Romance

You've broken up twice.

Let it fucking go.

One of those times, she fucking dumped you because you're being too fucking clingy. "Oh, I've lost my rainbow trout. Oh, I have nothing left."

You're permanently stuck in puppy love stage, and you're really clingy.

Grow the fuck up and move on.

edited 22nd Dec '14 8:49:27 AM by Tools

Ouch...

Tools, seriously.

Ok, things are not as clear-cut as I thought it was.

Kinda in agreement with Tools here.

She's broken up with you twice, the fact that it happened so abruptly, she didn't put up a fuss over it, and this time didn't even tell you in the most sincere and direct way possible... that really doesn't bode well for anything positive to come out.

I wouldn't quite call it stalker-ish, but it's definitely uncomfortably desperate for sure.

edited 22nd Dec '14 11:02:25 AM by terlwyth

So I told my mother about my girlfriend.

Went better than expected really. She's still paranoid that "they might be scamming or grooming you" though.

But they're letting me continue, if not meet up yet

Don't try to go back, Hopey. These people are right - it's an emotional wringer that's going to fuck you over even more.

Eh.

I'll get some closure, at the least. Better to shoot for the stars and... uhh... I forgot the rest of the metaphor. Its not like it could get any more worse this way.

I don't quite get why the call had to be untraceable. Wouldn't that make them less likely to pick up the phone?

My thought is that if she's not putting in the effort to keep the relationship alive, then she's really not all that interested.

@ Ogo. Well, that point is moot, because they did pick up.

Well, the thing is, I have actually no information on her thoughts and feelings. I mean, she is still banned from talking to me, and all I have are words from her friends, and you can't really get the true meaning behind stuff. I don't know. I have no clue what is going on. In any case, I can't get any more hurt, and it can't get any more worse.

Don't be Tempting Fate on that hopey.

I do respect the need for closure, and getting her thoughts from the source directly.

But it seems like you're already putting in more trouble than it's worth. Even if you do get her, it might be better just to end it already for everyone's sanity.

Hopey, don't listen to the doubt. Shoot for it. You've got this. There are always a million small reasons not to do something, so listen to the one big reason on why you should.

"The eyes are blind, you have to look with the heart." No idea where that quote is from, but I think that it is fitting.

I agree it is worth trying for some closure hopey, but you think she couldn't have at least borrowed a friends phone at school to call you if she was still into you that much? Just something to consider is all. If it were me in that situation I would make every effort to stay in contact with someone I really cared for a lot.. Just sayin :)

I just am not buying into the whole "my parents forbid contact so I will never talk to you again, even though I still really want too".. I suspect even if it is subconsciously, she is using that as an escape mechanism. But in the end what do I know, and it can never hurt to try like you are..

edited 22nd Dec '14 4:54:55 PM by RainbowMatt

@Everyone's doubt:

@Hopeson: You have some cojones for doing that, Son.

I hope everything goes well. Just like your father, never backing down, even if it seems hopeless.

Hey, I like the sound of that. :)

This post was thumped by the Stick of Post Thumping

Girlfriend opened my present to her today (she asked if she could open it early and I didn't mind), and she actually called me just to say how much she liked it. I'm so glad she enjoyed it as much as she did, especially considering how much I loved hers to me.

Date went well the other night. We talked for so long that by the time we knew it the mall we were in was closing and we had to get out.

I'd asked her earlier about coming out with some friends and me to Times Square for New Year's Eve, and she'did said she would earlier, but I asked again and she said there was a party she had to go to that she forgot about.

(This'll make it 22 years in a row with no New Year's kiss, by the way )

Congrats boyo! And I wouldn't worry about that last bit, I've never had one either man, and It seems to me to be one of those "important" things, if you catch my drift.

Hey, fair enough. Not something I'm really dead-set on, but it'd be nice, y'know? There's a reason one of my favorite yuletide songs is "All Alone on Christmas".

Either way, we're gonna try to get together again soon.

(Also, thanks for the congrats ^_~)

So my mom asked about my "internet girlfriend" today.

I told her we're just friends right now, the truth is far more complex.

I feel like that's like clicking the "It's complicated" relationship status on facebook.

Anyway good luck to you and your future relationship endeavors!

So my girlfriend might be coming to my house on Wednesday for the first time. I don't know why, but that makes me really nervous.

Clean your room up and hide your porn stash!

edited 26th Dec '14 3:31:55 AM by Pyrite