History Main / AManISAlwaysEager

* Subverted in ComicBook/MarvelStarWars and some other Franchise/StarWarsExpandedUniverse comics featuring a young Luke Skywalker. Luke is popular with women to the point of being a ChickMagnet, but never initiates a kiss and in fact seems shocked whenever one is [[ForcefulKiss forced on him]]. The first time he encounters several Zeltrons who all want to sleep with him he's highly dismayed and only wants to get away; later in the series he's more comfortable around them but deftly deflects all offers and prefers to be by himself. When a fellow Rebel that he's friends with propositions him for some casual sex, he turns her down despite being in a spat with Leia.

Almost as unfortunately, some [[http://www.denisdutton.com/baumeister.htm studies]] suggest there is impressive amount of TruthInTelevision here: Recent research using DNA analysis (discovered that) today’s human population is descended from twice as many women as men. ...For many men, there would be few chances to reproduce so they had be ready for every opportunity. If a man said “not today, I have a headache,” he might miss his only chance.

* In the ''WesternAnimation/{{Futurama}}'' episode "Amazon Women In The Mood", Fry, Kif, Bender and Zapp are to be executed. The method: "[[DeathBySex Death... by ''snu-snu''!]] The reactions include "I never thought I would die like this...but I always really hoped!" and "The spirit is willing but the flesh is spongy and bruised." Kif, the long-suffering OnlySaneMan, is the only one to react with undiluted horror, which [[MistakenForGay gets him called gay]] - by [[JerkAss Zapp]].

If a male character is shown ''not'' jumping at the chance to have sex with a woman, he will be either gay or MistakenForGay (the latter scenario can be TruthInTelevision). This is also common in DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale; the idea that men can't be raped by women because men are always willing to have sex, with any woman, at any time. This is also one of reasons for the stigma against {{Asexuality}}, especially in men; since all men supposedly enjoy sex, not being interested in it "clearly" means there's something wrong with the them.

If a male character is shown ''not'' jumping at the chance to have sex with a woman, he will be either gay or MistakenForGay (the latter scenario can be TruthInTelevision). This is also common in DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale; the idea that men can't be raped by women because men are always willing to have sex, with any woman, at any time.

One of the unfortunate results of this trope is that many people believe it in real life. Obviously, this can cause problems, with the partner convinced they've been utterly rejected if the man isn't up for it right that second, and the man thinking there's something seriously wrong with him physically or psychologically. Taken to extremes, this can lead to men being on the receiving end of emotional or sexual abuse, or even rape.

* Subverted in ''[[Comicbook/RobinSeries Robin]]'' and ''Comicbook/RedRobin'' by Tim Drake despite having about five girlfriends over the course of the comics and and being propositioned for sex thrice he always responds with LetsWaitAwhile being one of the very few {{Celibate Hero}}s in the DCU.

* Subverted and {{defied|Trope}} in ''Webcomic/{{Flipside}}'' by ChasteHero Crest, who begins the comic inelegantly trying to score with his crush, but ends up turning down every woman who propositions him.

Almost as unfortunately, some [[http://www.denisdutton.com/baumeister.htm studies]] suggest there is impressive amount of TruthInTelevision here; Recent research using DNA analysis (discovered that) today’s human population is descended from twice as many women as men. ...For many men, there would be few chances to reproduce so they had be ready for every opportunity. If a man said “not today, I have a headache,” he might miss his only chance.

If a male character is shown ''not'' jumping at the chance to have sex with a woman, he will either be gay or MistakenForGay (the latter scenario can be TruthInTelevision). This is also common in DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale; the idea that men can't be raped by women because men are always willing to have sex, with any woman, at any time.

One of the unfortunate results of this trope is that many people believe it in real life. Obviously, this can cause problems, with the partner convinced they've been utterly rejected if the man isn't up for it right that second, and the man thinking there's something seriously wrong with him physically or psychologically. Taken to extremes, this can lead men being on the receiving end of emotional or sexual abuse, or even rape.

This is a form of DoubleStandard related to AllMenArePerverts and AllWomenArePrudes. Being a bit nervous about the whole thing is perfectly normal, and fiction will show this with both male and female characters. Usually, however, a male character will almost always be worried about how long it'll last, rather than the act itself. The flip-side of this particular trope is that, since every man is a slave to his own libido, every woman is borderline celibate. It is ''outrageous'' for any woman to enjoy, or even ''want'' sex.

If a male character is shown ''not'' jumping at the chance to have sex with someone (female), he will be gay. Or MistakenForGay - the latter scenario can be TruthInTelevision. This is also common in DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale; the idea that men cannot be raped by women because no man could ever be unwilling to have sex.

* Guts from ''Manga/{{Berserk}}'' may not be a sexually-driven man, and he has had his share of [[spoiler:sexually traumatizing experiences]], but in no way was he '''not''' looking forward to [[spoiler:having sex with his now-lover Casca a ''thousand more times'' after both of them lost their virginity to each other]], though he expresses his desire [[SingleTargetSexuality as a sign of devotion rather than general horniness.]] [[HeartbrokenBadass Too bad that things just didn't turn out the way they should have in the end.]]

* Played completely straight in ''Manga/FutariEcchi.'' Some of the women do want sex, but never to the extent of the men.
* Subverted in ''Anime/PantyAndStockingWithGarterbelt'': [[ShrinkingViolet Brief]] has a crush on [[LoveableSexManiac Panty]], but when she offhandedly suggests they have sex to celebrate a victory in battle, [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zYSv7o2P-uo#t=9m13s he sputters that she's going way too fast for him and he'd rather start out with a kiss on the cheek, ending with both Panty and Stocking telling him that he's blown his chance.]]
* Guts from ''Manga/{{Berserk}}'' may not be a sexually-driven man, and he has had his share of [[spoiler:sexually traumatizing experiences]], but in no way was he '''not''' looking forward to [[spoiler:having sex with his now-lover Casca a ''thousand more times'' after both of them lost their virginity to each other]] though he expresses his desire [[SingleTargetSexuality as a sign of devotion rather than general horniness.]] [[HeartbrokenBadass Too bad that things just didn't turn out the way they should have in the end.]]

''[[TelevisionIsTryingToKillUs This is a highly dangerous trope that is too often used as an excuse for rape in Real Life - it is a horrible experience to go through, and all too often the victims are shamed into silence by their attackers. If this is you, you need not be afraid. There are people who]]'' '''''[[TelevisionIsTryingToKillUs can]]''''' ''[[TelevisionIsTryingToKillUs and]]'' '''''[[TelevisionIsTryingToKillUs will]]''''' ''[[TelevisionIsTryingToKillUs help you.]]''

* ''LightNovel/SoICantPlayH'': For Ryosuke, [[{{Zigzagged}} it depends]] on the scene and ''the girl''.
** In episode 7, two of Lisara's maids start to have sex with him [[IntimateHealing to heal his wounds.]] But he was unresponsive, due to suffering extreme emotional trauma from nearly being killed, 'til he finally forces the maids off of him.
** If the girl is Lisara, that changes everything. From the moment he hooks up with her, he tries in earnest to get her in bed. Except she's a.) {{tsundere}} and b.) still a virgin. And she [[StatusQuoIsGod has no intentions of changing either one]] anytime soon.

* ''LightNovel/SoICantPlayH'': For Ryosuke, [[{{Zigzagged}} it depends]] on the scene and ''the girl''.
** In episode 7, two of Lisara's maids start to have sex with him [[IntimateHealing to heal his wounds.]] But he was unresponsive, due to suffering extreme emotional trauma from nearly being killed, 'til he finally forces the maids off of him.
** If the girl is Lisara, that changes everything. From the moment Ryosuke hooks up with her, he tries in earnest to get her in bed. Except she's a.) {{tsundere}} and b.) still a virgin. And she [[StatusQuoIsGod has no intentions of changing either one]] anytime soon.

* ''LightNovel/SoICantPlayH'': For Ryosuke, [[{{Zigzagged}} it depends]] on the scene and ''the girl''.
** In episode 7, two of Lisara's maids start to have sex with him [[IntimateHealing to heal his wounds.]] But he was unresponsive, due to suffering extreme emotional trauma from nearly being killed, 'til he finally forces the maids off of him.
** If the girl is Lisara, that changes everything. From the moment Ryosuke hooks up with her, his every waking thought trying to get her in bed. Except she's a.) {{tsundere}} and b.) still a virgin. And she [[StatusQuoIsGod has no intentions of changing either one]] anytime soon.

* Guts from ''Manga/{{Berserk}}'' may not be a sexually-driven man, and he has had his share of [[spoiler: sexually traumatizing experiences]], but in no way was he '''not''' looking forward to [[spoiler: having sex with his now-lover Casca a ''thousand more times'' after both of them lost their virginity to each other]] though he expresses his desire [[SingleTargetSexuality as a sign of devotion rather than general horniness.]] [[HeartbrokenBadass Too bad that things just didn't turn out the way they should have in the end.]]
* Issei from ''LightNovel/HighSchoolDxD'' is an interesting subversion. On the one hand, he constantly and loudly proclaims his eagerness to make out with any beautiful women, and has a well-deserved reputation as a pervert and a PeepingTom. On the other hand, any time things actually look like they might go somewhere he either [[ObliviousToLove fails to notice girl tries to seduce him]], or someone interrupts them. [[spoiler: Revealed to be deconstruction, since being murdered by his girlfriend on their first date made him afraid of getting too intimate with girls.]]

* PlayedWith in the ''Series/{{Glee}}'' fanfic ''FanFic/HuntingTheUnicorn''. [[spoiler: Blaine]] lost his virginity at sixteen, but being [[WideEyedIdealist very trusting]] and implied to think SexEqualsLove, he ended up strung along by a guy who clearly didn't feel the same way. When it turns out that [[spoiler: Blaine]] still had the guy's number ''[[LoveMartyr after they'd been broken up for WEEKS]]'', his big brother went insane and threatened to ''[[BewareTheNiceOnes burn the guy alive in his own house]]''. He's... [[ParalyzingFearOfSexuality not so eager anymore]].

* The boyfriend [[spoiler: who also happens to be the killer]] in ''Film/{{Scream 1996}}'' is like this.

* The main character in ''Film/SexDrive'' is like this, to the point that when he finally[[spoiler: loses his virginity to his best friend/girlfriend]] he asks the aforementioned question [[spoiler: the second time he has sex with her.]]

* Parodied, subverted ''and'' inverted in ''Film/AnotherGayMovie'', the guys are gay, but they're all eager to have sex, while still being nervous about it. Plus, they all proclaim themselves to be the dominant "tops" of their relationship, including the submissive "bottom". The one who is most eager about having sex is actually [[spoiler: a lesbian who "converts" several of her straight female classmates]].

* In ''Literature/DragonBones'', some men are this trope (Beckram, according to his brother Erdrick, has sex with everything that moves, which is a bit exaggerated, but not much), while some are not. When the protagonists travel with an attractive, but somewhat older woman (in her thirties, Ward, the oldest brother, is nineteen), she effortlessly seduces the two middle-aged men in the group, wins the affections of Ward's younger brother Tosten, and tries to seduce Ward. He's the only one who rejects her, and he's only able to do so because it wouldn't be wise to have sex while on guard duty at night. He later tells her that if not for the guard duty, he might have slept with her, but that it would have been wrong, as he doesn't really like casual sex. (There is also Oreg, who is also not so eager, but he's a bit of an exception, as he's Really700YearsOld, immortal, a magically bound slave, and suffers from PTSD. It's implied that he was sexually abused in the past. It would stretch suspense of disbelief if ''he'' was eager to have casual sex.)[[spoiler: Subverted in that it is later revealed that the seductress uses her magical powers to make men want sex with her - she suspects that Ward is too stubborn, so it doesn't work on him. It probably doesn't work on Oreg because he's a powerful mage and not quite human. Of course the two other men perhaps wouldn't have turned her down without magic, either, but it's never really explained.]]

* The kissing variant is also used in ''Series/{{iCarly}}'' between [[spoiler: [[FoeRomanceSubtext Sam and Freddie]]]].

* In one episode of ''Series/TheBigBangTheory'' Leonard feels the sting of this particular double standard when [[spoiler: Penny demands sex off him after he ruins her ability to date morons (and Leonard gladly obliges), when he attempts to do the same to both Penny and ex-partner Leslie both reject him out of hand.]]
--> [[spoiler: '''Leonard:''' [[LampshadeHanging I'm starting to think there's a double standard here.]] ]]

* ''Series/{{Castle}}'' loves playing with this trope. In one episode the guest star honestly questions whether Castle is gay or in a secret relationship because when she propositioned him he refused (which she said she had never heard a guy say in that context), in another one Esposito and Ryan quip that Castle wouldn't be able to resist a girl's advances on the grounds that "he's a man and he has a pulse", and another episode had most of the male cast absolutely dumbfounded that a woman apparently slipped a man a date-rape drug, with the men quipping "Who roofies a guy? All a girl has to do is ask" multiple times. [[spoiler: Later revealed that the murderer attempted to invoke this trope, but the man in question subverts it by refusing to cheat on his fiancé with his ex.]]

* In the ''WesternAnimation/{{Futurama}}'' episode "Amazon Women In The Mood", Fry, Kif, Bender and Zapp are to be executed. The method: "[[DeathBySex Death...by ''snu-snu''!]] The reactions include "I never thought I would die like this...but I always really hoped!" and "The spirit is willing but the flesh is spongy and bruised." Kif, the long-suffering OnlySaneMan, is the only one to react with undiluted horror, which [[MistakenForGay gets him called gay]] - by [[JerkAss Zapp]].

** Subverted later [[spoiler:with [[TheMole Pumyra]]]], when she starts flirting with him he just looks confused and vaguely disturbed, probably because he's been burned in the past and [[spoiler: because she tried ''killing him'' just a few hours earlier]].

* ''Anime/NeonGenesisEvangelion'' plays around with the trope when it comes the character of Kaji. While he is introduced as a flirtatious person and is frequently shown to hit on the women around him, later episode sees his HiddenDepths gradually emerge, during which it becomes clear that this behavior is at least partly an ObfuscatingStupidity act he employs as a part his DoubleAgent work. Some of the glimpses into the sexual bits of his relationship with Misato even implies that his sex drive might actually be quite a bit lower than hers; notably, in a flashback to when the two of them spent a week in bed together during their college days, Kaji is shown to be apprehensive about the situation and he even suggests that maybe they should take a break and get back to studying, while Misato is the one who insists they should just continue having sex instead.

* ''Anime/NeonGenesisEvangelion'' plays around with the trope when it comes the character of Kaji. While he is introduced as a flirtatious person and is frequently shown to hit on the women around him, later episode sees his HiddenDepths gradually emerge, during which it becomes clear that this behavior is at least partly an ObfuscatingStupidity act he employs as a part of his spying work as a DoubleAgent. Some of the glimpses into the sexual bits of his relationship with Misato even implies that his sex drive might actually be quite a bit lower than hers; notably, in a flashback to when the two of them spent a week in bed together during their college days, Kaji is shown to be apprehensive about the situation and he even suggests that maybe they should take a break and get back to studying, while Misato is the one who insists they should just continue having sex instead.