that's'' why you were so supportive!" This hits ''Edward'' hard, since it apparently doesn't occur to Tedd that he was [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/layers-027 largely supportive]] because working with the TF gun was helping ''Tedd''.

** This goes both ways with Tedd and his dad. Edward, thinking of Tedd's facination with the transformation gun as just one of his son's odd quirks, has made [[https://www.egscomics.com/index.php?id=269 some comments]] about Tedd spending time in female form that [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/2014-12-16-2 hit Tedd hard]] when [https://www.egscomics.com/comic/2014-07-01 they realise they're genderfluid]], to the point where he's [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/layers-018 not sure]] why his dad lets him use the TF gun at all. But when Tedd learns (to his delight) that his work on the TF gun has been duplicated by Edward's organisation to help Uryoums, he [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/layers-026 blurts out]] "So ''that's'' why you were so supportive!" This hits ''Edward'' hard, since it apparently doesn't occur to Tedd that he was [[https://www.egscomics.com/comic/layers-027 largely supportive]] because working with the TF gun was helping ''Tedd''.

* In ''Webcomic/ElGoonishShive'', Grace accidentally [[http://egscomics.com/comic/2014-07-15-2 suggests]] [[spoiler: Sam]], a trans man, is a BeardedLady. Given that the moment was shown in a flashback and she apparently understands what transgender means now, presumably [[spoiler: Sam]] explained the issue to her. [[spoiler:She later [[http://egscomics.com/comic/tsos-09 realizes]] how her knowing at all might be causing him stress]].

* ''ComicBook/ArchieComics2015'': During an argument, Jughead makes fun of Archie's BettyAndVeronica LoveTriangle drama. Archie replies with "Look, I'm not going to apologize for being a ''normal'' guy", which offends Jughead as an aromantic asexual. He apologizes afterwards.

* This is how some disabled people feel about "inspirational" stories or even portrayals of disabled characters in the media. While the writer(s) and journalist(s) never set out to ''intentionally'' offend these people, some feel that they are presented in a patronising way; showing a disabled person somehow excelling at things more than a non-disabled person. Sometimes, they interpret them as pushing the message of how acceptance is conditional on how much a disabled person can be exploited or lead pressure to excel at something they legitimately have trouble doing. Even some ''abled'' people can feel this way about the stories, thinking they imply that "if this disabled person can do it, you are not trying hard enough and your struggles are petty compared to theirs."

* Counterintuitively, this is how some people with disabilities feel about "inspirational" stories or even portrayals of disabled characters in the media. While the writer(s) and journalist(s) never set out to ''intentionally'' offend these people, some feel that they are presented in a patronising way; showing a disabled person somehow excelling at things more than a non-disabled person. Sometimes, they interpret them as pushing the message of how acceptance is conditional on how much a disabled person can be exploited or lead pressure to excel at something they legitimately have trouble doing. Even some ''abled'' people can feel this way about the stories, thinking they imply that "if this disabled person can do it, you are not trying hard enough and your struggles are petty compared to theirs."

* A teacher (who's usually a DumbBlonde or some other AcceptableTarget), decides to teach her kids about how the circulation of blood works. At one point she stands on her head and notes that the blood all flows to her head, thus turning her face red. She then stands back on her feet and asks why the blood doesn't all sink into her feet. One of the kids replies, [[ComicallyMissingThePoint "Because your feet aint empty!"]]

* In ''WesternAnimation/TheIncredibles'', Jack-Jack is mostly oblivious to any hardship his family goes through. Being that he's a baby, he doesn't really understand the trouble he's causing with his superpowers and thinks it's just a fun game.

* In ''WesternAnimation/TheSuperMarioBrosMovie'', While it ''wasn't'' his intention, Mario and Luigi's father insensitively insults Mario by saying that the worst thing he's ever done is dragging Luigi into making poor choices. Deeply hurt, Mario leaves as he barely hides it as he points out his father's lack of support because he sees him as a disappointment. [[EveryoneHasStandards Even everyone didn't think the father had to say those terrible words to Mario.]]

* In ''WesternAnimation/TheSuperMarioBrosMovie'', While it ''wasn't'' his intention, Mario and Luigi's father insensitively insults Mario by saying the worst thing he's ever done is dragging Luigi into making poor choices. Deeply hurt, Mario leaves as he barely hides it as he points out his father's lack of support because he sees him as a disappointment. [[EveryoneHasStandards Even everyone didn't think the father had to say those terrible words to Mario.]]

The IdiotHero, {{Cloudcuckoolander}}, and those who have NoSocialSkills are prone to this. They tend to receive replies like "YouKnowImBlackRight" and "ImStandingRightHere". InnocentBigot is a subtrope. Obviously guilty of frequently committing a FeeFiFauxPas. It may also be the result of a CrazyCulturalComparison or a CrossCulturalKerfuffle. Compare HorribleJudgeOfCharacter, ObliviousMockery, MyParentsAreDead, DeadpanSnarker (when this is done intentionally), HanlonsRazor, and YouAreACreditToYourRace (when the comment is racially based). Contrast MoreInsultingThanIntended, where the insult was deliberate but not to such a degree.

* Counterintuitively, this is how some disabled people feel about "inspirational" stories of the differently abled or even portrayals of disabled characters in the media. While the writer(s) and journalist(s) never set out to ''intentionally'' offend these people, some feel that they are presented in a patronising way. From non-disabled actors playing the role of a "Disabled" character to showing a disabled person somehow excelling at things more than a non-disabled person. Sometimes, they interpret them as pushing the message of how acceptance is conditional on how much a disabled person can be exploited or lead pressure to excel at something they legitimately have trouble doing. Even some ''abled'' people can feel this way about "inspirational" stories of the disabled or underprivileged, thinking they imply that if disabled people can succeed at it, the non-disabled aren't working hard enough, and their struggles aren't important.

* ''ComicBook/XMenRed'' establishes that it's very easy to do this on Arakko, due to the Arakki's very different value system. In particular, visiting astronaut Craig Marshall quickly establishes that it's offensive to suggest that anyone or any group ''needs'' assistance with anything. So he corrects himself that he wasn't ''helping'' with the harvest ("Insult, Craig of Nasa! Insult!"), he was ''contributing'' to the harvest; he isn't about to sacrifice his life so that these Arakki children can ''escape'', he's about to go into battle so the children can regroup for a counter-attack (which, he manages to convince them, should involve years of preparation, waiting until they're adults and have developed their mutant powers).

Frustratingly TruthInTelevision. Especially notable are [[UsefulNotes/AspergerSyndrome autistic people]], though this can vary and often the exact opposite is true if said people are ''[[SensoryOverload hypersensitive]]''. Contrast with ApologisesALot, when a character tries ''too'' hard to avoid being this -- and it is not unheard of for the two to alternate.

* Murray Franklin in ''Film/Joker2019'', with [[UnwittingInstigatorOfDoom disastrous consequences]]. All he does is tease Arthur a bit about his stand-up routine, the sort of thing any talk show host would do, but it ends up being [[RageBreakingPoint the last straw]] that [[StartOfDarkness finally pushes the much-abused Arthur over the edge]], [[spoiler:causing him to [[DisproportionateRetribution shoot Murray dead]].]]

* In ''VisualNovel/CafeEnchante'', Il, being an angel who has lived thousands of years, does not always understand human emotion. When Kotone was depressed after witnessing Kororo's parents' deaths, Il simply could not understand why she would be sad since she was not a sea demon or ever met Kororo's parents. The other regulars had to gently explain.

* People with poor social skills -- children and shy people who haven't had much chance to interact socially especially -- are also prone to this. It's a recognized trait of autistic people to have some difficulty at picking up neurotypical cues that would alert them to other people's feelings.
** Can also pop up on the Internet, where tone and nonverbal social cues just don't exist.