History IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy / Literature

* Troy, in the Creator/VCAndrews ''[[Literature/TheCasteelSeries Casteel]]'' series, after finding out that he and Heaven (the protagonist) are uncle-and-niece (oh those wacky V. C. Andrews incestuous relationships), cuts off contact with her for her own good, [[spoiler:then inadvertently fakes his own death, then leaves Heaven alone for a while, believing he's dead, so she can date and marry Logan, then after a few years they get together for a last fling, during which Heaven's daughter is conceived]] and Heaven returns to live the rest of her life with Logan.

* ''Literature/{{Mermaids}}'': When the sea-witch Morva was exiled from Tingle Reef long ago, the merman she loved offered to go with her, but she refused because she knew he couldn't be happy away from his home reef. He later fell in love with someone else and had a family.

* At the beginning of the ''Literature/{{Tempest}}'' trilogy, the half-mermaid Tempest is dating the human Mark, but she falls in love with the selkie Kona. At the end of ''Tempest Rising'', she hears from her friends that Mark has been flirting with a cheerleader named Chelsea. Thinking that Mark isn't interested in her anymore, she tells him to go ahead and date Chelsea, and the two have what she thinks is an amicable break-up. But in ''Tempest Unleashed'', Mark tells Tempest that he still loves her and was never really attracted to Chelsea. He knew Tempest loved Kona, so he pretended to be interested in Chelsea in order to give Tempest an excuse to break up with him.

* In ''LiteratureImInLoveWithTheVillainess'', one of the central plot threads is Rae attempting to pair Claire up with her crush Prince Thane in spite of her own eponymous feelings for Claire. When Claire questions this, Rae admits that she'd never expected Claire to return her feelings anyway, and points out their IncompatibleOrientation.

* In the short story "Antinomy" by Creator/SpiderRobinson, Tom Higgins has spent decades trying to revive his lover Virginia Harding after she fell into a coma. When Virginia does eventually wake up, [[AmnesiacLover she initially doesn't remember him]]. Even worse, she develops an interest in his friend and younger co-worker Bill McLaughin -- an interest that is reciprocated. Tom eventually has an epiphany after he is unable to tell a good joke -- one of the things Virginia always loved about him was his sense of humor. His monomaniacal obsession with her over the years has made him someone far less than the man she once loved. When Virginia starts to recover her memories, Tom pretends not to know her so she can start a relationship with Bill, who is everything Tom was and more.

* Early in ''Literature/{{Frankenstein}}'', one of Walton's letters to his sister recounts how his ship's master had been a wealthy man engaged to wed a young Russian woman. When she tearfully begged he ''not'' marry her, insisting she loved a poor man whom her father had forbidden her to see, the ship-master not only released her from their ArrangedMarriage, but he gave the farm he'd intended for their new home to the man she ''did'' love, along with enough money to satisfy her father's standards.
* ''Literature/TheStormlightArchive'':
** ''Literature/WordsOfRadiance'': "Beloved" is pushing it, but once Kaladin develops feelings for Shallan, he concludes that she would be much happier with Adolin than with him.
** ''Literature/{{Oathbringer}}'': Similar to ''Words of Radiance'', except this time it's [[spoiler: Adolin trying to give up Shallan to Kaladin. Fortunately for him, Shallan isn't a fan of this trope. She lambasts him for attempting to make her choice for her, then makes out with him.]]
* ''Literature/TheSharingKnife: Passage'': Fawn's younger brother, Whit, has a massive crush on their boat's captain, Berry. When Fawn informs him that she's on the lookout for word of her lost betrothed (along with her father and older brother), Whit resolves to be there for her, as a crewman or a shoulder to cry on.
* ''Literature/TheLockedTomb: Literature/GideonTheNinth'': Although Palamedes has a long and complicated history with Dulcinea, he is never rude to Gideon, despite Dulcinea's obvious interest in her, and his own obvious interest in Dulcinea. He tells Camilla that he is only happy to see Dulcinea with someone who can make her laugh.
* In ''Literature/RedemptionCairn'' by Stanley G. Weinbaum, such is the attitude of both Stefan Coretti and Jack Sands towards Claire Avery. Jack accepts that she loves another and insists on [[spoiler:splitting their newly made fortune three ways, even though Stefan believes he doesn't deserve a split]], so that Stefan and Claire would have more money to start their life together – while Stefan, who, unbeknownst to Jack, is ''rejected'', also gracefully accepts the fact and encourages Jack to pursue a relationship with Claire.
* "Literature/TheLadyOrTheTiger" is about a princess whose lover is sentenced to a 'trial' in which he must [[DoorRoulette choose between two identical doors]]. One leads to a tiger that will immediately kill him, while the other leads to a beautiful woman who will immediately become his wife. The princess, who knows which holds which, indicates one of the doors with a subtle signal, and the story ends just as he opens it. Readers are left to decide whether she guided him [[IfICantHaveYou to the tiger]] or to the lady, which would be this trope.
* Miles and Taura manage a mutual version of this in ''[[Literature/VorkosiganSaga Winterfair Gifts]]''. Taura ends up as Miles's wife's Second (roughly, maid of honor) [[spoiler:after helping rescue her from an assassination attempt]], and Miles is delighted when [[spoiler:Armsman Roic, the other rescuer]] subsequently takes a week off from work in order to have a romantic vacation with Taura.
* In ''Literature/TheOutside'', Yasira is absent for fourteen months and presumed dead. When she finally manages to contact her girlfriend Tiv, Tiv tells her that she has a new girlfriend. Yasira is upset, but tells her to move on and be happy.
* ''Literature/RainReign'' has two platonic examples. [[spoiler:Rose returns her beloved dog Rain to her original owners. Rain's excitement when she sees them tells Rose that she made the right decision. Later, her father drops her off at her Uncle Weldon's house and then vanishes because he thinks Weldon would be a better parent. Rose realizes how hard the decision must have been for him.]]
* ''Literature/TheBrotherhoodOfTheConch'': In ''The Mirror of Fire and Dreaming'', Nisha time travels to the Moghul era, where she falls in love with the shahzada Mahabet. At first she agrees to stay in the past to marry him, but she eventually realizes that she could never be happy with life as his begum. With his encouragement, she leaves him and returns with her friends to her time. Abhaydatta says that his act of selflessness means that he has learned what love really is.
* In ''Billabong's Daughter'', Wally Meadows realises he is in love with Norah Linton, but would rather suffer in silence than risk telling her and ruining their friendship or hurting her. Thinking another man is interested in her, and that he himself isn't good enough for her, he leaves Billabong to take himself out of the way and ensure Norah's (supposed) happiness. He's wrong though - she's in love with him too, and by the end of the book they're [[spoiler:engaged]]. ''Literature/ALittleBushMaid''.
* ''Literature/{{Mermaids}}'': When the sea-witch Morva was exiled from Tingle Reef long ago, the merman she loved offered to go with her, but she refused because she knew he couldn't be happy away from his home reef. He later fell in love with someone else and had a family.
* [[TheHero Rentaro Satomi]] in ''Literature/BlackBullet''. He only cares about other people being happy, ''especially'' [[NiceGirl Enju]] [[AllLovingHero Aihara]], [[AntiHero Kisara Tendo]], and [[{{Cloudcuckoolander}} Tina]] [[FriendlySniper Sprout]]. [[spoiler:He tried pulling this off with Kisara in the Fugitive arch, but [[DeconstructedTrope it bites him in the ass]]]].
* Downplayed with Shizuku Kurogane from ''Literature/ChivalryOfAFailedKnight'', who [[BigBrotherAttraction is in love with older her brother, Ikki]], to the point of coming off as a {{Yandere}} at times. However, she prioritizes Ikki's happiness above her own and begrudgingly accepts that he's in love with Stella Vermillion.
* In ''Literature/{{Corsair}}'', [[AllLovingHero Sesaam]] takes in [[RaisedByOrcs Canale]] who is an [[ProfessionalKiller assassin]] assigned to kill him. He protects Canale and loves him dearly, and Canale eventually falls in love with him. However, Canale still feels he has no choice but to kill him, and after being stabbed Sesaam reassures Canale that he doesn't blame him, and tells him how to escape through [[CrazyPrepared the trapdoor under his bed]], and tells him it's okay to move on after his death. 8 years later, Canale returns and finds out Sesaam survived but can [[LoveHurts no longer use his leg]]. He tries to seduce Canale again, but a WrongNameOutburst leads to Canale sobbingly confessing that he found someone else. Sesaam accepts it, and says he stands by his former words. He then still tries to protect him and help him out after this.
* ''Literature/TheFamiliarOfZero'':
** Louise tries to do this [[spoiler:when she finds Saito kissing Princess Henrietta after she confessed her love for him and thought he felt the same way]], it turns out she was mistaken and he deeply regrets his actions [[spoiler:going as far as saying that without Louise by his side his existence is pointless]]; so they get back together.
** Every girl that was in love with Saito does this towards the end of the series [[spoiler:except Louise who's his bride]].
* Mifuyu in ''Literature/MariaWatchesOverUs'' despite her obsession with Sachiko realizes that she is better off with Yumi.

* Viciously subverted with [[spoiler: Petyr Baelish]] in ''Literature/ASongOfIceAndFire''. While he didn't plan on [[spoiler: his beloved, Cat, getting killed, then resurrected as a merciless, grief-stricken zombie bent on revenge]], he didn't seem to much care about her feelings over [[spoiler: the fate of her husband]]. While he'd prefer her to be happy, he mostly just wants ''her''.

* In ''[[Literature/TheHungerGames Catching Fire]]'', Peeta is afraid that Katniss will sacrifice her life to save his; he shows her a picture of her family and Gale, telling her that she has something to live for. The implication is that he assumes she'll eventually marry Gale if she survives. A ''particularly'' [[TearJerker tear-jerking]] example of this trope as Peeta isn't just planning on giving up his feelings for Katniss, he's planning on ''dying'' so she can be with Gale.
* ''Literature/SherlockHolmes'':
** In ''The Sign of Four'', Watson, ever the NiceGuy, works hard to help Mary Morstan gain the fortune that is rightfully hers, even though he knows that having so much money will [[UptownGirl put her even more out of his league]] and prevent him from telling her how he really feels.
** In the backstory to "The Adventure of the Abbey Grange", Captain Croker fell in love with Mary Fraser but "It was all love on my side, and all good comradeship and friendship on hers," and he's pleased that she made a good match to a nobleman. It's not until he learns her husband is a violent alcoholic that he gets involved.
* Creator/AynRand's first ever short story is about a woman who, realizing that her husband is in love with another woman, fakes an affair so that he will divorce her and marry his true beloved. (This looks very much like ValuesDissonance compared to her later belief that self-sacrifice was the root of all evil, and her literary executor went to great lengths to try and demonstrate that [[AlternateCharacterInterpretation the wife was actually pursuing her own self-interest.]])
* In Creator/PoulAnderson's Literature/TimePatrol story "Brave to be a King", Manse, having lost in the LoveTriangle, wrestles down the temptation to obey the Time Patrol rules in the easiest way, which would leave his rival stuck in the past.
* In Creator/EdithWharton's novelette "Bunner Sisters," about two unmarried sisters in 1800s New York City, the eldest sister Ann Eliza rejects a proposal of marriage from Mr. Ramy, a man who had been visiting the sisters regularly for a time, but who she (and everyone else, including many readers) thought was interested in her younger sister Evelina. Ann Eliza's sacrifice was more on her sister's behalf than Mr. Ramy's, however: Ann Eliza felt that Evelina deserved what Ann Eliza thought would turn out to be happiness more than Ann Eliza did.
* ''Literature/ThePillarsOfTheEarth'': Happens with a minor character. When Jack works in Toledo, his employer's daughter Aisa falls in love with him, and her father also wants to marry her to Jack. After he leaves and Aliena arrives, Aisa is the only one who is nice with her and tells her to go after him because she realizes that Aliena loves him.
* In Creator/JohnCWright's ''[[Literature/CountToTheEschaton The Hermetic Millenia]]'', Oenoe recounts how when she was unable to move her beloved to come with her, she consented to let her beloved biochemically induce LoveAtFirstSight in her, at the first person she saw, because her beloved wanted to make her happy that way.
* In Creator/CSLewis's ''Literature/TheFourLoves'', he discusses how this trope is not found in either erotic love or affection, both of which are [[GreenEyedMonster jealous]]. Only ''agape'' can induce either type of love to do it.
* Near the end of Francine Rivers’ ''Literature/RedeemingLove'', this is done by ''both'' halves of the OfficialCouple, due to a misunderstanding: [[spoiler:Angel, thinking Michael would be happier if he could take a wife [[LawOfInverseFertility who is able to give him children]], runs away, unable to bring herself to even say goodbye; Michael, thinking [[LoveMartyr all his attempts to win Angel's heart]] have failed, decides not to go after her and resigns himself to lifelong bachelorhood]]. Luckily, their sister-in-law realizes how catastrophically mistaken they are and concocts a plan to get them back together for good.
* In ''Literature/TheHost2008'', Wanderer [[spoiler:gives up on retaining Melanie as a host for Melanie's sake, effectively trying to commit suicide because she doesn't even want to take over another host (she now sees it as cruel and unfair to the host)... but also largely to give Melanie back to Jared and vice versa, making it a sort of ''double'' "I Want My Beloved to Be Happy".]]
* ''Literature/SecretSanta2007'': When Freddy realizes his crush (and gift recipient) Celia likes Jake, he offers to trade Secret Santas with Jake so Celia will think he's the guy leaving her romantic gifts, feeling that will make her happy.
* ''Literature/TheSilmarillion'': There is the tale of Finwe, Miriel and Indis. Miriel dies in childbirth, and refuses to reincarnate, which leads to Finwe marrying Indis. Because Elves marry for life, this means Miriel can never reincarnate, since it would mean Finwe would have two living wives. Ages later Finwe is killed, and meeting Miriel again tells her all that occurred while she was dead. She then regrets her refusal, and wishes to be reincarnated, and Finwe chooses to stay dead forever so she can do so.
* ''Literature/TheSwordOfSaintFerdinand'' features a love triangle between García de Vargas, his brother Diego, and Elvira de Lara. Both siblings want to marry her, but neither of them would bear seeing his brother unhappy. Diego settles the matter by pointing out that Elvira marrying García will at least make her happy, whereas the three of them will be miserable if she marries him.
* In ''Literature/TheTamuli'', Kalten manages to convince himself that Alean, the woman with whom he's fallen in love, loves his fellow knight [[CluelessChickMagnet Berit]] instead. Sparhawk has to force Kalten to promise not to try and get himself killed in battle to resolve the issue. (Sparhawk then tells Alean what was going on, and she tells Kalten off for being an idiot. It's implied that Kalten and Alean will marry as soon as they get back to Elenia.)
* Meravyn in ''Literature/TheHourBeforeMorning'' not only gives up her husband out of love for him, but also commits murder and is condemned to death so that he can escape persecution.
* ''Literature/WarriorCats'':
** Thrushpelt is in love with Bluestar (Bluefur back then), but she doesn't like him back in that way. When he finds out that Bluestar was pregnant with [[spoiler:Oakheart]]'s kits, what does he do? He offers to pretend to be the kits' father, and he shows great love for them even if he's not their real father.
** Spottedleaf towards Firestar. She sees that Sandstorm is his mate...and it doesn't bother her at all. In fact, she admitted that the relationship between her and Firestar wouldn't have worked out since she was a medicine cat (and medicine cats can't have kits). In fact, when Mapleshade almost kills Sandstorm because she "stole" Firestar from Spottedleaf, the latter of them says that there was nothing left to steal and that Sandstorm made him happy. [[spoiler:She ends up getting killed for this]]. WordOfGod says that Spottedleaf [[spoiler:died again]] so that Firestar wouldn't have to choose between her and Sandstorm when he died.
** Feathertail with Crowfeather. While Crowfeather fell in love again with Leafpool after her death, Feathertail supported their relationship because she didn't want Crowfeather unhappy. This stretched out further when Crowfeather [[spoiler:had kits with Leafpool]] and Feathertail cared about them as if they were her own.
** Feathertail's mother Silverstream was also like this towards Graystripe after he got another mate and kits. When Millie and Briarkit were deathly sick, Silverstream in StarClan viciously protested this, saying that Graystripe couldn't bear any more heartbreak.
** Subverted with Ashfur. He is attracted to Squirrelflight, but while she does care about him as a friend, she ultimately chooses Brambleclaw as her mate. How does Ashfur respond? He tries to manipulate Squirrelflight by repeatedly saying that he loves and then reminding her of Brambleclaw's bad heritage as the son of Tigerstar. After that fails, Ashfur makes countless attempts to "punish" and control Squirrelflight both in life and in death. While still alive, he first to get her father killed and second he tries to ''burn alive'' her three adopted children. Years later in death, Ashfur [[BedTrick possesses the body of Squirrelflight's mate in an an attempt to be with her]], and when she realizes he's not her real mate, he responds by threatening to ''destroy everything'' if she doesn't become his mate.
* In Creator/StephanieBurgis's ''[[Literature/KatIncorrigible A Most Improper Magick]]'', Elissa is willing to sacrifice herself in marriage to Sir Neville to protect Mr. Collingwood. [[MoreHeroThanThou Mr. Collingwood tries to argue her out of it]] -- she [[WrongGenreSavvy reads too many Gothics]], though.
* Dave the Dude in Creator/DamonRunyon's "Romance in the Roaring Forties" may be the sort of guy who will get sored up at a man for taking a second peek at his doll Miss Billy Perry, but when she says she loves Waldo Winchester, he [[spoiler:plans them an elaborate surprise wedding]]. However, it turns out that [[spoiler:Waldo Winchester is already married, and his wife crashes the party, so Dave the Dude gets Miss Billy Perry in the end, but it is the thought that counts, after all.]]
* ''Literature/{{Ladylord}}'' features a non-final, sexual (rather than emotional) version. In the culture in question, it seems to be accepted practice for a woman who would like to sleep with a man but is currently unable to do so (such as because she's already married) to arrange a courtesan for the man instead. The protagonist does this for her own husband, since she feels she must keep herself virginal, but is more angsty about the mental image of it than she had expected to be. It turns out, however, that her husband didn't ever enjoy the courtesan's intended service, and they get together themselves in the end.
* ''Literature/TheInfernalDevices'': In ''The Clockwork Prince'', [[spoiler:Will pulls this for ''both'' Tessa and Jem when they announce their engagement.]]
* Seth in ''Literature/TheExtraordinariesSeries'', about Nick, his best friend who he is in love with. When Nick started dating Owen, Seth said that as long as Nick was happy, he was happy.
* Creator/MercedesLackey’s Beauty & the Beast retelling ''Literature/TheFireRose'' features a double-barreled example in the same chapter when Jason Cameron and Rosalind Hawkins both realize that they have fallen for each other, decide that the other at best regards them as a respected friend, conclude that once Jason is restored to humanity they will be a millstone interfering with the lives that the other has earned and honestly enjoys (Railroad Tycoon and Scholar, respectively), and thus resolve to put on a brave face when they go their separate ways.
* The narrator of ''If You Were A Dinosaur, My Love'' by Rachel Swirsky realizes that, if her fiancé were a dinosaur, he would want to marry another dinosaur. And she would be sad about that, but also happy for him.
* In ''Literature/AlienInASmallTown,'' Paul [[StarfishAliens isn't remotely human,]] and knows that as much as he cares for Indira, he isn't sure it can be called "love" in the human sense, so he steps aside when she wants to marry Tendai. He's tormented by jealousy for years afterward.
* ''Literature/LesMiserables'':
** The book has Eponine, who almost invokes the trope verbatim because she finds Marius sulking alone, and responds gleefully when she can provide him with the whereabouts of Cosette. She then subverts it by expressing, quite sadly, that he is so happy because she told him. Later on, she subverts it even more when she lures Marius away to the barricade.
** Jean Valjean goes to painful lengths to secure Cosette her happiness as well, though this is a non-romantic example; Cosette is his adopted daughter.
* Happens in ''Literature/AlmostLikeBeingInLove'' [[spoiler: Travis, though penniless, travels across the country to find his first love, Craig, only to find Craig apparently HappilyMarried to another man (or close to it). When Craig's relationship seems to fall apart, Travis does everything in his power to save it, so that Craig could be happy.]]

* ''Literature/ReZero'''s Rem devotedly supports protagonist Subaru, holding his happiness as her top priority even though he loves Emilia. Despite given the oppurtunity to run away with him in arc 3 and keep him to herself, she refuses because she knows he's only doing so out of despair and doesn't want to leave the Subaru she fell in love with behind.
* For Shi Ryuuki in ''Literature/TheStoryOfSaiunkoku'', wanting his beloved to be happy means bootstrapping his country's progress toward gender equality ahead about a century, making it possible for women to serve as government officials so that Shuurei can fulfill her lifelong dream of doing just that. Conveniently, this also turns out pretty well for Saiunkoku as a whole.
* It's [[DeconstructedTrope deconstructed]] to some extent in ''Literature/{{Toradora}}'' with the platonic versions that [[spoiler:Taiga and Minori attempt. Each of them are aware of the other's feelings for Ryuuji, and try to hook Ryuuji up with them despite their own feelings for him. Eventually, Minori tires of the situation, admits her feelings for Ryuuji, and demands that Taiga do the same. When Taiga cries that she only wanted Minori to be happy, Minori responds that her happiness is not anyone else's responsibility, and that assuming responsibility for someone else's happiness over one's own is actually quite self-centered and arrogant. This ultimately leads to Ryuuji and Taiga [[RelationshipUpgrade getting together]].]] [[spoiler:Minori also pulls the romantic version with Ryuuji and pushes him to be with Taiga, as she knows that he loves her too]].
* ''Literature/TheMermaidsDaughter'': [[spoiler:Kathleen is transformed into a mermaid, finally breaking the HereditaryCurse and allowing her to live a painless life in the water. Before she swims from Boston to her ancestors' home near Ireland, she tells her girlfriend Harry to write more operas and find another woman to love.]]

* Creator/AgathaChristie used this in quite a few books:
** Probably the straightest example is Jefferson Cope from ''Appointment with Death''. He only asks Nadine Boynton to run away with him because he believes she can't possibly be happy with her current husband. Once the situation changes and Nadine decides to stay, he is willing to go back to being friends.
** Bella Duveen from ''Literature/TheMurderOnTheLinks'' is willing to set her fiancé free so that he can marry the girl next door. [[spoiler: She also falsely confesses to the murder to try to protect him, even after finding out he wants to marry someone else.]]
** This trope was combined with LoveMakesYouEvil in [[spoiler: ''Death on the Nile''. Jacqueline was willing to let her one true love Simon marry her best friend Lynette when she realized that Lynette was in love with Simon and Simon was in love with Lynette's money. When Simon insisted he wanted both Jackie and Lynette's money, Jackie helped him with his plan to [[MurderTheHypotenuse marry and then murder Lynette.]]]]
** This appears to be the case in ''Towards Zero'' with [[spoiler: Neville Strange, who pretends to run away with another woman after his wife Audrey leaves him, so that Audrey can keep all public sympathy in the divorce]]. However, it is subverted when it turns out [[spoiler: Neville only takes the blame for the divorce because his pride won't let him admit to the world that Audrey had left him. He spends the next several years plotting Audrey's murder]].
** In ''The Secret Adversary'', [[Literature/TommyAndTuppence Tommy]] eventually reveals that he would have been perfectly willing to bite his tongue and let Tuppence marry someone else--[[GoldDigger for money]], no less!--simply because he loved her so much that he wanted her to do whatever made her happy.
* In ''Literature/HowlsMovingCastle'', when Miss Angorian, the pretty teacher that Howl was courting, is kidnapped by the Witch of the Waste, Sophie goes to rescue her even though she is herself in love with Howl. [[spoiler:It turns out that Miss Angorian is the Witch of the Waste's fire demon and faked her kidnapping so that Sophie, Howl's true LoveInterest, would fall for it.]]
* ''Literature/ForeverAmber'' has a particularly demented version of this trope. Queen Catherine, depressed at the realization that she likely won't be able to give King Charles II an heir, falls sick and wishes to die, since if she does, Charles can marry Frances Stewart and get the legitimate heir he's always wanted. When she tells this to Charles on her deathbed, he is [[MyGodWhatHaveIDone horrified]] to realize that she's [[DrivenToSuicide driven herself to suicide]] on his part, and begs her to live. He does not, however, give up his extramarital affairs, which were probably what mentally damaged Catherine so badly in the first place.
* In the original ''Literature/TarzanOfTheApes'', Tarzan and Jane are separated (seemingly for good) when Jane chooses to honor her obligations and stay with Clayton. Tarzan by this time has discovered, and has the evidence necessary to prove, that he is the long-lost heir to the late Lord Greystoke, thus the title and wealth Clayton claims are his by right. Rather than using this newfound status to go fight for Jane, he chooses to go back to Africa, reasoning that enriching himself at Clayton's expense won't do anything to sway Jane's sense of honor, only reduce the chances that her marriage to Clayton will be a happy one.
* In ''The Iron Hand of Mars'' Literature/MarcusDidiusFalco discovers that his patrician LoveInterest Helena Justina is being courted by the Emperor's son Titus. Falco knows that she doesn't love Titus, but out of a belated sense of patriotism -- and feeling that he can't stand in the way of her getting such a tremendous social advancement -- urges Helena to accept. Helena calmly responds that she's already turned Titus down.
* In one of the side stories of the SharedUniverse that is the ''Literature/SixteenThirtyTwo'' series, Franz, a downtimer (from the 17th century), tries to refuse a confession of love from Marla, an uptimer (from the future), even though he loves her back, on the grounds that his left hand is crippled. It's a minor injury by uptime sensibilities, but a major deal breaker by 17th century standards - especially for a former musician.
-->'''Franz:''' ''[thrusting his crippled hand at her face]'' Because of this! Because I am crippled! I cannot hope for you or anyone to marry me. Your family would not allow it. I cannot support you. I cannot provide for a family, when all I can do is translate for one person here today, another person there on Thursday, or write two letters for someone next Monday. I cannot give you what you deserve, a husband sound in mind ''and body''. I cannot protect you from the ridicule that people will heap on you for marrying a cripple! I love you more than my life, Marla, and because of that I cannot do this!
* ''I Loved You'', one of Creator/AlexanderPushkin's most famous love poems, ends in this note. The narrator bows out upon realising that his love, for whatever reason, will remain unrequited. Here is the poem in full, translated by R.H. Morrison:
-->"I loved you, and a trace of that love's passion\\
unquenched within my soul may yet remain;\\
but my desire is not in any fashion\\
to sadden you or bring you further pain.\\
I loved in silence, hopelessly, but dearly,\\
now shyly, now with jealousy aflame;\\
I loved you, yes, so fondly, so sincerely --\\
God grant to you another's love the same."

* Viciously subverted with [[spoiler: Petyr Baelish]] in ''Literature/ASongOfIceAndFire''. While he didn't plan on [[spoiler: his beloved, Cat, getting killed, then resurrected as a merciless, grief-stricken zombie hell-bent on revenge]], he didn't seem to much care about her feelings over [[spoiler: the fate of her husband]]. While he'd prefer her to be happy, he mostly just wants ''her''.
* In the ''Literature/SwordOfTruth'' series, [[TheAtoner Nicci]] decides on this, both because her love was already fully in love with someone else before she met him, and because of her shame over [[HeelFaceTurn formerly]] being a villain. This becomes a source of particular anguish for her in the last three books, as several of the other characters begin [[ShipperOnDeck shipping]] them and encouraging her to be with him, leading her to repeatedly tell them that she is the RomanticRunnerUp [[TheAtoner Atoner]], ''not'' the pure-hearted love interest.
-->'''Nicci:''' It is because I love him that I could never betray his heart.
%%* ''Literature/ThePictureOfDorianGray'': [[HoYay Basil to Dorian]].
* In the short story "Antinomy" by Creator/SpiderRobinson, Tom Higgins has spent decades trying to revive his lover Virginia Harding after she fell into a coma. When Virginia does eventually wake up, [[AmnesiacLover she initially doesn't remember him]]. Even worse, she develops an interest in his friend and younger co-worker Bill McLaughin -- an interest that is reciprocated. Tom eventually has an epiphany after he is unable to tell a good joke -- one of the things Virginia always loved about him was his sense of humor. His monomaniacal obsession with her over the years has made him someone far less than the man she once loved. When Virginia starts to recover her memories, Tom pretends not to know her so she can start a relationship with Bill, who is everything Tom was and more.

* Bria Tharen does this to Han Solo in Han’s backstory in one of his trilogies in ''Franchise/StarWarsLegends''. They were in love, but Han wanted to go and join the Imperial Navy. Bria leaves him with a [[DearJohnLetter Dear Han letter]] saying basically this-that she loves him, but wants him to be happy, so she’s letting him follow what he thought was his dream.
* In ''Literature/UnderHeaven'', Shen Tai is shown to still be somewhat besotted with a courtesan he knew while studying for the Civil Service exams, but they had had a conversation before he left on a self imposed mission (that she didn't find out about until years later) about the possibility that she could become the concubine of an important civil servant. When she does, she still ends up thinking about Tai, especially because of that conversation. When he comes back (just before a civil war breaks out, as it happens), he's more concerned with whether or not she has a comfortable life, and whether she's prepared already for any of the unrest that they think is coming in the near future. This doesn't prevent Tai from confessing that he had thought about her too, or stating that it doesn't do her any favors having her know this, since they can't be together.

* ''Literature/ACourtOfThornsAndRoses'': Tamlin and Rhysand are both willing to give Feyre up if it means letting her be safe with her loved ones.
** It takes Tamlin a while, but by the end of the third book he accepts that he and Feyre are over, and brings Rhysand back to life partly for her sake, sincerely telling her to "be happy".
** Rhys knew that Feyre was his mate, but wasn't going to debate her marrying Tamlin because she was happy, and deserved to be happy - though this changed when she called for help over their bond.
* ''Literature/RealmOfTheElderlings'': The Fool does this to Fitz in Robin Hobb's Tawny man trilogy, when Fitz announces that he would choose to go with The Fool rather than going to reclaim his erstwhile lover Molly. But the Fool knows that Fitz would never be able to have a meaningful relationship whit both of them, so he insists that Fitz leave him to go find Molly. Thus paving the way for them to be together while putting Fitz forever out of the Fool's reach.

* The Creator/EECummings poem "[[https://hellopoetry.com/poem/1609/it-may-not-always-be-so-and-i-say/ it may not always be so]]".
* In Gaston Leroux's ''Literature/ThePhantomOfTheOpera'', Erik/The Phantom allows Christine to go off with Raoul and be happy. [[Film/ThePhantomOfTheOpera1925 In the movie]], he becomes a StalkerWithACrush and has to be brutalized.
* This is the whole plot of ''Theatre/CyranoDeBergerac'', and the inspiration of the [[PlayingCyrano imitators of his method]].
* In Creator/LoisMcMasterBujold's novel ''Literature/TheCurseOfChalion'' Cazaril, the protagonist, decides he's not young or rich enough to be a good match for Betriz, who's half his age, and tries to set her up with his friend Palli. She however is having none of it. It's Cazaril she wants, especially if she can persuade him to shave off his beard.

* In Creator/AnneMcCaffrey's ''Literature/TheRowan'', Designated Best Friend Afra Lyon pines away for the title character, only to wait too long and watch MartyStu Jeff Raven swoop in and claim her. (Though, being a powerful telepath, The Rowan knew that nearly all along, but doesn't want to ruin their friendship, admitting that she would've turned to Afra eventually.) Made creepier by the fact that Afra's loyalty is "rewarded" by hooking up with The Rowan and Jeff's ''youngest daughter, Damia''.
* This situation develops in ''Literature/DragonridersOfPern'''s ''Harper Hall Trilogy'': Masterharper Robinton starts to get intimate with prized pupil Menolly, despite Menolly being involved with his other prized pupil, Sebell. He immediately nips it in the bud, citing their ages, positions, and her other attachment. This is despite the fact that, as Menolly states, "[She] loved [him] first." And later it's shown that Sebell not only knew all about Menolly's feelings but understood and accepted them.
* In the semi-historical romance novel ''Literature/TheLadyRoyal'' by Molly Costain Haycraft, Princess Isabel of England (daughter of [[UsefulNotes/TheHouseOfPlantagenet Edward III]]) is engaged to marry Bernard d'Albret, a young man with whom she is deeply smitten. However, she learns that Bernard has a strong religious vocation and longs to become a monk, against the wishes of his tyrannical mother. Isabel breaks off the engagement in such a way that it allows him to enter the monastery under the pretense of a broken heart. [[spoiler:When he later dies, he tells his brother the truth on his deathbed, and blesses the princess for setting him free.]]
* ''Literature/PrideAndPrejudice'':
** Elizabeth deconstructs this as she realizes that her calm response to Mr. Wickham courting Miss King means that, while she cares about him, she was never ''in love'' with him. Were she in love with him, she would have nothing but contempt for him for choosing another girl.
** Played straight by the considerable lengths Mr. Darcy goes to save Lydia Bennet from her own idiocy before she and the rest of her family are DefiledForever. He's motivated in part by a sense of responsibility in not having spoken up about Mr. Wickham's true character before, but the rest of his motive is to protect Elizabeth and make her happy. Then he swears Lydia and the Gardiners to secrecy regarding his involvement, and when Elizabeth finds out anyway and tries to thank him, he refuses to accept her thanks on the rest of her family's behalf: "Much as I respect them, I believe I thought only of ''you''."
* In ''Literature/SenseAndSensibility'', Elinor is the master of this trope. [[spoiler: Her love interest is engaged to someone else. That [[ClingyJealousGirl someone else]] informs her of it in confidence (while harboring deep -- and correct -- suspicions that Elinor is in love with him too, and so warns her off and keeps tormenting her in subtle ways for the greater part of the book).]] Elinor not only keeps the secret and endures the indirect attacks with aplomb, but there's a scene where she actually ''leaves them together on purpose so that they can have private time''. It's especially painful because she knows perfectly well that her beloved will ''not'' be happy in this situation, but she also knows that societal expectations mean that he has to go through with what he intends.
* One of the more classic examples occurs at the end of Creator/CharlesDickens's ''Literature/ATaleOfTwoCities'' when Sydney Carton, knowing his beloved Lucie will never love him as she loves Darnay [[spoiler:uses his near identical likeness to Darnay to take his place on death row, allowing Lucie and Darnay to escape together while he is executed in Darnay's place.]]
* Troy, in the Creator/VCAndrews ''[[Literature/TheCasteelSeries Casteel]]'' series, after finding out that he and Heaven (the protagonist) are uncle-and-niece (oh those wacky V. C. Andrews incestuous relationships), cuts off contact with her for her own good, [[spoiler:then inadvertently fakes his own death, then leaves Heaven alone for a while, believing he's dead, so she can date and marry Logan, then after a few years they get together for a last fling, during which Heaven's daughter is conceived]] and Heaven returns to live the rest of her life with Logan.

%%* In ''Literature/TheTwilightSaga'', Edward leaves Bella for these reasons.

* In the last two books in the ''Literature/HarryPotter'' series, Remus Lupin does this regarding Tonks. Subverted in that he's the only person who ever thinks it's necessary, because Tonks wants to be with him and most of the people they know want them to be together too. Also, Lupin doesn't act the way he does because he thinks Tonks should be with a specific other person - he just thinks she deserves better than himself.
* In ''Literature/{{Beastly}}'', Kyle allows Lindy to go rescue her sick father despite it possibly meaning losing his chance to turn human forever. In fact, he nearly releases her several times since he finds it very hard to believe that anyone can love a monster.
* ''Literature/BridgeOfBirds'': Henpecked Ho sets his own concubine up with her (mutual) crush, because he loves her so much he doesn't want her to be stuck with an ugly old "worm" like him.

** Other times women ''think'' Bertie is doing this for them, when the truth is that the idea of marrying them horrifies him. He goes to great lengths to get them back together with their other love interests, something they see as evidence of his pure and self-sacrificing nature rather than him desperately trying to get out of their engagement. Not that he isn't also pleased to ensure the happiness of people who inexplicably ''want'' to marry people like [[LoveFreak Madeline Basset]].

* ''Literature/TheSwordOfSaintFerdinand'' features a love triangle between García de Vargas, his brother Diego, and Elvira de Lara. Both siblings want to marry her, but neither of them would bear seeing his happy unhappy. Diego settles the matter by pointing out that Elvira marrying García will at least make her happy, whereas the three of them will be miserable if she marries him.

* In Creator/AnneMcCaffrey's ''Literature/TheRowan'', Designated Best Friend Afra Lyon pines away for the title character, only to wait too long and watch MartyStu Jeff Raven swoop in and claim her. (Though, being a powerful telepath, The Rowan knew that nearly all along, but doesn't want to ruin their friendship, admitting that she would've turned to Afra eventually.) Made creepier by the fact that Afra's loyalty is "rewarded" by hooking up with The Rowan and Jeff's ''youngest daughter, Damia''. (Does anyone know if Creator/StephenieMeyer has ever read [=McCaffrey=]?)

** Viciously subverted with Ashfur. He is attracted to Squirrelflight, but while she does care about him as a friend, she ultimately chooses Brambleclaw as her mate. How does Ashfur respond? He tries to manipulate Squirrelflight by repeatedly saying that he loves and then reminding her of Brambleclaw's bad heritage as the son of Tigerstar. After that fails, Ashfur makes countless attempts to "punish" and control Squirrelflight both in life and in death. While still alive, he first to get her father killed and second he tries to ''burn alive'' her three adopted children. Years later in death, Ashfur [[BedTrick possesses the body of Squirrelflight's mate in an an attempt to be with her]], and when she realizes he's not her real mate, he responds by threatening to ''destroy everything'' if she doesn't become his mate.

* In Creator/JRRTolkien's ''Legendarium'', there is the tale of Finwe, Miriel and Indis. Miriel dies in childbirth, and refuses to reincarnate, which leads to Finwe marrying Indis. Because Elves marry for life, this means Miriel can never reincarnate, since it would mean Finwe would have two living wives. Ages later Finwe is killed, and meeting Miriel again tells her all that occurred while she was dead. She then regrets her refusal, and wishes to be reincarnated, and Finwe chooses to stay dead forever so she can do so.
* In ''[[Literature/TheInfernalDevices The Clockwork Prince]]'', [[spoiler:Will pulls this for ''both'' Tessa and Jem when they announce their engagement.]]

* In the ''Literature/{{Twilight}}'' series, Edward leaves Bella for these reasons.

* The Fool does this to Fitz in Robin Hobb's Tawny man trilogy, when Fitz announces that he would choose to go with The Fool rather than going to reclaim his erstwhile lover Molly. But the Fool knows that Fitz would never be able to have a meaningful relationship whit both of them, so he insists that Fitz leave him to go find Molly. Thus paving the way for them to be together while putting Fitz forever out of the Fool's reach.

* ''Literature/TheBrotherhoodOfTheConch'': In ''The Mirror of Fire and Dreaming'', Nisha time travels to the Moghul era, where she falls in love with the shahzada Mahabet. At first she agrees to stay in the past to marry him, but she eventually realizes that she could never be happy with life as his begum. With his encouragement, she leaves him and returns with her friends to her time. Abhaydatta says that his act of selfishness means that he has learned what love really is.