Romance

I would agree also with not keeping secrets and having open communications. BGC and I have only been married 1.5 years so far, but been together for 6 years total now and those 2 things have really been a big part of how we have stayed happy together.

I think I'm still getting over my ex, he's still on my mind sometimes, I think about the moments we shared. I know and accept that he doesn't love me back. Haven't seen or spoken to him in a while, since early November. I know he's still around, we're still friends on facebook and I see his updates. I avoid liking his stuff for the most part.

My phone's playing dead. Maybe once the new year is in people will get back to me.

I don't know but I feel like I crave a relationship, I want to love and be loved.

So there's someone I've been thinking of, I don't their gender (physical or mental) or orientation, but if it turns out that Incompatible Orientation won't be the case I wouldn't mind taking a chance on them. I feel really weird about asking for that info though; is that an okay thing to do?

edited 7th Jan '17 4:54:42 AM by Novis

Imo it's totally fine to just ask someone "yo what's your gender?"

lord knows there's been enough confusion over mine online, and whenever someone asks I don't really mind it at all.

Did not know being in a relationship could make one feel worse then being single.

I feel unappreciated, uncared for, and almost like a side thought. I'm tired of always being the one to set up hang outs/dates, I'm tired of always having to be the first to text.

Fuck it. If she doesn't have time for me, so be it. Now I don't have to cut down my drinking! Whoo!

i've always thought those people who keeps saying that they miss their partner are being overdramatic, until now.

College starts in two or three weeks, and my boyfriend's in another town until then. Meanwhile, I can't contact him in other ways than Instagram or email, and I'm already missing him so much until it hurts.

Seems to me that she's either lacking in proactiveness, or she's following the rules of dating. If it's the former, then confront her about it. Tell her to be more proactive, that you feel like she's treating you like you're not worth her time and effort. If it's the latter, then... well, what's the use of enforcing the rules if it hurts people?

edited 8th Jan '17 11:45:24 PM by fdiaperhead

There are no "rules of dating" beyond what two people who are dating agree to.

There are assumed rules of dating, but everyone assumes a little differently, which is why you have to talk about what you expect from a relationship early on.

my may-or-may-not-be lover from croatia tends to be hard on herself. i once offered her to pay for a commission for her and she said to me that she doesn't want me to waste my time. and she has been telling me she's a waste of space and all that (and once she ended up in a spiraling depressive state, which really had me worried). i want to help her with things, but then again i'm not sure if she's trying to cut ties with me but is afraid of saying no. i want to be careful with my words because i don't want to accidentally put her in a depressive state again.

Well, I join the ranks of the single once more. Upside is the split was mutual and amiable. We'll stay friends, but our romantic days are done.

Now time for tequila, and a lot of it.

This seems more like the singles thread than the singles thread does.

I will never date. I'll be 30 in four years. I'll make sure I'll never date anyone. I'm saying it now to let off steam. Me dating anyone is a disaster waiting to happen.

My Mom hates my Dad's sister after all these years so, as much as I don't care for that situation, it makes me realize that I won't go for it. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life then make anyone miserable with me.

Who knows? Things can change.

Not liking an individual in law is not uncommon at all in relationships and can be minimalized by keeping any contact to holidays or special occasions.

I would not let something common like that to keep me from ever dating.

Yeah. Nope. Never going to happen.

While there's nothing wrong in being single, with that attitude you certainly won't run into any danger of falling into a relationship.

Is your mom and her in-laws' relationship the only thing keeping you from wanting to ever be in a relationship, or is there something more? Because that seems like a bit of an extreme reaction to something very localized.

It's more like the cloud will hang over my head for the rest of my life and that's something I don't want.

Anyone remember me? Guy who's in love with Michael Jackson's daughter?

Yeah, I am now 100% positive I love her.

I am screwed.......

How can you be in love with someone you've never met?

Like having celebrity crushes, I guess.

I think crushes are kind of stupid to me now. Nothing but dropped hope and pain. Every crush I had gets with someone days later. Last time I had a crush on someone was at work and that was stupid. She was already in a relationship so it proves that I thankfully won't find someone.

@Vampire: Well, while some of us have had celebrity crushes (not a bad thing, as long as they're kept in the realm of fantasy), it's probably time to dial down a bit. Otherwise, you might end up having (even if unconscious) stalking attitudes later on.

How well do you relate to the gals in your area, if I may ask?

edited 28th Jan '17 7:37:08 AM by Quag15

I feel guilty thinking about dating other girls.

Oh fuck, she replied to my tweet.

I feel guilty about having crushes in general. I feel creepy having them.