Zerukin on Jan 5th 2019 at 8:58:20 AM
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Zerukin on Jan 31st 2019 at 7:52:26 AM
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Parents often claim they know everything about their child, and they will do what they believe their child would like. However, there are moments when what they do for their child is not something their child is really into.
The child will quiz them on themselves and reveal that their parent doesn't know them as well as they claim. Finding this out will greatly offend the child knowing that their own parents don't know them despite having raised them.
When this happens, the parent will likely be in the dilemma of having to spend some time with their kid in order to actually know them. This can prove difficult if the child doesn't want anything to do with their parent anymore. If successful, the parent and child will develop a true bond and agree to spend more time together.
In the worst case scenario though, the parent will just shrug the fact off and continue to treat their child the same way they always do while never bothering to learn anything about them.
In some cases, the details that the parents believe actually were relevant to the child in question. However, the child has grown out of those bits, which requires the parents into having to get to know their child all over again just to find out their new interests.
Likely to be a result from Parental Neglect. May overlap with Amazingly Embarrassing Parents. Supertrope to Father, I Don't Want to Fight. Compare The Unfavorite, which may cause this. Contrast Parents Know Their Children. Not to be confused with Luke, You Are My Father, where parents meet somebody whom they find out is their child. Related to "Billy Elliot" Plot, where the parent may know of what their child is into while refused to accept it and demanding the child to be how they prefer.
- Dragon Ball: Son Goku doesn't realize until it is too late that his son Gohan is a reluctant fighter who doesn't enjoy fighting like he does. Since then, Goku never expects him to be a fighter anymore, especially when he grows up to be a scholar like Chi-Chi intended him to be.
- Robin: Tim's father Jack does not know his son's hobbies or interests and often just assumes Tim likes the things Jack's ideal son would like. For example his father thinks Tim likes playing American Football when Tim doesn't even like watching the game and prefers baseball, basketball, and skateboarding as sports.
- In Amazing Fantasy, Mitsuki Bakugou is so busy at work that she thinks she knows more about her son's social life than she actually does. Despite being aware of Katsuki's growing ego, she still believes that he and Izuku are close when their relationship soured a decade ago. She discovers how wrong she is when Katsuki throws a fit while they're both riding in her car and has to ask Izuku if Katsuki has any real friends. After learning that he doesn't, she pleads with Izuku to not give up on him and admonishes herself for not being there for them.
- In 80's slasher Cementerio Del Terror, Adam Ancira, the captain of police in town, despite being a doting enough dad, it's shown later in the movie that he's so busy at work that not only does he not know the parents and older sister (said sister being the sole guardian of one of the boys) of his children's friends, but he doesn't even know his children's friends themselves.
- Irreconcilable Differences: While trying to persuade Casey not to file for emancipation, Lucy says, "You're only eight years old!" Casey answers, "I'm nine."
- In The Legend of Zorro, Elena quizzes Alejandro on details of their son Joaquin's life to make a point that he's so busy being Zorro that he's being a poor father.
- Matilda: Matilda has very neglectful parents. In the movie adaptation, they both think she's only four, and she answers "I'm six and a half. I was six in August!". In a later scene, her father even calls her "Melinda".
- Searching utilizes this for drama- a father realizes that he doesn't know anything about his daughter after she goes missing.
- Discworld: Moist von Lipwig is so forgettable his mother often came back from school with the wrong child, which greatly helps him as a professional conman.
- Blackadder: King Richard IV never, ever gets his son Edmund's name right and makes no attempt to find out if his wishes for his son (marriage, Archbishopric) are in line with Edmund's.
- In Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Willow's mom doesn't notice that her daughter got a haircut for months.
- An episode of MacGyver (1985) has the title character judging a contest at a college where one of the participants is the son of a professor. The professor is very hard on his son who later loses the contest (because a competitor cheated). Both of these drive the son to build a bomb. During the stand-off, the son accuses his father of not really knowing him and even asks him several questions about himself. The father gets all of them wrong including the son's birthday.
- Al and Peg Bundy on Married... with Children sometimes don't remember their kids' birthdays or even their names.
- There is a story on Techtales about a doctor's office complaining that a computer program refuses to input a birth date as given by the patient's father... 2/29/1982.
- Aaahh!!! Real Monsters has Slickis genuinely unable to remember what activities his son, Ickis, likes.
- Family Guy: Meg Griffin is ignored by her family so often, that there are moments where they don't even understand her. Such as when footage gets out about her kissing somebody, she says shes going to go eat peanuts, which Peter and Lois stare at her in confusion over. She tells them she's allergic. When they don't react, she angrily shouts they don't know anything about her.
- The Legend of Korra: An implied version: Aang showed definite favoritism towards his airbending son Tenzin, taking him to visit Air Nomad temples and holy sites. Somewhat understandable in that Aang was the Last of His Kind and thus desperate to pass on his culture to the only other person who could understand it, but it couldn't have made his kids' lives easy. Tenzin himself wasn't really aware of it until he and his siblings were in their forties.
- Chloe's mom in Miraculous Ladybug never gets her name right on the first try.
- The Simpsons: Homer once hired a private detective to learn about his children.
- Steven Universe:
- Sadie has some issues with her mom not quite having caught up to the fact that Sadie is an adult now.
- Connie's mother doesn't even notice that Connie no longer has lenses in her glasses until it's pointed out by Connie sticking her fingers through the frames.
- Alec Baldwin, in the infamous voicemail message he left for his daughter Ireland in 2007, says at one point "I don't give a damn that you're 12-years-old or 11-years-old..." She was 11 at the time.
- Sara Hammon, raised in a Fundamentalist Mormon and polygamist community, told about how her father had to continually ask "What is your name and who is your mother?" to each of his children.
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