Here's a courtesy link to the Pareto Principle.
Don't worry, you don't have to read that, although it might help. It's a pretty damn useful concept.
Anyway, there's a common perception out there that All Women Are Prudes
. I have an idea as to why this notion's persisted so strongly in the face of a torrent of contradictory evidence in the past 50 years or so.
Heterosexual attraction for males:
Is such that about 80% of women are potentially sexually appealing. Maybe a great deal of them in the lukewarm sense of "I wouldn't say no if she asked" or "I wouldn't kick her out of bed for eating crackers" but frankly, the threshold for sexual attraction is set pretty low.
Heterosexual attraction for females:
Is the other way round, in that only 20% of men are potentially sexually appealing. The attraction threshold is way higher, but there's absolutely nothing lukewarm about how women feel sexually towards men in that top 20%.
As a result of this difference, men tend to live in one of two worlds:
The bottom 80%:
Live in a world where women make no goddamn sense so far as sex is concerned. Women seem to paradoxically have no sexuality and yet routinely engage in flamboyant sexual displays. These men often don't realise that they fly underneath most women's sexual radar. If your life is like this, the sad truth is that you're not sexy enough. You get nothing, you lose! Good day, sir!
The top 20%:
Live in a world where All Women Are Lustful
and in fierce competition for their affections, no matter what sort of strings may be attached. There's pretty much no limit to what women will do for them, competition is fierce and they will
have an Unwanted Harem
and all the drama that goes along with it. The problem for these men isn't trying to satisfy their own sexual appetite, the problem is doing so with the least amount of danger to himself.