Some smart people
claim that humans have only two main focuses in life, Sex and Death. Some other smart people seem to agree and decide to blend these two themes together in the works they produce.
And Going occurs when Sex and Death are associated closely together by the way the narrative is presented to the audience. It is very similar, though different to Death by Sex
, which specifically refers to a sex scene which causes a character's death, either directly or by provoking a genre convention
. Coming And Going occurs when a sex act doesn't cause or pre-empt a death, but is linked with it by the way the scenes are framed close together. Often, the lovers will not even be aware of the death and sometimes don't even have any direct connection to the dead/dying character(s).
Similar to Birth/Death Juxtaposition
, except this trope focuses mainly on Sex itself rather than the act of giving birth. Conception may
occur, which can often lead to Someone to Remember Him By
. Out with a Bang
, being a subtrope of Death by Sex
, is also closely related. Also compare Glad-to-Be-Alive Sex
and Interplay of Sex and Violence
The Coming And Going theme can be used with numerous tones: to build drama, suspense, ick factor, or just throw the audience a shattering curveball.
As a Death Trope, all Spoilers will be unmarked ahead. Beware.
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- Amélie: Implied. A one-shot extra crosses the name of his recently deceased friend out of his little black book at the exact same moment as the title character's conception (only the sperm entering the egg is shown).
- In Backdraft one of Alec Baldwin's brothers gets to send his fireman into his girlfriend's internal inferno while at that same moment, one of his fire fighter bretheren is just about to be critically injured out on a call. Mightn't quite qualify as the fireman doesn't die, but the theme of fragile mortality is heavy.
- Cabin Fever:
- Cemetery Man features a sex scene that takes place in a cemetery, on top of a grave. To top it off, they do it right beside the fresh grave of the young woman's recently deceased husband. Subsequently turns out to be a Death By Sex scene.
- The remake of Children of the Corn (2009) has a sex scene completely unrelated to the plot towards the end of the movie. The scene depicts an occult fertility ritual which involves two teens having sex in a church in front of all the Children Of The Corn. The scene is interspliced with scenes of the main character stumbling around a cornfield, encountering dead bodies of the cult members he'd already killed. The two scenes culminate with the hero's cries of anguish echoing the woman's orgasm screams. Strong association with Birth/Death Juxtaposition as the ceremony's purpose was to impregnate the woman. This also implies Someone to Remember Him By with the film's conclusion.
- In Bram Stoker's Dracula, Jonathon Harker is seduced by three undead lady vampires, he doesn't actually have any rigor mortus coitus because the Count himself interrupts them. The vampire ladies eat a baby instead.
- Red Dragon: The killer receives a blowjob while watching video footage of the family he plans to murder.
- Scent of a Woman: Pacino outlines his long weekend plans, the key points on his itinerary being to get laid one last time and soon after commit suicide. Technically not Death by Sex, nor Out with a Bang as the sex and his death, which doesn't actually happen, are two separate events.
- In Swordfish, the main character is simultaneously given a blow job on orders from the master criminal, while being held at gunpoint by the same guy.
- Taking Lives features a sex scene between a lead detective and the star witness, surrounded by crime scene photos of all the murder victims, which are shown briefly in closeup.
- Team America: World Police: The wild puppet sex scene is immediately followed by a terrorist attack in another country that kills many people.
- Excalibur (1981) Merlin shapeshifts Uther into a likeness of Cornwall so that he can have his way with his wife, Igrayne, while the real Cornwall is ambushed and mortally wounded by Uther's men. The camera cuts back and forth between the bedroom where Uther is sating his lust for Igrayne, and the battle field where Cornwall lays dying.
- In The Grapes of Wrath, Connie (a guy) and Rose of Sharon have sex on the last leg of their ride into California. When they arrive they discover that Grandma Joad has died, and Rose of Sharon is horrified to realize the two events happened at the same time.
- Castle: Vaguely. In one episode, the prime suspect's alibi for his best friend's murder is the confession that he was having sex with the victim's wife at the time.
- True Blood juxtaposes Sam making love to Luna with his brother Tommy taking a fatal beating on Sam's behalf from Luna's jealous ex-husband.
- The Teaser of one CSI: Crime Scene Investigation episode intercut the murder of the week with Catherine having mad passionate sex with her then-boyfriend Detective Lou Vartann.
- Fahrenheit features a sex scene in which the man is essentially a walking corpse (unknown to the woman). Heightened by the fact that the woman is talking about humanity's probable immanent extinction just before they do the deed. Almost an "Out with a Bang" or "A Great Way To Go", except neither of the lovers seem resigned to dying and point of fact, neither of them do.