Line #64 Main/GayRomanticPhase


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6	[[quoteright:250:[[Manga/BloomIntoYou https://static.tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pub/images/phase.png]]]]
7	->'''Darryl:''' And let's not forget your little bisexual stage.\
8	'''Tim:''' Well, that just lasted two hours. Well, two and a half. You try watchin' Creator/BradPitt in ''Film/InterviewWithTheVampire'' and not feel a little conflicted.
9	-->-- ''Film/{{Senseless}}''
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11	An older and largely [[DiscreditedTrope discredited]] ([[UndeadHorseTrope but by no means dead]]) trope in which a same-sex romance among young(er) characters is portrayed as "just a phase", which will be set aside later for more serious heterosexual relationships. This is more common with female characters than males for several reasons, including the idea that GirlOnGirlIsHot and the fact that MostWritersAreMale. It is becoming less common and more commonly subverted these days, when compared to its heyday in decades past, as homo- and bisexuality have gained quite a bit more acceptance. If you see something like this in a newer work, expect one or both characters to say something along the lines of "It's not a phase. I really am gay/bi," and if two characters are in a same-sex relationship, and one ends it on these grounds, it's common for the other to actually be gay and deeply hurt about them breaking it off, especially if it happens in a character's backstory in works focused on QueerRomance.
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13	Note that for various cultural reasons, this trope is still relatively popular in Japan where gay romance, especially between girls, is still considered by many to be innocent and immature, with the expectation that it will give way to said "serious" romance by the time they graduate. These relationships are commonly known as "S Kankei" or "Class S," and tend to have a Senpai/Kohai dynamic to them. Attitudes do seem to be shifting, however, as polls from the late [[TheNewTens new tens]] and early [[TheNewTwenties new twenties]] have found that the majority of people, and the vast majority of under sixties, are in favor of legalizing same-sex marriage in the country.
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15	May be motivated by DatingWhatDaddyHates or trying for a ShockValueRelationship. Compare ExperimentedInCollege (a similar concept, in which a heterosexual character experimented sexually with the same gender but said experiments weren't romantic in nature), PseudoRomanticFriendship (where they're not in a sexual or physically intimate relationship, but they are emotionally intimate and follow many of the same tropes, again with the expectation that this will be replaced by "real" (heterosexual) romance when they grow up), ButNotTooGay (where the romantic aspects of a gay relationship are played down), NoBisexuals (where the possibility of being attracted to both/all genders is not considered) and BaitAndSwitchLesbians (where two characters of the same gender are presented as being in a romantic relationship, only to later reveal that they're not and are actually attracted to the opposite sex). See also IfItsYouItsOkay, where a character hooks up with someone of the gender they're not attracted to.
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23	* {{Invoked\|Trope}} by Kaorin in ''Manga/AzumangaDaioh''; upon being asked [[TransparentCloset if her obsession with Sakaki means she's gay]], she replies that she ''isn't'' gay, it's just a "teenage thing," and just to prove it, [[SingleTargetSexuality she wouldn't mind if Sakaki was a guy.]]
24	* In the backstory of ''Manga/BloomIntoYou'', Sayaka Saeki was in a romantic relationship with her senpai Chie Yuzuki, who broke it off because she thought they were outgrowing the whole "gay romance" phase. Subverted in that it wasn't a phase for Sayaka, who is a lesbian. When they run into each other in one of the manga's interlude chapters, said senpai apologizes for "corrupting" her into liking girls, much to Sayaka's confusion and anger.
25	* In the first season of ''Manga/CardcaptorSakura'', Syaoran got quite flustered whenever he was around Yukito. Eventually he realized that he wasn't really attracted to Yukito, [[spoiler:but rather his magical powers of the Moon from his true self, Yue, which Syaoran was drawn to whenever it interacted with his own powers. He then realizes that he's actually in love with Sakura.]]
26	* ''Manga/GaRei'':
27	** In the anime prequel ''Anime/GaReiZero'', Kagura and Yomi -- who are foster sisters -- have a very non-sisterly relationship, with Yomi kissing Kagura on the lips and "skinshipping" her while they're bathing together; and Yomi is initially hesitant towards her arranged marriage to Noriyuki Izuna, though she decides to go through with it out of duty to her family and eventually grew to have feelings for him. However, Yomi's relationship with Kagura -- sisterly or otherwise -- is ruined when Yomi is manipulated into embracing a Bane Stone. Kagura is forced to kill her, and Yomi's vengeful spirit becomes the antagonist of the first arc of the manga. While Yomi is ultimately redeemed, both she and Kagura ultimately move on to male love interests -- Yomi to Noriyuki and Kagura to Kensuke.
28	** To her [[{{Gayngst}} confusion and consternation]], Izumi develops a crush on Kagura, expressing intense jealousy of Kagura's romance with Kensuke. After an amnesiac Kagura rescues her from being imprisoned by the Supernatural Disaster Countermeasures Department due to housing Yomi's soul, Izumi confesses her feelings, insisting that she's not a lesbian and that her feelings are due to Yomi's "sisterly" love for Kagura bleeding over into her, but that [[IfItsYouItsOK she would be fine with hooking up with Kagura]]. Despite having amnesia, Kagura turns down Izumi's confession due to her subconscious love for Kensuke.
29	* ''Literature/{{Kampfer}}'': At one point, several characters are explaining the term "lesbian" to someone who has never heard the word before, and define it as "Women who are sexually interested in women while in high school". The sole lesbian character within the story, Sakura, [[spoiler:turns out to be a PsychoLesbian and the BigBad of the entire story. She is also the [[AllGaysArePromiscuous the most promiscuous]] character, complete with her own [[DepravedHomosexual abused and brainwashed harem]] of female {{Sex Slave}}s, with the ultimate goal of [[VillainousCrush adding the protagonist]] to it.]]
30	* ''Anime/ScottPilgrimTakesOff'': Averted, compared to the previous works in the franchise. Roxie is treated as just another Evil Ex, it's not seen as a surprise that one of the Exes is a girl, and Ramona doesn't dismiss their relationship as "just a phase." By all indications, their relationship failed due to a combination of Roxie's anger issues and Ramona's CommitmentIssues, and there is no hint that Roxie being a girl had anything to do with it.
31	* ''Manga/SecretOfThePrincess'' has Miu and Fujiwara's relationship start off like this, and only to keep Miu from telling anyone that Fujiwara broke a very expensive vase. They explicitly call it a practice relationship several times but eventually they fall for each other and begin a true relationship.
32	* ''Anime/{{Tsugumomo}}'': In the manga, Kanaka (mother of protagonist Kazuya) started a three-way lesbian relationship with her [[LivingWeapon tsukumogami Kiriha]] and the local {{Physical God}}dess Kukuri, at first justifying it as {{skinship\|Grope}} bonding. Both Kiriha and Kukuri were shocked and upset when Kanaka later married a man, had children, and ended all sexual contact with them, as neither were aware that Kanaka even ''liked'' men.
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36	* In ComicBook/ScottPilgrim, [[spoiler:Roxie Richter is introduced as Ramona's roommate in college]]. It takes a second for Scott to get it, but when he does...
37	-->'''Scott:''' You had a [[GirlOnGirlIsHot SEXY]] phase!?
38	* Dr. Allison Mann of ''ComicBook/YTheLastMan'' is a lesbian but her college girlfriend Mercedes was not one. In fact, Mercedes seemed to think that lesbians don't really exist and that the only reason a girl would ever want to date another girl is to [[DatingWhatDaddyHates piss off her dad]]. She broke up with Allison shortly before graduation, saying that it was time to grow up and start acting like adults and that if Allison still wanted to piss off her dad, she should find a more mature way of going about it...[[InsaneTrollLogic like dating a black guy]].
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42	* In the ''Series/PowerRangersZeo'' fic "[[https://www.fanfiction.net/s/3322402/1/Memory-Lapse Memory Lapse]]", Shawna initially assumes that her past relationship with Tanya was this when she sees Tanya move on to date a boy. However, Billy and Alpha eventually help Tanya explain to Shawna that she ''actually'' dated Aisha rather than Tanya; when time was briefly changed during Master Vile's use of the Orb of Doom, Tanya was retroactively inserted into Aisha's place in Shawna's memories.
43	* This is explained to be almost ubiquitous in the centaur herds of ''Fanfic/DailyEquestriaLifeWithMonsterGirl''. Given the nature of [[JerkJock centaur stallions]], no centaur filly would be interested in pursuing romantic relationships with colts, and so they seek romance from each other. However, homosexuality is strictly forbidden to the adult mares: given all the measures that have to be taken to allow reproduction and the limited gene pool, anyone who ''can'' get pregnant is expected to do so. As Cerea puts it, adolescence is the time for love and adulthood the time for breeding.
44	* ''Fanfic/SodaAt70Proof''; Rachel's mother has a problem with her daughter's crush on Fanny. She tells Rachel that she's going through a phase and that she had a similar phase in college until she met Rachel's father.
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48	* In ''Film/{{Bilitis}}'', the titular Bilitis has a girlfriend at school, Helene, but neither of them expects it to last, as Helene is leaving the school and suspects that Bilitis is only using her as a substitute for the handsome photographer Lucas, much as Bilitis denies having a crush on him.
49	* Implied in ''Film/MammaMiaHereWeGoAgain'', when Donna sings [[Music/{{ABBA}} "When I Kissed the Teacher"]] to a female professor, but never exhibits any romantic interest in women after graduation.
50	* ''Film/ScottPilgrimVsTheWorld'': Scott is stunned to learn Roxie Richter is one of Ramona's evil exes. When she insists it was just a phase, Roxie does NOT take it well.
51	-->'''Ramona:''' It was just a phase.\
52	'''Roxie:''' ''Just a phase?!''\
53	'''Scott:''' You had [[GirlOnGirlIsHot a sexy phase]]?!\
54	'''Ramona:''' It meant nothing, I didn't think it would count!\
55	'''Roxie:''' It meant ''nothing?!''\
56	'''Ramona:''' I was just a little bi-curious.\
57	'''Roxie:''' Well, honey... ''([[KnuckleCracking cracks knuckles]])'' I'm a little bi-FURIOUS!
58	* ''Film/TheresaAndAllison'': {{Discussed}} as after learning that Allison previously was only with guys but wants to try women, Theresa rejects her because she's not interested in being someone's phase. She's soon drawn to Allison again though, and they become lovers. Allison does genuinely like Theresa from what the film shows, not [[SubvertedTrope just as a phase]] for her.
59	* ''Film/VForVendetta'': Valerie's first girlfriend basically thought of their relationship as a phase. Valerie thought otherwise.
60	-->'''Valerie:''' I passed my eleven plus, and went to a girl's grammar. It was at school that I met my first girlfriend. Her name was Sarah. It was her wrists -- they were beautiful. I thought we would love each other forever. I remember our teacher telling us that it was an adolescent phase that people outgrew. Sarah did. I didn't.
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64	* ''Literature/TheChangeRoom'': Andrew, Eliza's husband, is aware she once had a relationship with a woman in her twenties but thinks it was just a phase, as Eliza told him. It turns out she's still into women though, and has an affair with one in the present.
65	* [[spoiler:Brie]] and Lara from ''Literature/{{Commencement}}'' by J. Courtney Sullivan are a slightly older subversion of the trope, occurring during their time at Smith College. The former claims that the relationship is just a college experiment and she'll go back to guys when she graduates. [[spoiler: She doesn't, although she does question her relationship multiple times in the years after she leaves Smith.]]
66	* ''Literature/GodEmperorOfDune'': due to some values dissonance, this is Moneo's (and presumably Leto's II) opinion on lesbian relationships between Fish Speakers- something natural that they usually grow out of. Moneo said this during an argument with Duncan Idaho, who coming from another era is revolted by allowance for such practices.
67	* ''Literature/JustJuliet'': {{Discussed}} by Lena's dad when she tells him along with her mom that she's bisexual. Lena retorts gently that it isn't experimenting -- she's just into girls along with boys, and to deny it would be denying half of herself.
68	* This trope was recognised by Creator/AgathaChristie in her novel ''Literature/{{Nemesis\|AgathaChristie}}''. Naturally, [[spoiler:Verity is murdered by Clotilde, a PsychoLesbian who couldn't handle Verity growing out of this phase and taking up with a local bad boy instead.]]
69	-->Verity had lost her real guardians, her parents, she had entered on her new life after their death, at an age when a schoolgirl arrives at having a "crush" on someone. An attractive mistress. Anything from the games mistress to the mathematics mistress, or a prefect or an older girl. A state that does not last for very long, is merely a natural part of life. Then from that you go on to the next stage when you realize that what you want in your life is what complements yourself. A relationship between a man and a woman... I think Verity adored Clotilde in an almost romantic way.
70	* In ''Literature/TheWheelOfTime'', teenage novices in the White Tower often become "Pillow Friends", which can range from being close friends to being in full-blown lesbian relationships. These relationships usually end when the novices become Aes Sedai, though some interactions later on indicate that they do sometimes continue; it seems to be a matter of personal taste. One woman haughtily dismisses the relationship as one for novices and not to be upheld by someone of higher achievement, whereas another thinks nothing of what she perceives as a sign that two women have been together for many years.
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74	* In ''Series/{{Batwoman\|2019}}'', Sophie Moore admits to her husband Tyler that she had a lesbian relationship with Kate Kane in the military academy. Tyler demands to know how long this relationship lasted, and when told it lasted three years, he points out that's longer than any previous relationship he had before meeting Sophie.
75	-->'''Tyler:''' What was it between you two? And don't say it was just some drunk college hookup unless you were actually drunk for three years.
76	* In ''Series/BeingErica'', Erica revisits an episode from her university days where she explores her relationship with a lesbian classmate.
77	* ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer''. In their first domestic squabble in "[[Recap/BuffyTheVampireSlayers5E19ToughLove Tough Love]]", Willow accuses Tara of assuming she's doing this.
78	-->'''Tara:''' I trust you. I just... ''[looks down]'' I don't know where I'm gonna fit in... in your life when...\
79	'''Willow:''' When... I change back? Yeah, this is a college thing, just a, a little experimentation before I get over the thrill and head back to boys' town. ''[pause]'' You think that?\
80	'''Tara:''' Should I?\
81	'''Willow:''' I'm really sorry that I didn't establish my lesbo street cred before I got into this relationship. You're the only woman I've ever fallen in love with, so... how on Earth could you ever take me seriously?
82	* ''Series/DoctorWho''. In the episode "[[Recap/DoctorWhoS33E1AsylumOfTheDaleks Asylum of the Daleks]]", Oswin tells Rory that her first crush had that name, then amends to say that actually, it was "Nina", and it was a phase. We later learn that Oswin is one of the splinters of Clara Oswald, who is a case of AmbiguouslyBi.
83	* ''Series/HolbyCity'', a LongRunner that launched in 1999 had a female PatientOfTheWeek (who [[YouLookFamiliar later returned in a different role a few years later, and then again in 2017 in another role]]) make reference to this in a throwaway line. However, this being produced during the TurnOfTheMillennium, it was treated less seriously than now and highlights [[ValuesDissonance how different things were in 2004 on the topic of sexual experimentation]].
84	* ''Series/YouMeHer'': Emma reveals to Jack after she becomes attracted to Izzy, who gives her a foot job under the table, that she's not the first woman or even second for her. It turns out she'd been with three women in the past already before him. At first he thinks this was just a lesbian phase but Emma [[SubvertedTrope makes it clear that no, she's really bisexual]].
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88	* ''TabletopGame/MagicTheGathering'''s Chandra Nalaar pivoted from being an out-and-proud bisexual woman to suddenly describing her love of another woman as a "phase", complete with description of how much she loved manly muscles. Fortunately, the novel in which this happened was rendered CanonDiscontinuity after outcry from the writers and fanbase alike, and Chandra is now in a relationship with a woman.
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92	* ''Theatre/MammaMia'' inverts the trope; [[spoiler:Harry]] is a gay man who had a heterosexual fling when he was younger (in TheSeventies). It may have been because all teenagers in the story are [[HormoneAddledTeenager desperate]] for ''any'' kind of sex.
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96	* In ''VideoGame/GoneHome'', Sam's parents assume that her attraction to another girl is just a phase. Sam is not amused.
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100	* In ''VisualNovel/KindredSpiritsOnTheRoof'', after Kiri admits her love for her teacher and club advisor, Tsukuyo Sonou, the latter tells her that it's just a phase she's going through during a confusing part of her life and she'll look back at this and realize it was a big misunderstanding when she gets older. Kiri, who really is gay, does not take this well, nor do the eponymous kindred spirits, who get rather pissed at Sonou's statement. Eventually, she does bring Sonou-sensei around and they start a relationship, albeit a [[SecretRelationship secret one]].
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104	* In ''Webcomic/ElGoonishShive'', Nanase's mother thinks her relationship with Ellen is something she'll grow out of, an opinion Nanase is not happy with.
105	* Defied in ''Webcomic/AJoyfulLife'' by Aerie and Joy as Aerie always liked girls since she was young and even in adulthood still does, while Joy has always liked Aerie despite initially dismissing it as a phase.
106	* In ''Webcomic/RedString'', Fuuko finds love with a woman named Hanae after she moves to Tokyo. When Hanae's mother discovers their relationship, she [[http://www.redstring.strawberrycomics.com/?p=1025 chastises them]], telling them that they need to grow out of it because it "Won't get them anywhere" (i.e. won't get them married), clearly disregarding their love as a "Class S" relationship.
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110	* ''WesternAnimation/TheClevelandShow'': In one episode, Cleveland calls "lesbianism at women's college" a phase, which is presented as a sketch of a graduation at which all the girls (in the front row, at least) turn to each other and say "We need to talk."
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