Pfff, that'd never happen on TV Tropes.
And let us pray that come it may (As come it will for a' that)I've seen that on the internet a lot, here included, but I don't really see it in real life...
On here, at least, it seems the perception is you can vent about just about anything without social repercussions unless it ends up on the webshow that shall not be named...
I'm desensitized. And have accepted that everyone is pretty weird.
Anyway, how is your sex life?
And let us pray that come it may (As come it will for a' that)On the Internet (and on here) you are behind a screen. You are anonymous. You can be as shameless as you damn well please, because no-one knows you.
ಠ_ಠIt's not only on the internet. I've seen You Tube videos of this guy harassing girls on the street about his fetish. The videos don't actually show him doing it but in the comments he tells people that he does.
To be honest, I think that their problems run just a wee bit deeper than "shamelessness".
And let us pray that come it may (As come it will for a' that)O.o What's so fuckin' great about shame? Discretion is one thing, and so is consideration for the comfort of others, but actually feeling bad about how you are? That's so unproductive.
A True Lady's Quest - A Jojo is You!Some people are bad and should feel bad.
'All he needs is for somebody to throw handgrenades at him for the rest of his life...'Yeah, I'd feel ashamed if I had to describe my sex life in detail here or something like that. XDD
Shame is pretty important. It prevents us from being the laughing stock of everyone! Yaaaaay.
edited 8th Aug '12 3:07:20 AM by kay4today
Anonymous and anonymous; the people here that you interact with will know about it. I would be just as embarrassed about talking about such matters here, where I interact with people on a daily basis, as I would be in meatspace.
Join us in our quest to play all RPG video games! Moving on to disc 2 of Grandia!I've got some weird shit in my closet, but abuse is where I draw the line. I'm all for shocking friends with disgusting comments or pictures, but going up to a random stranger and telling them what you like having done to you is too fucking much.
I hate to double-standard here, but especially when guys do it to women.
Come sail your ships around me, and burn your bridges down.I sure hope the male equivalent of straw Feminists won't go nuts on you. xDD
But I do hope you realize there isn't exactly a difference between a guy or a woman doing that sort of thing..
edited 8th Aug '12 4:22:08 AM by kay4today
I know there isn't. Women doing it to try and provoke men into getting angry, just so they make the guy look bad, pisses me off the absolute most.
Come sail your ships around me, and burn your bridges down.As some already said, it's anonymity. But I think it's also some degree of self-importance, since these people think that anybody actually cares about their fetishes.
I wouldn't do that, though, and not just because I don't have any.
People aren't as awful as the internet makes them out to be.So, guys telling women what they like having done to them disgusts you even more because it's just the way you feel?
That's actually the only acceptable form of Double Standard to me. Some guys, for example, just can't hit a woman. Not exactly because hitting women is worse than hitting men but just because it's the way they feel. It's not like they can do anything against the way they feel about it.
Well, it depends on how disgusting the act in itself is (eg: ketchup and bacon bits enema). Though a guy straight-up asking for sex is pretty nasty.
But when they actively aim to creep out random people, men and women, minding their own business, that's just awful.
Come sail your ships around me, and burn your bridges down.In my experience people actively aim to be controversial, like, they want to construct a persona for themselves that is unbound by conventional rules or morality so that they can make people uncomfortable or laugh at them for being prudes. It's their way of sticking it to The Man, so to speak. Not in a malicious sort of way, but it makes them visible and visibility = popularity on the internet. I remain unconvinced that some of these people even have these fetishes in real life. I meant no disrespect, in case I offended anybody by suggesting that they were liars; I didn't have anyone specifically in mind.
In my younger days, it's what I would have done.
edited 8th Aug '12 5:22:52 AM by HouraiRabbit
Wise Papa Smurf, corrupted by his own power. CAN NO LEADER GO UNTAINTED?!
Maybe being controversial is there fetish.
Everything is Possible. But somethings are more Probable than others.To be kind of serious about the original question, and not limiting it to fetishes, 'Shame' results from feeling that someone whose opinion matters to you disapproves of what you have just said or done, and therefore, by extension, disapproves of you. The more deeply that person's opinion matters to you, the more strongly they can cause you to feel shame.
Now, the key part of that definition of "shame" is "Someone whose opinion matters to you disapproves." Let me repeat that: Someone whose opinion matters to you disapproves.
The key to shamelessness in front of someone is to find a way to make what they think of you not matter to you.
It may be that you know you'll never see/talk to/contact them again, and therefore you won't know or care what they think of you (That's what underlays the effectiveness of the "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" ad campaign — there's no need to be ashamed of what you did on vacation, because you'll never know about whatever disapproval your actions may have been met with.)
The other effective way is to separate "disapproval of what you did/said" from "disapproval of you". That's difficult.
...if you don’t love you’re dead, and if you do, they’ll kill you for it.Generally, though, I find that the person whose opinion matters to me who can always see what I'm doing is me
Be not afraid...Yes, but you'd be surprised how few people you will meet that are actually like that, especially at the secondary education level. When I was younger, I was picked on for my eccentricities and I always had people who would try to cheer me up by saying that I should be like them and not care about what other people think, when in reality they did care, it's just that their foibles were not nearly as controversial. I could stand around all day talking about how I only answer to myself but I still get a little teary-eyed when my parents talk about how disappointed they are that I didn't become a hotshot Lawyer Doctor-type Super Asian. In short, I think people like you are a rare breed and that everyone has some other in their lives whose opinion they value, even if it's just a friend. Even I, a loner, had a non-zero circle of friends.
Wise Papa Smurf, corrupted by his own power. CAN NO LEADER GO UNTAINTED?!Oh.. no, I don't mean that I don't care what other people think. I do, probably too much
What I meant is, I'm not going to stop caring about my own opinion of myself. So effectively I can't be 'shameless', because there's always going to be somebody around for me to be ashamed that they saw me like that. I.e, me, or maybe God.
Actually, I'd probably classify 'being disappointed with youself' as being ashamed, and 'being upset that other people think badly of you' as something more like embarrassment or humiliation.
edited 13th Aug '12 3:58:05 AM by LoniJay
Be not afraid...x5 Really, the internet is largely just a lot of people hiding behind aliases trying to out-snowflake each other, having forgotten that 'unique' does not automatically mean 'special' or 'important'.
It reminds me of primary school, but with more cats and a lot more pervs.
edited 13th Aug '12 6:48:55 AM by InverurieJones
'All he needs is for somebody to throw handgrenades at him for the rest of his life...'
Seriously. I've seen some people tell others about their weirdest fetishes and hobbies like it's not big deal.
I wish I had this ability to not give a fuck.