Asexuals and Aromantics Unite!

That's pretty neat, actually!

Oh that's cool.

So I've been thinking:

I'm definitely not asexual, the less said on that the better. Whether I'm aromantic or not is a trickier question I've been internally debating on. I've had feelings towards some that seemed at the time to be romantic, but when I think of actually acting in such a way I just don't like it and don't want to do it. Not to mention on closer examination that feeling is pretty close what I experience when I have a new friend.

So I see two possibilities: 1) I sometimes I have both sexual and friendly feelings toward someone and I just interpret the later as romantic because that's what I've learned to expect; or 2) I actually do have lovey-dovey feelings but dislike the usual methods of acting on them (not helped by times when people look down on couples that act differently and say they're not really in love, which is something I think couples shouldn't worry to much about).

I know this isn't worth losing sleep over (I lose sleep over much more important things :P), but does this sound familiar to anyone? Sorry if this didn't make a lot of sense, I often have problems with conveying ideas clearly.

I think that's called WTFromantic or Quoiromantic.

edited 5th Aug '16 1:51:27 AM by Elfive

I think if you feel "romantic" towards all of your friends, then there is a 90% chance that you are just feeling part of what friendship is. It is not just wanting to talk to them, after all. 10% chance that you are really romantic, and want to love up everyone. But that doesn't match what you said, so...

But this is just a guess, as I do experience romantic feelings for others.

Thanks; I think I need more experience before I can find out for sure. Until then I guess I'll hang out here.

i'm a gray-asexual

Cool, was this a recent realization? I'm happy for you.

that and i could be repressed for all i know. but for now i'm a celibate Covert Pervert

So I noticed something: both here and in other places I've heard accounts from and of ace not-aro people than aro not-ace ones. Does anyone have differing observations?

I guess there's more to talk about with the former.

Like, if you want to have a relationship, but don't want sex, that can cause complications. The other way around it's not quite as big an issue. One-night-stands are a thing, and so are friends with benefits, and even if you're not the sort to go for that, like me (I'm aro-het btw), it's easy enough to just "fly solo" these days, if you know what I mean.

Hello everyone. This is a thread for asexual and aromatic people, correct?

Yeah, that's what this thread is for. ^_^

Ever since my friend found out she sends me sexy artwork she makes for how she can improve on it. Everyone else is Distracted by the Sexy

That is a very useful skill to have. Using asexuality for profit!

I can make a career out of helping artists of sexy artwork improve on shading and stuff.

Doesn't sound like the most dignified job, but it's something.

edited 11th Sep '16 7:55:32 AM by BlizzardeyeWonder

I think there might be something similar going on with me. People tell me I'm really good at writing smut. Probably because I tend to focus on the emotional aspect instead of going for Ikea Erotica

So you're saying that if everyone in this thread came together we could direct the world's best porno?

Those of us who aren't sex-repulsed, yes.

Well, we're young and need the money, so...

in a way i'm somewhat ace and i wanna make a few porn and fetish themed comics

I finally got an Ace Ring. there was a booth at the Scottish Festival I go to that had black rings with free engraving, so I got one. it says " hella ace"

Ooh, that's neat. I had an ace ring once, but I lost it.

(Should probably post in this thread more often than I do...)

I ordered an ace ring last week - should be getting here pretty soon. Nothing fancy, just a plain black steel band, but I've always been a fan of that minimalist sort of style. I like the idea of having a symbol that shows pride in your identity, especially given how much the idea of asexuality tends to be stigmatized by mainstream culture.

I hear that wearing a black ring is also frequently a sign of swingers. That's kind of the opposite of what this is supposed to represent, so I'm sure there are any number of amusing sitcom-style misunderstandings that could result from that. But hey, I'll brave it.

Singers avoid the middle finger in their little code, specifically because of asexuals. I'm not sure if we asked them to or what.

edited 11th Sep '16 2:55:55 PM by SalFishFin