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The initial OP posted below covers it well enough: the premise of this thread is that men's issues exist. Don't bother posting if you don't believe there is such a thing.
Here's hoping this isn't considered too redundant. I've noticed that our existing threads about sexism tend to get bogged down in Oppression Olympics or else wildly derailed, so I thought I'd make a thread specifically to talk about discrimination issues that disproportionately affect men.
No Oppression Olympics here, okay? No saying "But that's not important because women suffer X which is worse!" And no discussing these issues purely in terms of how much better women have it. Okay? If the discussion cannot meaningfully proceed without making a comparison to male and female treatment, that's fine, but on the whole I want this thread to be about how men are harmed by society and how we can fix it. Issues like:
- The male-only draft (in countries that have one)
- Circumcision
- Cavalier attitudes toward men's pain and sickness, AKA "Walk it off!"
- The Success Myth, which defines a man's desirability by his material success. Also The Myth of Men Not Being Hot, which denies that men can be sexually attractive as male beings.
- Sexual abuse of men.
- Family law.
- General attitudes that men are dangerous or untrustworthy.
I could go on making the list, but I think you get the idea.
Despite what you might have heard about feminists not caring about men, it's not true. I care about men. Patriarchy sucks for them as much as it sucks for women, in a lot of ways. So I'm putting my keyboard where my mouth is and making a thread for us to all care about men.
Also? If you're male and think of something as a men's issue, by golly that makes it a men's issue fit for inclusion in this thread. I might disagree with you as to the solution, but as a woman I'm not going to tell you you have no right to be concerned about it. No "womansplaining" here.
Edited by nombretomado on Dec 15th 2019 at 5:19:34 AM
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I still find it very interesting how some of the most hostile comments on youtube against predators who happen to be female come from women themselves, particularly women with "feminist" or "egalitarian" views.
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I’m using the quotes because the terminology might be different but the idea is the same.
Edited by SkyCat32 on Apr 11th 2024 at 12:21:48 PM
Rawr.
Oh, bother.
Why the scare quotes?
And is it really surprising that women who care about equal rights think female rapists are bad?
Disgusted, but not surprised
Planeswalker
Rape is vile no matter the gender of the offender. Rape in particular is a crime very often perpetrated against women. It makes sense women would have very strong feelings on the matter.
Edited by PhiSat on Apr 11th 2024 at 10:09:53 AM
Oissu!
The Draftsman of Doom
A procrastination in of itself
Yeah I know I’ve seen a male manager take sexual harassment of male staff much less seriously than the female supervisor did.
There kind of has to be a lot of men who are supportive of sexism that harms men, otherwise such stuff wouldn’t be legal in the countries where men hold the majority of legislative power (which I think is all but 1 country last I checked). The laws in the UK that mean a women forcibly having sex with a man doesn’t count as rape (it’s a ‘separate but equal’ crime by a different name) were written and passed by men, not women.
That’s the big hurdle the men’s issues movement faces right now, most men aren’t awake to the discrimination and harm they face for being men. I suspect that the early feminist movement faced similar issues and that feminism in some countries still does.
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A Self-inflicted Disaster
My theory on why in some countries, a man getting raped is not legally classified as rape, is that in those countries, rape is a crime against the property of a woman's male head of household.
It's hard to take a lot of men's issues activists seriously when a lot of them:
- Don't think of the issues men face in the framework of universal human rights
- Don't realize that a lot of the issues aren't created by women.
Edited by minseok42 on Apr 11th 2024 at 11:31:45 AM
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A procrastination in of itself
The U.K. law does recognise that a man can be raped, but only by another man.
Or to be specific, the perpetrator of a non-consensual sexual attack must use their penis as part of that attack for it to count as rape under U.K. law. I think one women has actually been convicted as part of a criminal enterprise case (where all members of a group crime are charged for all acts committed by the members of the enterprise) where a male member of the criminal enterprise raped a man.
This also means that a women cannot be charged with rape for non-consensual sex with another women.
I also think what you’ve stated about men’s issues activists sounds like your confusing them with MR As, which are a totally different group of people.
Edited by Silasw on Apr 11th 2024 at 8:49:00 PM
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Anka Aquila
I think it's part of an issue of the cultural inertia on how men are seen in general.
One of the underlying reasonings for why people believe that men can't be sexually assaulted is because men are seen as promiscuous in general (itself one of the Jerk Justifications of times past) and because there's still the reticence to accept the idea that men can be in a position of weakness.
Edited by raziel365 on Apr 11th 2024 at 2:01:26 AM
Instead of focusing on relatives that divide us, maybe we should try to find the absolutes that tie us.
Broadly speaking, society subconsciously views sex as something men do to women. This has far reaching effects
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Pretty much, also the idea of "being force to sex" is kinda a sorta comon fantasy many have and since rape have being told as male-on-female crime kinda create this perception all woman are vulnerable and all men are tough. Even when most female rapist not surprising go after teens.
Anka Aquila
And to that we also have to add the double standard in age disparity, in which a younger man/teenager being desired by an older female is seen as a mark of pride instead of being seen as creepy.
Instead of focusing on relatives that divide us, maybe we should try to find the absolutes that tie us.
I wonder if part of this double standard is because many standards for sexual behaviour originally evolved to guarantee a kind of patriarchal/parental control on the sexuality of women and only later were lack-of-endangerment and consent formulated as the major requirements for acceptable sexual behaviour. Certainly the formulation of US sex-with-children laws I've seen points to such an origin.
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