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6	->''"[Your daughter] already doesn't trust you because you stole her memories. And that, I recall, was because you were trying to protect her. Maybe if you hadn't'' protected ''her so much, she would know more about what is dangerous, and what isn't, and be a little less secretive -- and less reckless!"''
7	-->-- '''Isabelle''' to Jocelyn, ''Literature/CityOfLostSouls''
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9	Most parents will do anything to protect their kids. Naturally, this means setting some restrictions. Sometimes however, they can become [[ParentsAsPeople too over-protective, albeit well-intentioned,]] to the point of [[https://www.wired.com/story/the-kid-surveillance-complex-locks-parents-in-a-trap/ giving them almost no freedom]]. In these scenarios, the child might obey their parent's every rule. Other times, they just become better at hiding things from their parents. This can go to even higher extremes in fiction, where a child may very well have a secret other life DemonSlaying or as a magical warrior, though their secrets could also be much more mundane. In any case, the child is keeping secrets from their over-protective parent.
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11	Is often TruthInTelevision. Compare to PreachersKid. May result from MyBelovedSmother, FantasyForbiddingFather, KnightTemplarParent, or SafetyWorst. If the parent eventually discovers their child's secrets, it may result in AntiSmotherLoveTalk or CallingTheOldManOut. For a tamer variant, you've got DatingWhatDaddyHates.
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14	!!Examples:
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17	[[folder:Anime and Manga]]
18	* ''Manga/The100GirlfriendsWhoReallyReallyReallyReallyReallyLoveYou'': After catching a brief glimpse of a ''Franchise/ResidentEvil'' film to the disapproval of her parents, Rin secretly indulged herself in violent movies on her phone at night.
19	* Daichi Fujiwara from ''Manga/KaguyaSamaLoveIsWar'' is shown to be very strict with his two younger daughters due to him not wanting them to end up like [[MsFanservice their eldest sister Toyomi]], and forbids them from having access to things like video games or romance manga. Both of them have developed some very weird quirks as a result of this (Chika is a compulsive cheater when it comes to board games and Moeha is CuteAndPsycho).
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23	* Comicbook/{{Ms Marvel\|2014}} of course has to do this as a {{Superhero}}, since Kamala's parents are very strict in all aspects of her life. However, when Kamala finally tells her mother about her secret identity, she revealed that she already knew and was pleased that her daughter's darkest secret was sneaking out to help others.
24	-->'''Muneeba:''' If the worst thing you do is sneak out to help suffering people, then I thank God for having raised a righteous child.
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27	[[folder:Fan Works]]
28	* Much of why the plot of ''Fanfic/TheOutside'' happens, though, it's not Ryuuko's parents but, her agoraphobic overprotective older sister, Satsuki, who forbids the former from going outside, so, to experience what she calls the "Outside", she has to sneak because Satsuki would have told her "No." if she asked (and she did when Ryuuko tried).
29	* ''Webcomic/ScarletLady'': As in canon, both Gabriel Agreste and Tomoe Tsurugi are strict and controlling towards their kids. As a result, Adrien and Kagami come up with various ways to sneak past them so they can hang out with their friends, even having a competition with each other over it.
30	-->'''Kagami:''' Oh ''nooo~!'' Looks like the fencing team strategy meeting isn't here. Seems like I've given my mother the wrong information~\
31	'''Adrien:''' Ha! ''I'' snuck out behind Père's back! He thinks I'm back in my room playing piano!\
32	'''Kagami:''' Dammit! You've bested me again, Agreste!
33	* This is the main issue in [[WesternAnimation/TheOwlHouse Lilith]] and [[VideoGame/DevilMayCry Nero's]] relationship in ''Fanfic/TheSilverRaven''. Lilith is incredibly protective and downright smothering regarding her son, refusing to allow him to do anything that could be perceived as dangerous. As a result, Nero frequently sneaks out to [[DemonSlaying fight the demons of the isles' wilderness]] both for fun and to vent his frustrations. This later extends to him sneaking out to spend time with his aunt, who's ''far'' more open-minded and hands off than Lilith. Eda even tells Lilith that her overprotective, suffocating parenting is the main reason why Nero's so sneaky to begin with.
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37	* ''WesternAnimation/{{Coco}}'': Miguel's family is very intimate and loving, but [[ForbiddenFruit music is strictly banned]]. This causes him to hide his secret passion for music from all of them.
38	* In ''WesternAnimation/TheLittleMermaidArielsBeginning'', King Triton bans music from the kingdom after it indirectly causes his wife's death. As a result, Ariel goes behind his back and starts attending a secret music club. He doesn't handle it well, which leads to Ariel CallingTheOldManOut.
39	* Implied in ''WesternAnimation/{{Tangled}}''. Rapunzel actively hides Pascal from Mother Gothel, likely for fear that if discovered he would be taken away from her.
40	* ''WesternAnimation/TurningRed'': Part of Mei's [[ComingOfAgeStory growth]] throughout the film has her skirting around her normally strict schedule and expectations placed by her [[MyBelovedSmother mother]] Ming. Even before the panda pushed her to be more daring, she attempts to hide away her romantic drawings of Devon and it is implied that everything she says to her is at least subconsciously edited to please her or fit her expectations. After getting the panda, Mei lies about her afterschool whereabouts, her diminishing school performance, and sneaking off to Tyler's party.
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43	[[folder:Films -- Live-Action]]
44	* In ''Film/BendItLikeBeckham,'' the plot is fueled by Jess's conservative Indian parents forbidding her from playing football, and her finding increasingly ridiculous ways to sneak out of the house to play on a semi-professional girl's team without them finding out.
45	* In ''Film/DeadPoetsSociety'', Neil Perry's father talks to Dean Nolan and Neil is no longer the assistant editor for the school annual. Later on, Neil forges a letter that makes it look like his dad and Dean Nolan gave permission to participate in "A Midsummer Night's Dream" at nearby Henley Hall. After Neil's father finds out, he orders him to quit the play, but Neil finds a way to perform in the play, believing his dad is taking a business trip to Chicago, only for his dad to arrive at Henley Hall and drag him home to enlist him in military school. Feeling as though he has no other escape, Neil is DrivenToSuicide.
46	* In ''Film/EskimoDay'', the well-meaning but overbearing parents cause Neil and Pippa to hide their doings that would worry them.
47	* Franchise/MonsterVerse:
48	** ''Film/GodzillaKingOfTheMonsters2019'': [[Characters/MonsterVerseRussellFamily Madison]]'s mother Emma tries to limit Madison's security violations at Monarch, [[spoiler:and she's even outright emotionally manipulative to the girl [[EcoTerrorist in a horrible way]]]]. Madison in turn is skilled enough to steal the ORCA, sneak out through a ventilation shaft, and walk a few miles on foot without being detected by her mother [[spoiler:or by the murderous mercenaries her mother has been working with]] until she's far away.
49	** ''Film/GodzillaVsKong'': Madison is now living with her father Mark, who [[MyBelovedSmother cuts her out of Monarch's investigation into Godzilla's attacks entirely]], wanting her to stay at home and in school. How does Madison respond? By getting a fellow high schooler to steal his brother's truck so she can sneak out of home in it and break into Apex Cybernetics' old factory herself. Bonus points in the novelization, where Mark tried to have Madison's aunt keep her under watch to stop her from disobeying him, but Madison timed her jailbreak between her father's departure and her aunt's arrival.
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53	* Downplayed in ''{{Literature/Animorphs}}'': the parents aren't particularly strict, though they consider setting tougher rules due to failing grades. Their kids are sneaky because they regularly go out to save the world.
54	* Little Willie Connolly in J.R. Lowell's occult thriller ''Literature/DaughterOfDarkness'' is a [[DeliberatelyCuteChild Deliberately Cute]] ChildProdigy who obeys all her parents' rules, carefully maintaining her "facade of docility" so that there's no need to supervise her. Her privacy is extremely important, as is her doll collection, which everyone assumes is connected with her anthropological studies. [[RitualMagic They're partly right]].
55	* In ''Literature/MakingMoney'', Moist von Lipwig recalls that his childhood meals often included offal, which was "exactly the sort of food that one should serve to kids if one wanted them to grow up skilled in the arts of bare-faced lying, sleight of hand, and camouflage."
56	* ''Literature/TheNo1LadiesDetectiveAgency:'' In the first book, a rich Indian man tries to strictly control his daughter's life, and when the daughter starts sneaking away, he suspects she's seeing a secret boyfriend. He hires the detective Precious Ramotswe to find out who this boyfriend is. Mma Ramotswe finds there isn't any boyfriend: the daughter is just sneaking away to make her dad think she's seeing someone, as an act of rebellion. So Mma Ramotswe reports what she found to the dad, and urges him to just give his daughter some more autonomy, and he agrees. [[spoiler:And at the very end, Mma Ramotswe discovers the daughter played her like a fiddle, and actually does have a secret boyfriend.]]
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60	* Discussed in ''Series/DharmaAndGreg'', when they find themselves taking care of a friend's teenage daughter. Greg and Dharma argue about keeping her away from her boyfriend. When Dharma claims that they'll find a way to get together anyway, Greg agrees, but insists that it's their job as guardians to lay down the rules, and force kids to sneak around in order to date.
61	-->'''Dharma:''' Greg, that's ridiculous.\
62	'''Greg:''' No, it's darwinian. The smartest ones get to breed.
63	* ''Series/EverybodyLovesRaymond'': In the episode "The Disciplinarian", Robert and Ray reveal that both of them had often snuck out after curfew as teenagers without ever getting caught, despite Marie and especially Frank's strict rules (Ray would take the car and always refill the gas so Frank wouldn't notice, and Robert once stole a bottle of Frank's liquor by inching the padlocked cabinet away from the wall and popping out the back panel). Their reminiscing, however, leads to Ray feeling helpless when he thinks about setting rules for his own children, given that all his own parents' rules did was make him and Robert better at sneaking around them.
64	* Lane Kim on ''Series/GilmoreGirls'' has a whole secret life her extremely religious EducationMama knows nothing about. Over the years, Lane evolved an impressively complex system of hiding places, alibis, alliances and various schemes to allow her to talk to boys, listen to secular music, and wear modern clothes without her mother's knowledge.
65	* In ''Series/TheNanny'', Maxwell is adamant in not letting Maggie, his teenage daughter, date, thinking boys will just mistreat her. However, he ends up loosening up on this thanks to Fran's influence, who thinks that dating is a part of growing up.
66	-->'''Fran:''' If you don't let them [boys] in thought the front door, then they'll just sneak out the back window.
67	* In the first season of ''Series/StrangerThings'', Mike and Nancy's mother bans them from going out after daylight hours when Will disappears. Mike gets around this by sneaking out in the middle of the night to look for Will with Dustin and Lucas. Nancy lies and tells her mother she's going to a school rally for Will, actually going to a party with Barb.
68	* ''Series/{{Smallville}}'': In the episode "Harvest", Lois revealed to Clark that she had learned lockpicking skills in her youth so she could sneak out whenever her father had grounded her. In her own words, "This Army brat's picked more locks than Houdini."
69	* Eric and Laurie (and later Hyde) from ''Series/That70sShow'' chafe at [[JerkWithAHeartOfGold Red]]'s rules and enforcement, and often attempt to sneak around him. Results vary.
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73	* Craig David's song "Fill Me In," about a young couple who have to sneak around because her parents don't approve of their relationship. The girl's parents are noticing all the discrepancies in her stories and her behavior and demand an explanation, which only encourages the deception.
74	-->''We were just doing things young people in love do\
75	Parents tryna find out what we were up to\
76	Saying, "Why can't you keep your promises no more?\
77	Say you'll be home by twelve, come strolling in at four?\
78	Out with the girls, but leaving with the boy next door\
79	Can you fill me in?" (Fill me in)\
80	Wearing a jacket, whose property?\
81	Said you'd been queuing for a taxi\
82	But you left all your money on the TV (can you tell me?)\
83	Can you fill me in? (Can you fill me in?)''
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86	[[folder:Theatre]]
87	* ''Theatre/RomeoAndJuliet'': Lord and Lady Capulet are both completely uncompromising with their daughter, trying to force Juliet to marry Paris whether she likes it or not. This provides further motivation for her abrupt elopement with Romeo, and ultimately leads to her death, after which they finally see the error in their ways.
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91	* ''Webcomic/StandStillStaySilent'': Reynir's parents don't like the idea of him leaving home, to the point that they lied to him about the extent to which he was allowed to travel internationally by the law until one of his brothers set him straight. The first time Reynir went to another country, he left his home during the night. The second time, he claimed that he was simply going to visit another town. That happens to have a port.
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94	[[folder:Western Animation]]
95	* In ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'', [[Characters/AvatarTheLastAirbenderTophBeifong Toph Beifong's]] parents were over-protective and strict with their "helpless little blind girl"...which resulted in her becoming the reigning champion of an underground earthbending arena behind their backs, and ultimately running away to teach Aang earthbending (she is blind, but her earthbending is so strong she can easily pass for being sighted if she isn't asked to read). It takes her saving her father and his employees from a cave-in and an iron mine for him to recognize her worth (note that this is ''after'' she invents metalbending ''and'' helps take down the Fire Nation).
96	** ''WesternAnimation/TheLegendOfKorra'': {{Inverted\|Trope}} by Toph Beifong, who wanted her kids to have the freedom she never had. [[NoGoodDeedGoesUnpunished As a result]], one of her daughters falls in with a criminal gang and the other becomes a ByTheBookCop, Ironically, the first daughter manages to get a good life, but the second one greatly resents Toph and accuses her of ParentalAbandonment. Even worse, Toph's grandchild becomes a villain still resentful of his mother, so it seems that for the entire maternal Beifong's lineage, the FreudianExcuse is a running theme.
97	* [[Characters/MiraculousLadybugHawkMoth Gabriel Agreste]] from ''WesternAnimation/MiraculousLadybug'' is an incredibly strict and controlling parent who completely micromanages his son's life while having little part in it. He's completely oblivious to Adrien's secret life as a superhero [[spoiler:fighting supervillains of Gabriel's own making]], and also his frequent excursions as a civilian that involve him sneaking out of the house.
98	* ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'': {{Subverted\|Trope}} -- it is eventually revealed that Reverend Lovejoy is an utter {{Jerkass}} of a parent that refuses to acknowledge Jessica as a regular human being that seeks attention and love. As a result, when Jessica recites her long criminal record in an attempt to draw his attention, he just places his hands over his ears and sings church songs so he won't hear her as he runs out of the room.
99	* ''WesternAnimation/StaticShock'': Richie's father is a strict parent, as well as a visibly racist man. So it's revealed in the episode "Sons of the Fathers" that Richie's kept his friendship with Virgil a secret from his father (mostly a lie by omission, though, as he mentioned Virgil but never told his dad that Virgil was African-American). Downplayed in that Richie's mother seems a lot less strict (as well as not racist), and is perfectly fine with Richie and Virgil being friends.
100	* ''WesternAnimation/StevenUniverse'':
101	** [[Characters/StevenUniverseConnieMaheswaran Connie Maheswaran]] has strict parents who punish her harshly for rule-breaking, and as a result she kept her activities with the Crystal Gems a secret, including her sword-fighting lessons with Pearl. In the episode "Nightmare Hospital", Connie's mother finds her sword and is horrified. Connie confesses that she's been fighting monsters with Steven for the past year, [[CallingTheOldManOut finally telling her how much she hates her parents' over-protective and restrictive nature]], shocking her mother. In the end, Connie agrees to stop keeping secrets from her parents and her mother agrees to loosen up on the rules, and they hug it out.
102	--->'''Connie:''' Really, Mom, I know to do this!\
103	'''Dr. Maheswaran:''' No you don't!\
104	'''Steven:''' Yes she does! She's been training! She wasn't playing around with that sword, she was taking classes learning how to use it right! Even though she's always studying or practicing tennis or doing her homework, she still works really hard to be a good sword fighter.\
105	'''Dr. Maheswaren:''' No. No, no, no, no, no, no. I know my daughter. I know what she's doing every second of the day, all her activities, all her internets. I know she's definitely ''not'' some sword-fighting hooligan!\
106	'''Connie:''' [[CallingTheOldManOut You don't know me at all!]]
107	** In season 5, [[spoiler:we discover [[Characters/StevenUniversePinkDiamond Pink Diamond]] had a similar relationship with her fellow Diamonds. Despite being much more assertive than Connie, Pink was still undermined by Yellow and Blue, considered to be her main parental figures. As a result, she is forced to keep her alter-ego as [[Characters/StevenUniverseRoseQuartz Rose Quartz]] and her visits to Earth, which is strictly forbidden by the Diamonds, a secret. When they refuse to let her give up her colony and end up taking control of the planet away from her because she won't complete it, Pink ends up secretly betraying them and faked her death with Pearl's help. Ultimately, the Diamonds are still unaware of Pink's true fate for thousands of years until the end of "Reunited".]]
108	* ''WesternAnimation/TangledTheSeries'': Cassandra is the adoptive daughter of the Captain of the guard and so she is a MilitaryBrat. The standards Cassandra's father sets for her are higher then for everyone else and he prefers Cassandra works as a LadyInWaiting rather than let her join the Royal Guard. Cassandra wants to have adventures and sneaks princess Rapunzel out of the castle to see some strange rocks, kicking off the plot. The first season shows Cassandra helping Rapunzel getting into adventures, the King finds out and sends Cassandra to a convent. In the third season of the series, this backfires spectacularly: Cassandra discovers she is the daughter of Mother Gothel, who kidnapped princess Rapunzel when she was a child and committed ParentalAbandonment to Cassandra; Cassandra becomes the last season ArcVillain and is considered the biggest threat the Kingdom has ever faced.
109	* Most incarnations of the [[Franchise/TeenageMutantNinjaTurtles TMNT]] depicts Splinter as a loving but strict parent, sometimes [[ParentsAsPeople going to extremes if he believes it will keep his sons safe]] (such as refusing to let the Turtles leave their home whenever a serious threat (such as the Shredder) appears). This often leads to the Turtles sneaking out to deal with a MonsterOfTheWeek (or just to have some fun). [[DefiedTrope Splinter usually]] [[CaughtComingHomeLate catches them coming back later]], showing that he's often aware of his sons' activities.
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