Romance

No problem. Coffee is relatively common among us young folks (especially after lunch). On the other hand, usually "wanna have a coffee [with me]?" means "wanna hang out/have some good time?" Some people end up having tea instead.

Well, we're from the same city, but she has been living and working in Porto. And I'm only gonna stay there while the internship lasts.

But yeah, maybe I'm gonna invite her in my last week there or something.

edited 5th Sep '14 4:44:56 PM by Quag15

i'd say you don't have much to lose considering you're not even looking for too much anyway.

Yeah, that's pretty much it.

So plans to hang out with my current interest fell through tonight. Apparently something urgent came up. Honestly, I'm thinking it was a case of "god, I don't want to hang out with THAT guy".

Even though last weekend we hung out and it was fun. Whatever, I'm gonna get comfortably numb to the pain through life's general anesthetic. Tired of this shit...

Just don't date coworkers. DONT....

(Though the girl I find cute at work might be leaving....)

Also, don't work co-daters .

Also, work date co-don'ters.

That actually makes sense in a weird way. o.O

Welp, one thing I can confirm for sure is that the grass is indeed greener on the other side - at least when you grow fond of someone whose name literally means "green", and who lives across the ocean .

I feel I unintentionally flirt at times I've noticed. Like I'll give a compliment on a lady's glasses and my coworker said I was a "Lady-killer" afterwards, when that was meant as an innocent compliment....lol he could be kidding but idk

Of course they're teasing you.

Is it bad to have romance as a life goal/dream?

Because when i think of goals/dreams, that's all i think about, probably because i have no talent in anything

It's not, Nova - but don't make it your only goal.

There's one 18 year old who's doing a law degree this year, and she did it because although she quite wants a boyfriend first of all, she has something else in mind where she can enter the legal profession and where it leads from there.

You'll probably find you have skills focused on one area and can work from there, you just need to find what it is.

I just want someone to decipher my weird third eye I have for relationships (my predictions on couples getting together and the timing of their breakup are rarely ever wrong) or wishful thinking. Everyone says when someone who has a significant other is into you you can sense it, but I don't wanna be too sure. How would you guys say you can tell?

ETA: ;)

edited 26th Feb '15 9:15:29 PM by GigglesMcYummy

I feel the exact same way, Nova.

If it's your ONLY goal - yes i'd say that's bad. Keeping healthy relationships with people in GENERAL (besides romance) is important to being happy in most cases, but you can't rely entirely on other people to validate you. it'll only lead to problems even if you do find a significant other (i'm speaking from personal experience, mind you).

if you don't believe you have natural talents, you can become decent at almost anything if you put in enough time. it's moreso just finding something you're willing to put the time and effort into. i started drawing when i was about 9 years old and had no natural affinity for it, and after 12 years i'm not a professional by any means but i've gotten good enough that the average person gives me genuine compliments on my art. i doubt myself a lot, but even when i think i can't improve, given enough time i usually notice myself getting better. if i was 100% super dedicated i could have been REALLY good at this point, probably. the point is, "natural talent" doesn't mean all that much, hard work and dedication will pay off a lot more in the end.

with that said, most people are usually good at something, even if they don't give it much value or don't know what it is yet.

edited 7th Sep '14 4:30:58 PM by wehrmacht

and Well said

A romantic pursuit as the sole pursuit simply ends up coming off as desperate and using whoever the target of affection is as some kind of emotional crutch.

edited 7th Sep '14 4:42:51 PM by terlwyth

That and (i'm not directing this at anyone in particular, just to be clear) people who are way too focused on relationships in general just tend not to be that interesting in my experience. i want to be with someone with passions, hobbies, goals, dreams, etc.

my advice for romance in general is just chill, focus on self-improvement and becoming an interesting and attractive individual, and people will be attracted to you naturally.

edited 7th Sep '14 4:42:50 PM by wehrmacht

Been dating this guy, Dre, for 3 months and couldnt be happier. There is one thing that makes me slightly uncomfortable but I can handle it, because I trust him.

Edited by HellmanSabian on Dec 22nd 2020 at 9:10:32 AM

Lelz.

edited 26th Feb '15 9:15:07 PM by GigglesMcYummy

I'm boning someone on the regular, I don't know if it's a romantic relationship, but it's an occurrence that isn't a one night stand and we have moments together.

Yeah, I've been there. I hate labels but not having them can make for a confusing and slightly depressing love life.

I don't know about this attachment stuff. That's why I'm not naming it anything.

edited 8th Sep '14 9:37:32 PM by SilentlyHonest