History Main / HonorThyAbuser

* ''WesternAnimation/RickAndMorty:'' Bird Person advises Morty to keep indulging Rick's sociopathic behavior because he suffers from serious depression and most of his worst behaviors stem from his self-loathing rather than malice or apathy towards others.
* ''WesternAnimation/HeyArnold:'' In the Thanksgiving special, Helga is painted as an ungrateful brat for not being thankful for anything. The episode ends with her learning to be thankful for her family, even though throughout the series, Bob ignores Helga and puts Olga on a pedestal and Miriam is a G-Rated alcoholic that often neglects her.

* ''Manga/DetectiveConan'': Heizo Hattori's actions during the Tiger Scroll Murder Case are this. When Heiji gets a little too careless during the investigation, he punches and belittles him. It is then later revealed that it was all a BatmanGambit to enrage Heiji enough to act as bait for the culprit, which could have very well killed him if there were a SpannerInTheWorks. His actions are in no way considered reprehensible by the cast, and even his underlings in the Osaka Police Department considered it an act of ToughLove.

* ''Heavily'' [[DefiedTrope defied]] in the ''LetsPlay/DreamSMP''. After Tommy finally gets the upper hand on Dream, the man who exiled him from his home, trapped him alone on a deserted beach, physically and psychologically abused him for weeks, and [[ForcedToWatch nearly murdered his best friend in front of him]], Dream tells Tommy that he ''knows'' he won't kill him, since they're such "[[StockholmSyndrome good friends]]". Tommy is having absolutely ''none'' of this, and forces Dream to hand over all of his gear ([[IronicEcho using the same line Dream would use when forcing Tommy to give up his armor and tools every day during exile]]), backs him into a corner, and proceeds to take ''two'' of his three lives, and would have [[KilledOffForReal killed him off for real]] if Dream hadn't told him about his ability to bring people back from the dead.
-->'''Tommy:''' Dream, you have caused me nothing but pain. And now... ''[[PreMortemOneLiner Now it's your turn]].''

* ''Heavily'' [[DefiedTrope defied]] in the ''LetsPlay/DreamSMP''. After Tommy finally gets the upper hand on Dream, the man who exiled him from his home, trapped him alone on a deserted beach, physically and psychologically abused him for weeks, and [[ForcedToWatch nearly murdered his best friend in front of him]], Dream tells Tommy that he ''knows'' he won't kill him, since they're such good friends. Tommy is having absolutely ''none'' of this, and forces Dream to hand over all of his gear ([[IronicEcho using the same line Dream would use when forcing Tommy to give up his armor and tools every day during exile]]), backs him into a corner, and proceeds to take ''two'' of his three lives, and would have [[KilledOffForReal killed him off for real]] if Dream hadn't told him about his ability to bring people back from the dead.

* ''WesternAnimation/RickAndMorty:'' Bird Person advises Morty to keep indulging Rick's sociopathic behavior because he suffers from serious depression.

* ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyX'': Tidus harbors resentment towards Jecht because he often verbally abused him (in particular, always calling him a "[[CatchphraseInsult crybaby]]"). However, the game later reveals that it was all a [[spoiler: BatmanGambit to give Tidus the motivation to kill him as Sin]].

Compare TroubledAbuser, InformedWrongness, and TheComplainerIsAlwaysWrong.

Sometimes, abusers or bullies are depicted as the worst kind of scum. Usually, their victim is justified in their dislike for them. However, there are media in which the victim is portrayed as being wrong for their resentment by the creator and/or called out for it for some reason by another character; eventually, the victim may learn to forgive and respect the victimizer.

Sometimes, abusers or bullies are depicted as the worst kind of scum. Usually, their victim is justified in their dislike for them. However, there are times when the victim not only is wrong for their resentment, but they eventually learn to forgive and respect them.

* ''Series/{{CSINY}}'': In season 9, it is revealed that Adam's father, Charles, had been verbally and physically to Adam, his brother and their mother; that Adam's brother had left their home (in Arizona) because of it; and, later, Adam had threatened to kill Charles if he ever hurt his mother again. Now grown & living in NYC, Adam has moved Charles, who is suffering from Alzheimer's, to a nearby facility so he can keep an eye on him. In the course of his visits, Adam learns thru Charles reverting to his own childhood that he and *his* brother had been abused by their father as well. When Mac asks Adam why he visits the man, Adam answers, "Because I'm his son," and explains that he feels no emotion towards his father and is concerned by that. Choked up and on the verge of tears he says, "You're supposed to honor your parents. What does that say about me as a person?" Mac tenderly replies, "Looks like you're feeling something now."

* ''Manga/FoodWars'': Azami Nakiri submitted his daughter Erina to a TrainingFromHell to refine her God Tongue, which including verbally and physically abusing her, as well as isolating her from everyone else so she would have no friends or people to rely on. However, at the conclusion of the Central arc, upon seeing the reasons for his actions, Erina quietly thanks her father for everything he did for her sake and she apparently doesn't hold grudges against him.

** After which, [[spoiler: God brings down the spirit of Bob's father so they could have a potential heart-to-heart, which [[RealMenHateAffection they only manage to do by relating it to their favorite Hockey team]]]].

* ''WesternAnimation/FamilyGuy'': "Seahorse Seashell Party" has Meg give her family a big ReasonYouSuckSpeech after one act of abuse too many. This leads to them going at each other's throats. Meg learns that her abuse was the only thing keeping her family from falling apart, so she decides to continue putting up with them.

* ''Manga/ShokugekiNoSoma'': Azami Nakiri submitted his daughter Erina to a TrainingFromHell to refine her God Tongue, which including verbally and physically abusing her, as well as isolating her from everyone else so she would have no friends or people to rely on. However, at the conclusion of the Central arc, upon seeing the reasons for his actions, Erina quietly thanks her father for everything he did for her sake and she apparently doesn't hold grudges against him.

A sub-page of FamilyUnfriendlyAesop. Compare TroubledAbuser, InformedWrongness, and TheComplainerIsAlwaysWrong.

* In ''Fanfic/NewHopeUniversityMajorInMurder'', Ashley openly recognizes that her father was abusive toward her, and even calls him a "fucker" and an "outright psychopath," but says he treated her that way because he saw her potential and believes it made her better than her classmates. Saya, who had a poor relationship with her own father, is flabbergasted by this attitude.

* ''Manga/MyHeroAcademia:'' Endeavor's redemption arc plays with this. On the one hand, Fuyumi accepts Endeavor's redemption and just wants the Todoroki family to be whole again, but Natsuo isn't as quick to forgive him and gives him a ReasonYouSuckSpeech. Shouto, who arguably suffered the most by his hands, takes the neutral ground. He doesn't quite forgive him for what he had done, but he acknowledges that he's trying to improve himself. In the end, Endeavor [[spoiler:says that it's fine for his children to not forgive him, and arranges for them to live in a separate house, both for their safety and because he acknowledges that it would be best for him to remove himself from the picture]].

* ''Manga/AssassinationClassroom'' reveals that Nagisa's mother was horribly abusive towards him. However, their subplot ends with Nagisa forgiving her and her being a KarmaHoudini.

* In ''Fanfic/NewHopeUniversityMajorInMurder'', Ashley openly recognizes that her father was abusive toward her, and even calls him a "fucker" and an "outright psychopath," but says he treated her that way because he saw her potential and believes it made her better than her classmates. [[TheProtagonist Saya]], who had a poor relationship with her own father, is flabbergasted by this attitude.