Pining After Protagonist's Parent

There's just something about heroes' mothers: They seems to be Dude Magnets. This is doubly true if they're a Missing Mom or Posthumous Character now.

This trope is about someone who loved the protagonist's mother once—often an Unlucky Childhood Friend who knew her as a child—but who didn't wind up with her. Maybe All Love Is Unrequited. Maybe she did have feeling for him once, but it just didn't work out. Either way, she moved on, and went on meet the protagonist's father and have the protagonist. He... didn't. Because of the nature of unrequited love, it's often quite long-lasting. This nicely sets up a scenario for Unbalanced by Rival's Kid, or even Love Father, Love Son.

Why? Protagonists' mothers are generally portrayed in a positive way, especially if they're dead by the time the story starts. As thus, they're usually pretty lovable.

This is useful in a narrative sense, as not only does it lend characterization and backstory to both the mother and the person in question, but it also affects the way they treat her child, the protagonist. Nicer ones or those whose relationship with the mother ended amicably will be kinder to the kid. More mean-spirited examples may take it out on the child. Additionally, if the mother's suitor is a rather ambiguous character—which they not uncommonly are—love for a good woman can often be a humanizing trait for them.

This trope can be fulfilled by a father's suitor as well, but there is a definite slant toward it being mothers. Thus a father example is a Gender-Inverted Trope.


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     Comic Books 
  • Nightwing (Rebirth): Nightwing found himself facing a villain who was in love with his mother, Mary. She was the only circus person who treated him with kindness when he was determined to have Leprosy.

  • Chronicles of the Kencyrath: Heroine Jame's father Ganth is a Woobie, Destroyer of Worlds by the time we meet him, but as the story goes it, it's revealed that he Used to Be a Sweet Kid. Back then, he and Trishien had a thing for each other. It didn't work out: First there was a Parental Marriage Veto, and then Ganth fell in Love at First Sight with the woman who would later be Jame's mother, and Trishien couldn't hold a flame to her. Trishien never really stops loving him though.
    Trishien: [W]hen we were both young, I was fond of your father and he of me. Under other circumstances, you might have been our son.
  • In Harry Potter, the titular Harry's mother is Lily Evans. Severus Snape and her were friends when they were young, before they came to Hogwarts. He was rather in love with her. At Hogwarts, he fell in with the wrong crowd, and their friendship eventually disintegrated. Lily went on to marry James and have Harry. Snape went right on loving her.
  • In Kushiel's Legacy Everyone Is Bi, providing us with a Gender Inverted example. Delaunay is determined to help and protect Ysandre (a hero, though not the protagonist) because Ysandre's late father Rolande was the great love of Delaunay's life. Unlike some examples of this trope, Delaunay and Rolande actually were a couple, and though Rolande also had to marry a woman—that woman being Isabel, Ysandre's mother—they were still lovers at the time of Rolande's tragically early death.
  • A Series of Unfortunate Events: The mysterious narrator Lemony Snicket holds a torch for a woman named Beatrice, who is revealed to be the mother of protagonists Violet, Klaus, and Sunny.
  • The Stark children are the closest thing A Song of Ice and Fire has to heroes, and their mother is Catelyn Tully. Her Unlucky Childhood Friend Petyr Baelish loved Catelyn since they were children, and he never grows out of it. It's part of why he schemes against their father Ned, and why he's so fixated on oldest daughter Sansa, who greatly resembles Catelyn.
  • Biff is the main character in Lamb: The Gospel According to Biff, Christ's Childhood Pal, but the true protagonist is his best friend Yeshua, (usually called Josh in the book, and more commonly known by a different name today) and as a youngster Biff is totally smitten with his best friend's mom. Even her Cloud Cuckoolander ways are charming to him.

     Live Action TV  
  • Grey's Anatomy: Meredith Grey starts working at Seattle Grace hospital, her mother's (Ellis Grey) former hospital, and is introduced to Chief of Surgery Richard Webber, who was in love with her mother back when they were residents themselves. Flash forward several seasons and Maggie Pierce starts work at the hospital—unknown to everyone, she's the daughter of Richard and Ellis.
  • On Smallville it's never a secret that antagonist, Lionel Luther, is attracted to Martha Kent and would love nothing more than to steal her away from her husband, Jonathan. It's made even more obvious in the season 4 episode where Lionel and Clark switch bodies. Lionel-as-Clark hugs Martha and his heat ray vision activates. In the season 2 episode where Clark developed heat ray vision, we saw him struggle to learn to control this particular power that was inconveniently triggered in response to Clark being exposed to something he finds sexually arousing.
    • Early episodes also had Nell visibly pining for Jonathan, while being coldly polite to Martha. This was phased out, and eventually so was Nell.

     Video Game  

  • Gunnerkrigg Court:
    • Reynard loved Antimony's mother Surma, and in fact mistook Antimony for her mother when they first met. This love is reflected in his treatment towards Antimony — despite being The Trickster archetype, he is somewhat affectionate and even helpful towards her, eventually caring about her as her own person.
    • Sir James Eglamore also dated Surma when they were younger, and never quite understood why she chose Anthony over him. He's easily unbalanced whenever he sees Antimony.

     Western Animation  
  • Steven Universe: Pearl was deeply in love with Steven's mother, Rose Quartz. Rose ended up with Greg Universe and had a child with him. Pearl loves Steven like a son, but remembering her can be awkward for Pearl, as shown in "Rose's Scabbard." It's why she doesn't think highly of Greg as well.