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11	->'''Ned Flanders:''' Well, I guess this is a case where we'll have to agree to disagree.\
12	'''Principal Skinner:''' I don't agree to that.\
13	'''Ms. Krabappel:''' Neither do I!
14	-->-- ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'', "[[Recap/TheSimpsonsS6E21ThePTADisbands The PTA Disbands]]"
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16	We all have different opinions and beliefs, and we all believe we are right and everyone else is wrong. However, that doesn't mean we have to be enemies. Instead, we can acknowledge that opinions may differ and let each other do our own thing.
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18	This trope can either be invoked as a StockPhrase or used to resolve a conflict. Sometimes it's a good point, acknowledging that further argument would be counter- or unproductive -- especially if there are [[FriendlyEnemy bigger problems to think about]]. Other times, it's [[GoldenMeanFallacy an excuse to avoid a fight without pointing out that one side's opinions are actually wrong]].
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20	For an example to count, the exact phrase "agree to disagree" doesn't have to be invoked, but it has to be something with the same (literal or underlying) meaning. That most people actually simply agree to disagree on most things most of the time does not count, the trope only comes into play when it's invoked and/or actively used to try to defuse a conflict.
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22	Compare BothSidesHaveAPoint.
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29	[[folder:Anime and Manga]]
30	* In ''Manga/{{Bakuman}}'', several older manga artists attempt to make a comeback in Jump. Mashiro sympathizes with their efforts, as his uncle had tried to get serialized from when his contract expired to his death, but while Takagi understands why Mashiro thinks this, he believes that people who fail in Jump should not be given a second chance. Neither convinces the other of his perspective, and they decide to drop the argument.
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34	* In a post about the May 2017 terrorist attack during a Concert in the UK, ''Blog/{{ReadySetThink}}'', complained about how neither political side wanted to do that.
35	-->"Even in situations where literally everyone agrees (except for the perpetrators I guess) that what happened was horrible, everyone quickly runs to their internet echo chamber to hear more about how this is the other side’s fault"
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38	[[folder:Fan Works]]
39	* ''Fanfic/BladeOfDemonSalvation'': After Sabito slays Rui and sees Tanjiro go out of his way to comfort the dying demon, Sabito admits to Tanjiro that he can't share his feelings about demons, but he'll still respect them at least. This is in stark contrast to Giyu in the canon [[Manga/DemonSlayerKimetsuNoYaiba manga]], who tells Tanjiro not to sympathize with demons at least until he recognized him.
40	* In ''Fanfic/NecessaryToWin'', this is Miho's typical reaction when meeting people who disagree with her on certain regards, especially when, after the match with Anzio, she gives a speech about her desire to be there for her comrades, to which Anchovy replies by saying that she should win for them if she cares about them.
41	-->"Miho remained silent. She had made her point and saw no point in preaching to someone already set in her ways, especially when Anchovy was in no mood to hear it."
42	* In the ''Literature/SherlockHolmes'' fanfic ''Fanfic/OfArtAndAutographs'', Watson is doing a book-signing when a prying gentleman asks if it's true that Holmes hates Watson's writing. The doctor, trying to control his temper, answers that they prefer different styles and have agreed to disagree. The meddler points out that Watson's comments in his stories that Holmes keeps bringing it up gives the lie to that.
43	* In ''Fanfic/OneYear'', this is deconstructed to a certain degree. While talking with [[VideoGame/Persona4 Yu Narukami]], [[OriginalCharacter Satomi]] notes that it's all well and good to respect one another's opinions, but it's more difficult when the issues in question are ones you care about or ones with a great deal at stake, which relates to the reason why Satomi's friendship with Sayuri, her friend and the ClubPresident of the drama club, is somewhat strained at the moment.
44	* In ''Fanfic/TheKeysStandAlone: The Soft World'', Spectrem says this after George and Paul pointedly disagree with him about the proper way to handle Brillymen. They dislike him so much that they don't even bother to respond.
45	* In ''FanFic/ServiceWithASmile'', [[spoiler: [[DefectorFromDecadence Blake]] and [[WellIntentionedExtremist Adam]] accept that they won't agree on the tactics they use to achieve Faunus rights, and may one day fight to the death, they can at least bury the hatchet toward one another]].
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49	%%* ''Film/OutOfStep'': "We'll just have to agree or disagree about this, but thanks for coming Jenny."
50	%%* Invoked in ''Film/ChameleonStreet'', not as a way to resolve a a conflict but simply as a way to appear less obtrusive.
51	%%* Used in ''Film/AnchormanTheLegendOfRonBurgundy''.
52	%%* Eliot Ness says it in ''Film/TheUntouchables1987''.
53	* Mentioned amid the legalese spouted by the "court-appointed theatrical agent" in ''Film/TheRunningMan''; Richards and the government "have agreed to disagree."
54	%%* Boris the Animal uses this quite often ''Film/MenInBlack3''. [[spoiler:Agent J turns it into an IronicEcho.]]
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57	[[folder:Literature]]
58	* In ''Literature/ThePhantomTollbooth'', this is how Milo gets King Azaz and the Mathemagician to agree.
59	-->'''Milo:''' [[LogicBomb So each one of you agrees to disagree with whatever the other one agrees with, but if you both disagree with the same thing, aren't you really in agreement?]]
60	* Inverted in Charles Ardai's ''The Last Story'': James Drake, an organic chemist, feels that schools should emphasize science more, and Roger Halsted, a math teacher, passionately agrees, but they aren't going to let a little thing like ''that'' stop them from arguing about it.
61	* Invoked in ''Literature/ASeriesOfUnfortunateEvents'' When the heroes are captured by Count Olaf and interrogated by the man with hooks for hands, Fiona, [[spoiler: his sister]], points out he's on the wrong side. He quickly says this, only for the narrator to point out that it's basically being used to say, "I'm wrong and you're right, but I'm not going to admit it."
62	%%* In ''Literature/HarryPotterAndTheHalfBloodPrince'' Dumbledore says this regarding whether or not Snape is a traitor.
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66	%%* Invoked in the ''Series/TrueBlood'' episode "Release Me".
67	* In the ''Series/RedDwarf'' episode "Polymorph", Angerless Rimmer constantly says things like "Good point, let's take that on board" or "Well, let's put that on the back-burner for now", but really he's completely ignoring everyone else's opinions, until the discussion concludes with everyone else ignoring his. Everyone's opinions at this point are ''completely insane'' because they're all missing an emotion.
68	%%* Invoked by Paradox on ''Series/{{Community}}'' during the second season finale.
69	* ''Series/MurdochMysteries'': Constable George Crabtree is a {{Malaproper}} and he says they have searched the crime scene "stem to sternum". Detective Murdoch corrects him that the expression is "stem to stern", but George insists on his wording and that they will have to agree to disagree.
70	* In ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'' episode [[Recap/StarTrekDeepSpaceNineS07E16InterArmaEnimSilentLeges Inter Arma Enim Silent Leges]], Sloan from [[NoSuchAgency Section 31]] says this to Bashir regarding their conflicting philosophies of "The ends justify the means" versus "We must do what's right."
71	-->'''Sloan:''' Let's make a deal, doctor. I'll spare you the ends-justify-the-means speech, and you spare me the we-must-do-what's-right speech. You and I are not going to see eye-to-eye on this subject, so I suggest we stop discussing it.
72	* ''Series/Daredevil2015'': In the second episode, Foggy takes Karen barhopping, with their last stop being Josie's, who Matt and Foggy have helped out with legal issues. In return, according to Foggy, he and Matt get to drink for free, to which Josie dryly says, "You absolutely do not get to drink for free." Foggy grins and replies, "Let's agree to disagree!"
73	* The ''Series/{{Galavant}}'' second season episode "World's Best Kiss" features a song of the trope name, a {{duet of differences}}. Madalena and Gareth argue over what stays and what goes in the castle, with input from Sid. It ultimately ends with them agreeing to disagree, and throwing Sid out the window.
74	* On ''Series/SchittsCreek'': Jocelyn reaches her RageBreakingPoint and tells Ronnie she is singing too softly. A clearly annoyed Ronnie responds that they will agree to disagree.
75	* Mohinder on ''Series/{{Heroes}}'' seems to like this one; he's said it twice. One time Peter was reasonably trying to convince him that [[MugglePower government action against superpowered individuals]] probably wouldn't turn out well... by the time the government is trying to kidnap him personally before the end of the episode, he doesn't seem to disagree so much. Another time, after Hiro traveled to the past to save Mohinder's life, Hiro tries to convince him to lay low until the time Hiro traveled from, [[TrickedOutTime to preserve the timeline]], which he'd rather not, so he suggests perhaps they can agree to disagree, or, in other words, he can get what he wants and Hiro can shut up about it. But Hiro won the SuperpowerLottery, so it turns out the other way around.
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79	%%* Invoked in Music/PhilCollins' song "That's Just the Way it Is," from ''But Seriously'' (the song, for the record, is about [[UsefulNotes/TheTroubles the Troubles]]):
80	%%--> You see the dying, you feel the pain/What have you got to say?/If we agreed that we can disagree/We could stop all of this today.
81	%%* In the song "Ghetto" by Music/{{POD}}:
82	%%-->''We don't always see things the same;''\
83	''We should agree to disagree.''
84	* In the song [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z7yePNyz-nc "I Don't Believe You"]] by Music/TheMagneticFields, the singer suggests that he and the subject agree to disagree over whether she loves him. She claims she does, but he thinks that she is lying.
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88	* In ''VideoGame/MaxPayne2'', during a discussion about bad decisions and predestination, Vlad invokes this when Max doesn't agree with his views.
89	%%* During the swordfight with Morgan at the beginning of ''VideoGame/TalesOfMonkeyIsland Chapter 2: The Siege of Spinner Cay'', Guybrush tries using this exchange:
90	%%-->'''Guybrush:''' Can't we just agree to disagree?\
91	'''Morgan:''' Not gonna happen.
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95	%%* [[http://kittypat-daily.tumblr.com/post/153599554421 Kittypat spoofs this idea in a short about two men in a debate show]].
96	%%-->'''Tom, 33. Gay''': I would like to marry the man I love and walk safely with him in public.
97	%%-->'''Mark, 28. Homoskeptical''': [[HeteronormativeCrusader And I would like to shoot you fags in the face]].
98	%%-->'''Political Show Host''': [[IdiotBall I see strong, extreme emotions on both sides, I'm sure if you just talk you can find a middle ground]].
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102	* ''WebVideo/ImAMarvelAndImADC'' has Lex Luthor and Green Goblin agree to disagree on which version of The Hulk is better, [[TalkingIsAFreeAction while being attacked by The Hulk]].
103	-->'''Lex Luthor''': Can we agree to disagree?
104	-->'''Green Goblin''': Totally.
105	-->'''Both''': AAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!
106	* A ''WebAnimation/RedVsBlue'' {{P\|ublicServiceAnnouncement}}SA, on the differences between the Internet and RealLife, featured a variant in its showcase of arguments about politics.
107	-->RealLife:\
108	'''Church:''' Look, that's just the way I feel about it.\
109	'''Sarge:''' Well I disagree, but I respect your opinion.
110	-->Internet:\
111	'''Church:''' You deserve to DIE! Die and go to Hell and burn!\
112	'''Sarge:''' [[FlameWar Oh, yeah!? Well, I hope you get raped! Twice! Maybe then you'll feel different! Jerk!]]
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115	[[folder:Western Animation]]
116	* Played straight & discussed in ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'' episode "The PTA Disbands", with people not agreeing to agree to disagree.
117	-->'''Ned Flanders:''' Well, I guess we'll have to agree to disagree.\
118	'''Principal Skinner:''' I don't agree to that.\
119	'''Ms. Krabappel:''' Neither do I!
120	%%* Played with on ''WesternAnimation/{{CatDog}}'':
121	%%-->'''Cat:''' We can't agree on anything!\
122	%%'''Dog:''' I disagree! I think we ''can'' agree.\
123	%%'''Cat:''' See? We can't even agree to disagree on disagreeing!
124	* In ''WesternAnimation/GreenLanternEmeraldKnights'', Sinestro and Abin Sur agree to disagree on whether or not a [[ImaginationBasedSuperpower Green Lantern ring]] works off of fate or science.
125	%%* In the ''WesternAnimation/SouthPark'' WholePlotReference to ''Franchise/ScoobyDoo'', "Music/{{Korn}}'s Groovy Pirate Ghost Mystery", there is a discussion about the proper way to describe the ghosts.
126	%%-->'''David''': They're not pirate ghosts, Jonathan, they're ghost pirates.\
127	'''Jonathan''': Huh?\
128	'''David''': "Pirate ghost" would suggest that a pirate died, and became a ghost, but a ghost pirate is a ghost that later made a conscious decision to be a pirate.\
129	'''Munky''': No, David. Then they are pirate ghosts, because they're the ghosts of pirates.\
130	'''Fieldy''': You're wrong, because there were no pirates in Colorado. So these must be ghosts that have decided to become pirates after the fact.\
131	'''Jonathan''': But that makes them pirate ghosts.\
132	'''David''': No. It makes them ghost pirates.\
133	'''Munky''': Pirate ghosts!\
134	'''Head''': Guys! Guys! Guys! Fighting isn't gonna solve anything. Don't you see? This is exactly what those ghost pirates want us to do.\
135	'''Jonathan''': ''Pirate ghosts''.
136	* In the ''WesternAnimation/TeenTitansGo'' episode "Burger vs. Burrito", Robin tries to use this as a way to settle the debate on whether burgers are better than burritos. Cyborg and Beast Boy don't agree.
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