Romance

I get that, it'll just take a bit of work to find them, is all. Have to cost/benefit analysis that guy, the stress of looking versus the glory of having.

Not really. Studies have shown that people generally tend to be attracted to those who share similarities with them (or at least those who are perceived to be similar).

(If I were back at school right now I could link some, since I actually am using a couple articles about that as part of my senior thesis.)

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Even in cases of extreme similarities? I was talking about such outliers, mostly.

I wonder if narcissistic personality would seek mates that share similar traits with them?

Right. Like is attracted to like, barring Twincest only through the Westermarcke Effect.

In other news, i just had a delightful 10 minute conversation with the girl. She came into the office with a form for my boss, helped her out, then we walked and talked back to my desk, turned to leave, then apparently had a thought, turned back around, and we talked another five minutes about class. :-D

Why would that be any different?

And again, in general, people tend to seek partners who are similar to themselves, so narcissistic people would hardly be different in that respect.

edited 30th Sep '14 12:14:10 PM by Odd1

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At least I've started to meet more people with similar interests. The only issue is making a lasting connection. Such is life.

Projection. Everyone does it. It's that simple.

Fear the cinnamon sugar swirl. By the Gods, fear it, Laurence.

Made the ask, got a "not today," so made a hard ask for next Wednesday which she agreed to, quite informally. She was busy typing an email on her phone so I didn't stay to chat.

So I got my "further into October" after all, but don't feel especially good about it for some reason. Perhaps because i wanted this to be over by today (one way or another, mini-date or flat rejection). Postponement prolongs the stress.

Oh well, Smash Bros this weekend, and my cousin's wedding. Won't be at home climbing the walls.

So I finally asked out someone I intended to ask out all the way back in high school and she says around halloween we can prob go for coffee.

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Is that a bad thing? Hard to tell.

Sounds good to me.

VERY GOOD. :)

She's still cute as a button.

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Well, I don't think this will be getting any farther with that girl. She got back together with her boyfriend. Given that they've apparently been together for a year and a half, I'm not too surprised

I tried texting a guy and asking if he wanted to go out, the he got upset when i didnt respond to his texts immediately and said I was ignoring him, now he thinks we shoudn talk anymore cuz hes too needy....

Know that feel

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I've really got to stop spending so much time fantasizing about relationships that are never going to happen. I get my hopes up far too often.

At least you have people to fantasize about. I've drifted away from all the hot girls I used to know, and haven't been meeting any new ones. :/

Standing on the edge of the crater...

Same here.

To be honest, when I look at it, I have no idea what I'd actually do if I asked a girl out and she said "yes."

I mean, i'm so incompetent that the idea of setting up a date is kind of....terrifying because i'd definitely fuck it up.

That's a bridge you can cross when you get there, Nova. These things are meant to be spontaneous at the end of the day.

Huh, forgot why i came here

She came by during work again, dropping off another form for my boss. Less conversational this time, but she was in the middle of a class (three hour classes, again, so they give us breaks midway). No mention was made of the lunch plans

And now I am prey to a million insecurities.

This does, however, mean that i've isolated one more of her classes, so know 3/4ths of her schedule.

If i had to guess, the 4th class is on Monday when i'm not around. Not that it really matters.

edited 2nd Oct '14 8:22:21 AM by Ogodei

But seriously, glad my endeavors are starting to look up.

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So, I'm back to being an absolute n00b in talking to girls/women. Here's how it went:

I'm doing an internship in another city, and so I've been living there since a month ago. It is an old folks' home/religious house, which means there ar only two young people: me and a cute (but recovering from a medical problem, I think) who's in university.

We mostly only get to see each other during dinner (it's in a big dining room) and I'm opposite her, which doesn't leave much comfortable space to talk (especially with some old folks who we already know well enough).

During a breakfast, we manage to see each other (she goes to the Uni before I go to the company, so it was a lucky meeting) and we were the only ones there. However, I didn't say anything besides the usual "Good morning" "See you at evening" and stuff like that. So, it was already slightly awkward.

Later at night, I decided to wrote a note (on paper):

"Hello, [her name]. I didn't talk much early in the morning in that room (and most of the times, as you've probably already noticed), mostly because I've never felt entirely comfortable there (and it doesn't help the fact that we're sitting in our tables opposite to each other, across the room).

I would like to talk to you once in a while. In case you're not feeling tired and you can/want to talk for a while, we can talk a bit after dinner (or whenever you feel like it).

If, however, you don't want/can't or you're feeling uncomfortable, you can ignore this. There won't be any problems/issues and I won't bring up the matter anymore. I understand.

If you want to answer, you can leave a response behind the door (Floor X, Room I).

[Signature]"

I put the paper behind her door (you can fit it below the door and push it to put it inside the room).

She did not answered. She said, as usual, "Good evening" at dinner time.

But I feel that I fucked up and made things awkward. It wasn't noticeable, but I could kinda feel it.

How did I manage to reach rock bottom? (*headdesks)

edited 2nd Oct '14 1:47:19 PM by Quag15

This is why you should do it in person. That's one rule i've taken to heart in my current escapades.

Do it in person and they can't ignore you, and you basically force a response (though be cautious about that, don't want to put her on the spot, but she at least has to acknowledge your request in person)

So, there's this one new girl that I've met that I'm kind of interested in. For context, I work sat my college's radio station as a DJ, and since the semester just started a month ago, we've got tons of fresh new faces on the staff. As I'm finishing up my show two weeks ago (TUESDAY NIGHTS FROM 8-10 PM EST AND YOU CAN LISTEN ON http://www.wmcx.com :D), this one girl comes in the studio for the next shift. She's very shy and nervous, since a) it's her first day doing this, b) she's a freshman, of course she's scared of everything, and c) her partner for her show didn't show up^note and he never did and still hasn't. She said that she found out from someone else that he has social anxiety and pretty much never leaves his room, but that just raises the question for me as to why he would've signed up to be a DJ in the first place...*ahem*. So, I decide to hang back and help her out through her show (after briefly blatantly flirting with her on the air and making her blush ). While we're there, we got to talking a lot and hit it off. I gave her my number and she even texted me after we got back to our rooms.

I stuck around after my show this past Tuesday as well and more or less same thing, we talked a lot—mostly about music, but a bunch about our lives too. I suggested at one point that we should hang out outside the station someday soon, and she agreed. I actually meant to ask her out tonight (she'd told me that she's free after 4 every day, and tonight was the only free night I had when I could be at school and wouldn't be working)...but I've had so little sleep over the past few days that I slept the afternoon and evening away. *facepalm*

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BOY YA GOTTA TAP DAT ASS

Now I'm imagining the Beatles singing that to the tune of "Carry that Weight"...

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REPOST SINCE I GOT PAGEBOTTOMED:

So, there's this one new girl that I've met that I'm kind of interested in. For context, I work sat my college's radio station as a DJ, and since the semester just started a month ago, we've got tons of fresh new faces on the staff. As I'm finishing up my show two weeks ago (TUESDAY NIGHTS FROM 8-10 PM EST AND YOU CAN LISTEN ON http://www.wmcx.com :D), this one girl comes in the studio for the next shift. She's very shy and nervous, since a) it's her first day doing this, b) she's a freshman, of course she's scared of everything, and c) her partner for her show didn't show up^note and he never did and still hasn't. She said that she found out from someone else that he has social anxiety and pretty much never leaves his room, but that just raises the question for me as to why he would've signed up to be a DJ in the first place...*ahem*. So, I decide to hang back and help her out through her show (after briefly blatantly flirting with her on the air and making her blush ). While we're there, we got to talking a lot and hit it off. I gave her my number and she even texted me after we got back to our rooms.

I stuck around after my show this past Tuesday as well and more or less same thing, we talked a lot—mostly about music, but a bunch about our lives too. I suggested at one point that we should hang out outside the station someday soon, and she agreed. I actually meant to ask her out tonight (she'd told me that she's free after 4 every day, and tonight was the only free night I had when I could be at school and wouldn't be working)...but I've had so little sleep over the past few days that I slept the afternoon and evening away. *facepalm*

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