Line #66 Main/VirginShaming


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7	->''"I brought you here to bed my son, not throw him a tea party. [...] My son is 26 years old and he ain't yet a man. Twenty-six. And since he can't find a willin' woman himself..."''
8	-->-- '''Magistrate Higgins''' to [[HighClassCallGirl Inara Serra]], ''Series/{{Firefly}}'', "[[Recap/FireflyE07Jaynestown Jaynestown]]"
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10	Virginity is seen as shameful, immature, and something a character needs to get over as soon as possible.
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12	Due to a DoubleStandard that emphasizes male promiscuity, this trope more commonly applies to males than females. Virginity is seen as something silly that men need to get past as soon as possible, while it is often shown as desirable in women. This trope is not gender-restricted, however. Female characters are shamed in this way occasionally, especially in high school settings.
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14	Related to NatureAbhorsAVirgin, in which a character disclosing their virginity insures events will conspire to cure them of their shameful condition. The opposite is NatureAdoresAVirgin, where virginity is seen as special and highly admirable. Contrast SlutShaming, where characters (usually female) are derided for promiscuity rather than virginity (although they can overlap [[InsaneTrollLogic despite all logic]]). See also UnexpectedVirgin if a character's virginity elicits surprise. For the "logical" extreme of this trope, see EunuchsAreEvil. Closely related to SexAsRiteOfPassage.
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20	* Magna from ''Manga/BlackClover'' is occasionally subjected to this by Vanessa, who calls him a "virgin delinquent". Judging by his embarrassed denial whenever she does, she's probably right.
21	* ''Manga/FourKnightsOfTheApocalypse'' downplays the trope. One of the ways Guinevere teases the sixteen-year-old Lancelot is by saying that she knows the kiss they had a few pages ago was his first. Lancelot unsuccessfully denies this, which makes him even more embarrassed. (''Not'' that [[MadOracle Guinevere]] has any room to judge someone's maturity.) It's also that he doesn't want her to have the satisfaction of knowing she [[ForcefulKiss stole]] his SacredFirstKiss.
22	* ''Manga/FruitsBasket'': Tohru's class puts on a performance of Cinderella. Kyo plays the prince and is extremely mopey and uninterested in the ball being held. During the performance, Arisa (who is playing his "best friend") tells him to cheer up and that "it's no wonder you're still a virgin". Kyo freaks out at this and yells at her not to say stuff like that.
23	* In ''Anime/GreatPretender,'' one of Abbie's favorite insults for Makoto is to call him a virgin. He swears up and down that he isn't, but she doesn't believe him.
24	* ''Manga/GunsmithCats'': In both the Manga and Anime OVA, May Hopkins always teases and shames [[GirlsWithGuns Rally Vincent]] about being a virgin, because of how obsessed she is with guns instead of traditional female interests and how she [[ObliviousToLove doesn't seem to notice]] when men are attracted to her. Hopkins, on the other hand, has [[SexGod lots of sex and is proud of it.]]
25	* ''Manga/HotGimmick'': Ryoki, who is extremely ashamed that he still is.
26	* ''Manga/ImaizuminChiWaDouyaraGalNoTamaribaNiNatteruRashiiDeep'': Other boys don't take Imaizumi seriously because he'll be a forever virgin. Unbeknownst to them, he's not a virgin, but can't say it.
27	* This is a trope that comes up a lot in ''Manga/KaguyaSamaLoveIsWar'', but interestingly, this trope is mostly subverted. The only person who shames Shirogane for being a virgin is Shirogane himself. Most of the characters he interacts with have never had sex either, and those who have don't have any reason to care about Shirogane and Kaguya's sex life. [[spoiler: Heck, Kaguya's friends are actually more worried about their relationship moving too ''quickly'' since Kaguya used tongue during their first kiss.]] In one of the biggest instances of the series using DramaticIrony, Shirogane assumed that Kaguya would mock him for never having any sexual experience with a girl, whereas it's all too clear to the readers that Kaguya would take it ''very'' poorly if she thought he wasn't. She's a little overly paranoid about this, but considering Shirogane has got a ''long'' line of potential suitors, it isn't ''too'' unwarranted.
28	* In ''Manga/MadBull34'', weak-willed rookie cop Eddie Daizaburo is pretty embarrassed about the fact that he's a virgin -- especially considering the fact that his partner, "Sleepy" John Estes, is a DirtyCop running a prostitution racket and a well-known lothario. Sleepy tries to get a bunch of his girls to show Eddie a good time, but he refuses because it's just not what he's looking for. Thereafter, Sleepy occasionally broaches the subject to annoy Eddie.
29	* Discussed in ''TSF Monogatari'', where Takumi comments that, since he's been [[GenderBender turned into a girl]], her virginity is [[DoubleStandard now an asset as opposed to a stigma]] ...which she loses not ten minutes later.
30	* In ''Manga/MagiLabyrinthOfMagic'', Koumei starts teasing Alibaba about this before realizing he's right, Alibaba has never touched a woman, let alone had a girlfriend. [[NotSoStoic Kouen]] finds this hilarious.
31	* ''Manga/PleaseTellMeGalkoChan'': Like most boys his age, Otako's brother hates the fact that he's a virgin and hates that other people make fun of him for it. However, he still wants to take things slow when he gets into a relationship.
32	* ''Manga/TokyoGhoul'': Kaneki and [[GuileHero Hide]] are introduced having a conversation in which it is made blatantly obvious neither one of them has ever been on so much as a date with a girl, with Kaneki's first date being the event that kicks off the entire plot. Similarly, [[BadassNormal Amon]] is a ChasteHero that rejects the advances of his female partner, but is portrayed as a paragon of masculinity. Besides settled-down family men, the only male character in the series confirmed to be sexually active is Nishiki, who is actually mocked over his sex life and is in general a ButtMonkey.
33	* Mamori in ''Anime/ValkyrieDriveMermaid'' often gets mocked for her name being [[AlternateCharacterReading spelled with the same kanji]] as "virgin".
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37	* Subverted in the original ''ComicBook/XForce'', with eventual lovers Rictor and Shatterstar. After being groped in a club, Shatterstar flees in terror and later admits that he has no [[ChasteHero experience]] whatsoever. Attempting to comfort him, Rictor states that it's nothing to be ashamed of and admits that he's still a virgin -- his Ladies' Man attitude is all an act.
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41	* ''Webcomic/HetaliaAxisPowers'' fanfic ''[[https://www.fanfiction.net/s/11886910/1/Gankona-Unnachgiebig-Unità Gankona, Unnachgiebig, Unità]]'': The homophobe does this to Italy in addition to mocking [[{{Keet}} his mannerisms]].
42	-->"Twisted homos making me want to puke. Kill yourself, disgusting virgin fag."
43	* ''Fanfic/TheChildOfLove'': When Asuka tries to seduce Shinji.
44	-->'''Asuka''': Don't tell me you're not a man. Or is it that you don't ''[want]'' to be a man?
45	* ''Fanfic/{{CRME}}'': A subversion occurs. Emerald mocks Mercury for being a virgin, but she states that there isn't anything wrong with virginity. [[{{Troll}} She just knows that those insults would annoy him]] since he has such a big ego and "ladies-man" demeanor. It's also to get back at him for annoying her over the past few weeks that he's been on the team. [[spoiler: Even after they hook up, she taunts him for his lack of experience since she can tell he has never had sex before then.]]
46	* ''[[Fanfic/CRISISEquestria CRISIS: Equestria- Divergence]]'': {{Averted}}; Rainbow Dash refuses to do this to Havoc when she finds out that it’s Havoc’s sore spot, citing the fact that it’s something she can change about herself if she wants, and that making fun of her for it seems stupid.
47	* ''Fanfic/ADifferentLesson'': Subverted with Tai Lung. He is indeed initially mocked (by Mantis and Monkey) for being a virgin, but this does not lessen his badass nature one bit. Eventually he does lose his virginity ...but this has no bearing on his fighting ability since he in fact loses a major battle right after doing so. When he does finally defeat the BigBad later, it's as part of a team, and again his virginity or lack thereof isn't brought up nor does it have anything to do with his victory. So even when he ultimately does have sex, the attitude behind this trope still gets subverted.
48	* ''Manga/{{Evangelion 303}}'': In episode 3 Asuka questions Shinji about his sex life and mocks him for being a virgin. It turns out she was projecting: later Shinji finds out that she is also a virgin and she feels ashamed about it.
49	* ''Fanfic/{{Myrmidons}}'': Sheri Walford's old service buddy Lisa Makbar jokingly calls her "bitch" for saving herself for the right guy; Sheri calls Lisa "slut" for, [[EthicalSlut well, not.]] Amanda Nung similarly tries a few times to get Sheri laid. [[spoiler:She finally sleeps with Warrant Officer Abaddon on her nineteenth birthday in part three.]]
50	* ''Fanfic/ASongOfIceFireAndHeart'':
51	** Roxas tends to be mildly teased by his male friends for his utter lack of sexual or romantic knowledge in spite of the many, ''many'' girls throwing themselves at him, gaining the nickname of "maiden boy". It becomes a hint creepy when one remembers he's mentally two years old and physically fifteen, but is currently adventuring in the medieval Westeros in which nobody bats an eyelash over twelve-years-old having sex.
52	** His assumed father Ventus also was gently mocked by his friends for his shyness towards girls, to the point that Robert is incredulous when introduced to Roxas because he cannot imagine Ven managing to lose his virginity.
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56	* In ''Film/TheFortyYearOldVirgin'', after Andy inadvertently outs himself as a virgin, his [[WithFriendsLikeThese "friends"]] and coworkers go out of their way to remind him how they think it's so weird for him never to have had sex at his age.
57	* Luke in ''Film/TwoThirtySeven'' teases his friend for being a virgin. It's clearly a sore spot for his friend.
58	* All the guys are desperate to lose their virginity in ''Film/AmericanPie'', but Jim is the only one who explicitly meets the "pathetic and maladjusted" definition of the trope. Eventually, they decide to forget about the pledge to lose their virginity, deciding to avert this trope and be comfortable with themselves and have sex when they're ready. Then they all get laid anyway, making it something of a BrokenAesop.
59	** Parodied along with many other tropes of teen comedies in ''Film/AnotherGayMovie''.
60	* ''Film/BoyEatsGirl'': After Jessica kills over a dozen zombies in a ConstructionVehicleRampage, Cheryl snarkily says "Not bad [[NotBad for a virgin]]", which is still one of the nicest things she says to Jessica (their other conservations have BeAWhoreToGetYourMan taunts) throughout the movie.
61	* Brian fears this treatment in ''Film/TheBreakfastClub'' after Bender jokingly calls him a cherry. This leads to a massive misunderstanding with Claire, forcing Brian to confirm that he is, in fact, a virgin. It's subverted when Claire says "it's okay for a guy to be a virgin", but it's brought up again later when the whole group hounds her until she admits that she is also one, hinting that even she thinks there's a double-standard at work.
62	* Discussed in ''Film/{{Chronicle}}''. Steve hears that Matt has gone a long time without sex and Andrew is a virgin. His response? "Then how are you guys so cool?"
63	* This classic example in ''Film/{{Clueless}}'':
64	-->'''Cher:''' I just don't think you [and the guy you like] ... mesh well.\
65	'''Tai:''' ''[incredulous]'' You... don't think ''we'' mesh well? So like, what am I even doing listening to you anyway? You're a ''virgin'' who ''can't drive''.
66	** Though that was rather harsh, in context it's somewhat justified insofar as Cher is not only a virgin but also hasn't really dated to speak of, and the dates she has had have been disasters, so maybe she shouldn't be acting like she's a relationship expert, and "Cher shouldn't be acting like she's a relationship expert when she's not" is a very major point of the overall plot. Overall Cher's virginity isn't treated particularly positively or negatively, it's more her attitude that needs an adjustment.
67	* In ''Film/TheGraduate'', it could be interpreted that Ben, the protagonist, is a virgin before he sleeps with Mrs. Robinson. At the very least, he sleeps with Mrs Robinson because she challenges him on his inexperience. He acts so horribly awkward she outright asks him, and he unsuccessfully tries to deny it, so she basically dares him to prove himself. "Just because you happen to be inadequate in one way..." To his... credit?... Dustin Hoffman, 30 years old at the time, does a great job of playing a nervous, shy virgin.
68	* ''Film/{{Grease}}'': Rare female example. [[TheIngenue Sandy]] gets this a ''lot'' over the story, especially from [[GoodBadGirl Rizzo]]. There's even a whole song dedicated to it, called "Look At Me, I'm Sandra Dee." [[spoiler:This eventually leads to her deciding to BeAWhoreToGetYourMan]].
69	* In ''WesternAnimation/HeavyTraffic'' Rosalyn laughs at Michael because he's rumored to be a virgin.
70	* ''Film/HocusPocus'':
71	** A candle with a black flame is prophesied to resurrect a trio of witches if a virgin were to light it. Initially one would suspect that [[LittleMissSnarker the little girl]] [[BrattyHalfPint in the witch's costume]] would light it. But no, it was the main, '''male''' character Max who lit the candle. The [[TalkingAnimal cursed-as-an-immortal-cat Binx]] spelled this fact out in case the viewers forgot the virgin clause, as did [[LittleMissSnarker the little girl]].
72	** {{Lampshade\|Hanging}}d in the conversation with the cop on the motorcycle. "I'll get it tattooed on my forehead, all right!?"
73	** All of this joking and other general obsession about Max's lack of a sex life is made just a mite {{squick}}y, since ''he's only fifteen, at the very oldest!''
74	--->'''WebVideo/TheNostalgiaChick''': After all, what are you doing if you're still in high school and still a virgin?
75	* [[Creator/JamesMcAvoy Valentin Bulgakov]] from ''The Last Station'' gets teased for being a virgin, even though the ideology he has dedicated his life to commands a celibate lifestyle.
76	* In ''Film/MeanGirls'', the burn book described a classmate "Dawn Schweitzer" as a "fat virgin."
77	* This trope gets roundly mocked in ''Film/NotAnotherTeenMovie'' with Mitch, Ox, and Bruce, who go on a similar quest to lose their virginities (duly ignoring the ''Sex Club'' at school), with Ox finding love [[spoiler: with [[MyGirlIsASlut Catherine Wyler]]]], and Mitch confessing his love to Amanda Becker through a note, who responds with...
78	-->'''Amanda''': I don't screw every pathetic guy that gives me a letter! [[spoiler: [[NoExceptYes I give them handjobs]].]]
79	* ''Film/OnceBitten'': Not only is Mark a virgin, but so are his two best friends, not for lack of trying. The books makes fun of Mark, saying that if he's an 18-year-old virgin, a vampire trying to get him should be the least of his worries.
80	* ''Film/OnChesilBeach'': When Florence runs out of the hotel room during a moment of InterruptedIntimacy on their wedding night, Edward takes this personally and interprets it as Florence's rejection of him as a man. He proceeds to lay into her with harsh words about her not knowing how to be with someone, which in a way make him a {{hypocrite}} because he too is a virgin.
81	* In ''Film/{{Porkys}}'', the main character's mission is to have sex -- even by hiring a prostitute. The film derives its humor by frustrating every attempt until the end.
82	* In ''Film/TenToMidnight'', Detective Paul Kessler asks SerialKiller Warren Stacy as to when was the last time he had sex with a woman and then says "never" because [[EstrogenBrigade girls and women]] don't want anything to with him.
83	* At the end of ''Film/WeekendAtBernies II'', Richard's life is saved from poisoning by a potion made with the blood of a virgin. That virgin [[UnexpectedVirgin just happened to be Larry]]. He teases Larry about it at the very end.
84	-->'''Richard:''' Oh, and thanks for keeping yourself a virgin for me.
85	-->'''Larry:''' Great. That's great. Just twist the knife a little deeper, why don't you.
86	* ''Film/YoungHearts'': A couple of the boys mock other students they think are virgins while in class.
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90	* ''Literature/{{Baccano}}'': Claire, despite being a virgin himself, does put some stock in this trope. Upon discovering that Firo's been living with a woman for over a year and hasn't gotten even as far as first base, he starts doubting that Firo's even human. [[spoiler:The 2002 books show that Firo manages to remain a virgin ''into his nineties'', much to the amusement of the rest of the Martillo family.]]
91	* In Richard Wright's famous autobiography ''Black Boy,'' he recalls a co-worker who had a bad case of gonorrhea, and actually acts ''proud'' of it because it's proof he's had sex, and is therefore a real man. Richard doubts he's as proud of it as he acts, however, when he sees him urinate one day, with his teeth clenched, tears streaming out of his eyes and with a hand on the beam above him to keep from falling over in agony.
92	* In the web-novel ''Literature/{{Domina}}'', Derek and Adam are specifically noted to be virgins (well, we only find out about this after Adam sleeps with Lily). Derek doesn't seem to find it important, but Adam is embarrassed.
93	* A variation in ''Down Among the Dead Men'' by Creator/WilliamTenn. Humanity is outnumbered in a BugWar, so all female soldiers have been removed from [[BridgeBunnies administrative duties]] so they can [[BabyFactory breed more soldiers]], and [[NightOfTheLivingMooks 'zombie' soldiers]] are created from recycled human protoplasm. However these soldiers think they're not real men because they can't have children. Their commanding officer [[CommonalityConnection breaks the ice with them]] by revealing that he's sterile from the radiation of a nuclear explosion.
94	* {{Downplayed\|Trope}} in ''Literature/TheDresdenFiles: Literature/WhiteNight''. The young and talented Carlos Ramirez, who behaves like a self-styled [[TheCasanova Casanova]], is identified as a virgin by sex vampire Lara Raith. Harry spends the entire climactic fight scene teasing him about it.
95	* ''Literature/FullMetalPanic'': Sousuke. Despite being through many horrible wars, being a military man, and being at the age where he ''should'' be going through puberty, Sousuke has as much understanding about sex as a 5-year-old. It's pretty safe to assume he's a virgin when he thinks that condoms are for storing water, "kissing" is a synonym for CPR, and "flirting" is trapping girls in cages and holding them captive at gunpoint. Seriously, you don't get [[ChasteHero chaster]] than him. As a matter of fact, Kurz even mocks him for it, insulting him by calling him a "gutless virgin." Being raised in the Afghan mujahideen may have had something to do with it.
96	* Played with in ''Literature/{{Jumper}}''. At the start of their relationship, Davy is a virgin but Millie isn't, and he invokes this on himself after he has a premature ejaculation their first time together. She tells him not to worry about it, and he's soon able to impress her (turned out all that reading in the library to hide from his abusive father was good for something).
97	* Lord Straff Venture in ''Literature/MistbornTheOriginalTrilogy'' definitely subscribed to this view, and forced his son and heir, Elend Venture, to sleep with a whore when Elend was 13. This is one of the first signs of how completely screwed-up Straff is. He had his reasons though, [[spoiler: the more progeny, the bigger chance for a magic-empowered Allomancer among them]].
98	* {{Inverted\|Trope}} in ''Literature/RascalDoesNotDreamOfBunnyGirlSenpai''. After Tomoe refuses to go out with a bit character, he starts [[SlutShaming spreading rumors of her promiscuity]] in revenge, particularly about her and main character Sakuta. Sakuta shuts him down permanently with a very loud and public announcement that not only are he and Tomoe ''not'' sleeping together, he's a virgin.
99	* Implied in Aleksis Kivi's ''Literature/SevenBrothers'' in one line, where the drunken Lauri tells Simeoni that he would weep if he saw something that girls don't show to the likes of him.
100	* In a ''Literature/TheShipWho Sang'', whenever [[MissionControl Niall]] is annoyed with [[SapientShip Helva]] he calls her a "tin-plated virgin". When she was a few months old, her stunted, paralyzed human body was [[ManInTheMachine sealed into a life-support shell that can't be breached without killing her]], so of ''course'' she's a virgin. When Helva elects not to have her mind transferred into a healthy adult human body - she's a WetwareCPU and sees her ship as her real body, and doesn't miss what she's never had - he refers to said ship as a "titanium chastity belt". Niall is in love with her and his abrasive personality and awareness that they CantHaveSexEver means needling her over a source of his frustration.
101	* ''Literature/SmallWorldTabithaKingNovel'': Dolly secretly mocks Roger for being a virgin while taking perverse pleasure in relieving him of the problem.
102	* ''Literature/TheToughGuideToFantasyland'': It's stated that, in stark contrast to female virgins, no one wants male virgins at all (young boys excluded). Some experience is preferred.
103	* ''Literature/TrappedOnDraconica'': Justified here. According to Leondian law, no one can take part in combat unless they have at least one child. Being a virgin means being a non-combatant which means being deadweight. In short, being a virgin is a festering spearhead in Kalak's self-confidence. [[spoiler: [[TheirFirstTime He gets over it shortly after meeting Daniar.]]]]
104	* {{Deconstruct\|ion}}ed in ''Literature/YouthInSexualEcstasy'': The protagonist, at first, justifies this trope and his lifestyle by saying that men should acquire experience and dexterity in order to satisfy their future partners and that only a fool would want to arrive as a virgin to marriage, then he gets rebutted by the sex therapist of the story who says that most of his male patients who suffer from sex problems during their marriage had very active sex lives in their youth, and as consequence, the experiences accumulated and they de-sensitiviced and mechanized the act, when, according to him, [[DontThinkFeel sex is not about technique and experience -- it's about feeling]].
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108	* ''Series/{{Burnistoun}}'': The Doberman was heavily bullied and forced to hump a pole as a teen due to being a virgin. As an adult superhero, he's still very sensitive about it.
109	* ''Series/Charmed2018'': {{Zigzagged}} in the third episode. There's some jokes at Cam's expense, but it's because he's an incel, not a virgin. Macy also finds her own virginity a bit pathetic, but her sisters reassure her it's nothing to be ashamed of, which makes this show a perfect example of the DoubleStandard that often accompanies this trope.
110	* Deconstructed in an episode of ''Series/FamilyMatters'' in which Steve reveals Eddie's virginity to an entire men's locker room, inadvertently causing all the guys to make fun of Eddie. Later on in the episode, Eddie stands up to them with a speech about how real men value women as human beings and not as conquests.
111	* In the ''Series/{{Firefly}}'' episode "[[Recap/FireflyE07Jaynestown Jaynestown]]", a local magistrate hires Inara to sleep with his 26-year-old-virgin son, supposedly in order to "make him a man." After they have sex, the son is disappointed that he doesn't feel fundamentally different. He asks, "Aren't I supposed to be a man now?" She answers, "A man is just a boy who is old enough to ask that question. Our time together is a symbol; it means something to your father. But it doesn't make you a man. You do that yourself." [[spoiler:The event that makes the son become a man in his own eyes is when he defies his father by helping the crew of ''Serenity'' escape.]]
112	* In an episode of ''Series/TheFreshPrinceOfBelAir'' when Carlton plays poker with Will and his friends, they reminisce about their first times. When Carlton reveals he's a virgin, Jazz keeps making fun of him.
113	** A variation is discussed in an earlier episode when a girl claims that she had Carlton's baby, Carlton goes along with it. When Will tracks down Carlton to the chapel where they're going to elope, he tells Will that he knew she was lying about the baby being his but didn't refute it because he didn't want people to know he's still a virgin.
114	* In the second season of ''Series/{{Galavant}}'', a potion to save Galavant's life requires a gray hair from the beard of a middle-aged virgin. King Richard initially insists that such a thing would be impossible to find, before relenting and admitting that he's a virgin (despite being fifty, a king, and ''married'').
115	* ''Series/GeneralHospital'': After Jagger dumped Brenda for Karen, Brenda took great pleasure in taunting Karen about the fact that she was a virgin and not ready to have sex, suggesting that it was only a matter of time before Jagger dumped Karen to come back to her. She had a serious HeelRealization months later upon learning that Karen's sexual fears stemmed from having been molested as a child.
116	* ''Series/{{iCarly}}'' did a G-rated version: Sam finds out that Freddie has never kissed anyone, and announces it on the web show. Cue Freddie staying home from school for two weeks due to merciless teasing. Sam eventually puts it right by calling out the bullies, since most of them have never kissed anyone either... [[{{Hypocrite}} and publicly admits that neither has she]].
117	* ''Series/{{Jackass}}'': Ehren [=McGhehey=] reportedly was a virgin, which made him the ButtMonkey of the gang.
118	* Subverted and partially deconstructed on ''Series/LegendsOfTomorrow''. When John Constantine needed a virgin for a spell, they used the nebbish ButtMonkey Gary. At first it seems like another joke at Gary's expense, but it turns out Gary isn't sexually inexperienced, he's bisexual and the spell was based on a heteronormative definition of sex. (The absurdity is further heightened by the subsequent reveal that Gary is an alien and his species' method of reproduction doesn't remotely resemble human sex.)
119	* Constantly used for humor on ''Series/MarriedWithChildren''. [[JadedWashout Al Bundy]] was the BigManOnCampus in high school not only because he was a football hero, but because he made it with every hot girl in his class...at least before he got married and his life went down the crapper. His son Bud has the opposite problem, constantly trying (and failing) to score with women, something for which the rest of his family teases him mercilessly.
120	* On one episode of ''Series/{{MASH}}'', Frank Burns tells the other doctors a story about how a girl from the debate team hit on him in high school, but he turned her down because he was saving himself for marriage. Our heroes react with disbelief and mockery, and even the [[CoolOldGuy usually fair-minded]] Col. Potter dubs Frank a "creep" as a result. Granted, they're all prone to dislike Frank due to him being a HolierThanThou JerkAss, but this particular instance seems to reveal more about the era's mores regarding masculinity than the characters.
121	* In an episode of ''Series/QuantumLeap'' the boy Sam is there to rescue (as his mother) is teased by his so-called friends for being a virgin, despite one of the friends secretly being a virgin himself.
122	* Atia on ''Series/{{Rome}}'' is very determined her son becomes a man. Which she emphasises with this comment:
123	-->'''Atia''': You will penetrate someone today or I shall burn your wretched books in the yard.
124	** Somewhat TruthInTelevision and less about sex for sex's sake than ticking off the boxes for things a Proper Roman Male needs to be known to do to BE a man -- Octavian was at/approaching legal age, he needed to demonstrate it. (Also, note that the point is less sexual intercourse than penetration -- man or woman, so long as Octavian is on top, it would "count". For Romans, male sexuality was not about the gender of the partner/target but very much about who was on top.)
125	* Referenced, and somewhat lampshaded, in the first episode of the first series of ''Series/{{Skins}}''.
126	-->'''Tony''': It's embarrassing.\
127	'''Sid''': It's common and quite normal for someone of sixteen--\
128	'''Tony''': --No. It's ''embarrassing'', Sid.\
129	'''Sid''': ...Shit.
130	* ''Series/{{Smallville}}'': For the first several seasons Clark was the epitome of the innocent male virgin, to the point that it'd become somewhat of an in-joke amongst fans, who coined the term "Supervirgin." In one episode, a witch who needs the hair of two virgins for a spell successfully uses Clark's, just in case there was any doubt. Subverted in that it was later revealed Clark was worried that [[ManOfSteelWomanOfKleenex in the throes of passion, he would lose control of his powers and harm his partner]]. When he lost his powers at the beginning of Season 5, he had sex with Lana the very next episode.
131	* ''Series/TheYoungOnes'', episode "Time," includes a long fight occasioned by Vyvyan mocking Rick's virginity. Another episode of the same show, "Nasty", shows the whole cast reluctant to confess virginity in the face of a vampire who drinks virgin blood.
132	-->'''Rick:''' What, me? Rick? A virgin? Ha, ha, ha! Just try telling that to [[BlatantLies some of the foxy chicks who owe me favours]]!\
133	'''Neil:''' Well if Rick's not a virgin, then I'm not either!\
134	'''Vyvyan''' Well, we'll soon find out, 'cos the vampire's gonna know! And anyone he attacks, we'll know is a sissy virgin! ''(To himself)'' God, I hope snogging with SPG[[note]]His hamster.[[/note]] counts...
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138	* After Rhett Titus had shown the ability to get ''almost'' any woman he wanted and spent many a day in Wrestling/RingOfHonor claiming to have slept with a denying Wrestling/DaizeeHaze, she and [[Wrestling/HunterJohnston Delirious]] eventually made him admit he was a virgin, though the truth of that is also suspect.
139	* Wrestling/MollyHolly got this a lot from Wrestling/JerryLawler when she was a heel in Wrestling/{{WWE}}. (In addition to fat-shaming, when she just looks like an everyday, average woman.)
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143	* In ''VideoGame/CarteBlanche'' Jeannine tells protagonist Edgar Delacroix he could learn something from the dirty pictures he had to take of an affair, "Snow White", and tells him to come back when he's lost his virginity. Edgar has no clue how she figured it out.
144	* ''VideoGame/Drakengard3'': Zero despises her sister Four for being a virgin, and claims she can't deal with virgins in general. In Four's case, it's justified: Intoners have an enormous sex drive, and Four's repression of her own to [[InferioritySuperiorityComplex feel superior to her siblings]] has messed her up psychologically and turned her into a murderous, hateful {{Jerkass}}.
145	* ''VideoGame/EldenRing'': It's a common fandom joke to miscontrue Varre mocking the Tarnished for being "Maidenless" as this trope. In-universe, it basically means "can't level up/complete the game", since [[RecurringElement as is traditional for Souls games]], leveling up is done for you by a MysteriousWaif known as a Finger Maiden; all Tarnished are ''supposed'' to be accompanied by a Finger Maiden, but you are not (the maiden implied to be yours is dead in the Chapel of Anticipation; many speculate that Varre killed her himself) and only meet your replacement level-up lady, Melina, later.
146	* ''VideoGame/Fallout2'' intended you to start with the trait "Virgin of the Wastes", the flavor text of which suggested you really needed to get out more, and would be lost the first time you had sex. It was cut from the final release.
147	* The objective of ''VideoGame/LeisureSuitLarry1InTheLandOfTheLoungeLizards'' is for the title character to lose his virginity. If he can't do it by next morning, [[DrivenToSuicide he'll kill himself]]. To emphasize the challenge, prostitutes don't count (though he won't kill himself if he has sex with a prostitute).
148	* In ''VideoGame/TeamFortress2'', one of the Spy's domination lines to the Scout is an insult to his possible manliness.
149	-->'''Spy''': Here lies Scout. He ran fast and died a virgin.
150	* Played straight in ''VideoGame/{{Xenogears}}''. A naive Fei-Fong Wong is teased about sex by the village prostitute at the beginning of the game. By the climax of the game [[spoiler: Fei-Fong Wong and Elly begin a sexual relationship.]]
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153	[[folder:Visual Novels]]
154	* In the {{Franchise/Danganronpa}} series:
155	** Hifumi Yamada from ''VisualNovel/DanganronpaTriggerHappyHavoc'' does this at one point during his feud with Kiyotaka Ishimaru, referring to him derisively as "that ''virgin''" while ranting against him. Ironic because Hifumi is an archetypal {{Otaku}} who firmly insists that the reason he never dates is because [[BlatantLies he only likes 2D girls]], so he's pretty definitely being a {{Hypocrite}} here. Doubly ironic because their disagreement is over ownership of a laptop which [[MaybeMagicMaybeMundane may or may not contain the ditigised soul of]] [[AmbiguouslyGay the guy Taka may or may not have been in love with]], which ambiguous as it may be is a darn sight more action than Hifumi ever sees in canon.
156	** [[HornyScientist Miu Iruma]] from ''VisualNovel/DanganronpaV3KillingHarmony'' is known to do this a lot to her classmates, even though it is not confirmed if some of the students really are virgins or not. Funnily enough, when Miu gets virgin-shamed herself, she gets defensive, and this is one sign that Miu is very likely a virgin herself and is guilty of HypocriticalHumor. All that said, Miu freely admits in one of her ''Love Across the Universe'' date events that she is actually more fond of virgins than she lets on. She just… expresses it in her own Miu way, like giving a box of fap material (of which some of the contents feature herself) to Shuichi, who is one of her frequent virgin-shaming targets. In one of her ''Ultimate Talent Development Plan'' events, Miu made pink orgasm-inducing Christmas lights as a present for, as she put it, "all the lonely bastards who got no one to spend the holidays with".
157	* Fran pokes fun at 18-year-old Erik from ''VisualNovel/MissingStars'' for being a virgin.
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160	[[folder:Webcomics]]
161	* In ''Webcomic/ElGoonishShive'', fear of this is implied to be the reason so many guys who dated Diane lied about how far they went -- which led to her getting [[SlutShaming slut-shamed]] even though she ''is'' a virgin.
162	* In ''Webcomic/{{Loserz}}'', where two protagonists are virgins and are portrayed as, well, "Loserz." At least, until [[spoiler: Eric gets laid, but Ben has no such luck]].
163	* Gary of ''Webcomic/MenageA3'' spends the early part of the comic's long run as a virgin with serious related self-esteem problems and the subject of pity from other characters who know, despite their (rather ham-fisted) attempts to help him. Then he (a) turns out to be a natural oral sex master, and ''later'' (b) gets laid. The joke is, he remains... Gary. A hopeless geek with negligible social skills. He just goes from having no sex to being sexually exploited (though he doesn't seem to object to that much). His virginity is a symptom of his hopelessness, not its cause.
164	* The ''Webcomic/VirginVsChad'' meme, where the contemptible "virgin" is contrasted with the over-the-top "Chad". Parodied with [[https://knowyourmeme.com/photos/1287391-virgin-vs-chad "The Virgin Chad"]], who is worthy of admiration precisely because his religious principles have him save his virginity until marriage.
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167	[[folder:Web Original]]
168	* A meme brewing the [[ImageBoards *chans]] inverts this: if a man reaches age thirty without having known the touch of a woman, [[AscendToAHigherPlaneOfExistence he becomes a wizard.]]
169	* "[[https://knowyourmeme.com/photos/998113-30-year-old-virgin-wizard The Official Virgin Age Meter]]" meme states that the perfect age for a man to lose his virginity is 16, while someone who is still a virgin at 20 (shown as a [[NerdsAreVirgins fat nerd]]) is "beyond saving". (Of course, this being the internet, it's hard to tell how seriously is it taken by people who post it.) However, not losing one's virginity until 30 makes one a wizard of unparalleled power.
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172	[[folder:Web Video]]
173	* [=YouTube=] personality [[WebVideo/DrNerdLove [=DrNerdLove=]]] comments about it in his video "The Virginity Paradox" regarding male virginity.
174	* ''WebVideo/FateStayNightUnlimitedBladeWorksAbridged'': In Episode 10, Lancer mocks Archer about this, though considering Archer's true identity, he likely isn't a virgin.
175	-->'''Lancer:''' There was a snide Archer in red,\
176	No woman would join him in bed,\
177	He picked the wrong side, and fate will decide,\
178	If this fight will end with him dead!\
179	'''Archer:''' Did you just call me a virgin through ''limerick''!?
180	* [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7DzDicQyxB0&ab_channel=Jehtt This parodic video]] from WebVideo/{{Jehtt}}, taken from of a cutscene of ''VideoGame/SonicRiders'', hilariously inverts this. When racing against Jet, Sonic shames him for not having sex as a classic teen joke, but the green bird isn't bothered by it:
181	--> "You're right, [[UnexpectedVirgin I haven't lost my virginity]]... [[InsultBackfire because I never lose]]! See you later, sex-haver!"
182	* In "WebVideo/TheLastDaysOfDrWily", while Dr. Wily is talking to Greg, Wily leans over and picks up a printed robot design, which is just Wily's 8-bit sprite with the caption "VIRGIN MAN". Wily looks at Greg in silent annoyance, then drops the paper and walks away while Greg just shrugs.
183	* Referenced in ''WebVideo/TheNostalgiaChick'' and ''WebVideo/TheNostalgiaCritic'' in their review of ''Film/HocusPocus'', where they wonder why the characters feel like it's so weird for a ''15-year-old boy'' to be called out on as being a virgin.
184	* ''WebVideo/SwordArtOnlineAbridged'' has Rosalia do this to Kirito as her last words after he [[SlashedThroat slices open her neck]], and [[spoiler:it takes him five episodes to manage a comeback]].
185	-->'''Kirito''': I'm gettin' ''real'' tired of your first-year psych student bullshit.\
186	'''Rosalia''': Enjoy this while you can; it's the deepest you'll ever ''be'' in a woman. ''(dies)''\
187	'''Kirito''': [[LameComeback Yeah, well, you're dead, so...]] ...DAMNIT!
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190	[[folder:Western Animation]]
191	* ''WesternAnimation/AmericanDad'': In the James Bond movie parody "Tearjerker":
192	-->'''Francine''': Oh my god, you really ''are'' a virgin!\
193	'''Stan''': What... isn't that good?\
194	'''Francine''': No. It's awful.
195	** [[ParodiedTrope Parodied]] in the episode ''The 42-Year-Old Virgin'', in which all the usual clichés come out after Stan shamefully admits he's never actually ''killed'' anyone.
196	* Diane from ''WesternAnimation/BoJackHorseman'' experienced both this and SlutShaming at the same time when she was called a "virgin slut" in high school. Even back then, she wasn't afraid to point out the LogicBomb.
197	* Rev. Putty in ''WesternAnimation/MoralOrel'', who's in his forties and balding and still a virgin, much to his ire. Especially since, thanks to a StalkerWithATestTube, he discovers he has an ''adult daughter'' while still a virgin. [[spoiler:He finally loses it to some prostitutes Orel inadvertently picks up for him to 'save', and is noticeably more relaxed after that.]]
198	* ''WesternAnimation/SouthPark'': In "Butters' Bottom Bitch", Cartman and the other boys ridicule Butters for never having kissed a girl, which is equated to being a virgin. He ends up losing his "kiss virginity" to a girl [[DoesThisRemindYouOfAnything who is selling kisses at school]].
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