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I do believe that people are entitled to make gay ships all they want. It's rare to have them actually be canon so anything is better than nothing, and they are more than allowed to celebrate them.

It's just my shipping brain that sometimes says i prefer them to be with this other one, and due to media having straight couples everywhere, happens to be straight.

Edited by TheWrongOne41 on Jul 13th 2023 at 12:58:20 PM

As long as you dont put characters that are explicitly canonicly gay into straight ships, or are a dick to others for shipping something else, there should be no issue.

If one character in a straight ship you like is revealed to be bi then that does nothing to invalidate that ship. People acting like bi people who enter an opposite sex relationship are some kind of traitor or invalid is something that can be a real problem.

Unless the character's confirmed gay and people ship them with the opposite gender / aro and people ship them at all (and I mean confirmed-confirmed, not commonly headcanonned or taken with Word of Saint Paul or Flip-Flop of God), I really don't mind. Yes this includes characters who have a same-gender canon ship but aren't confirmed gay explicitly, they can be bi and it's very annoying as a bi woman to fight over this, especially when it's not about shipping them with men but just seeing them as bi instead of lesbian/gay.

I honestly don't care that much about ships that aren't Jordan Baker/Daisy Buchanan, as long they aren't shipping adults with minors, incest, or shipping explicitly gay folk with the opposite sex.

Edited by Cutegirl920fire on Jul 13th 2023 at 1:59:52 AM

I thought I'd get this out of the way while we're on the topic of shipping: disliking a same-sex ship does not automatically make you homophobic.

Throughout a lot of internet ship discourse, I've seen frantic yaoi fangirls instantly cry homophobe the moment anyone targets any sort of vitriol toward their favorite gay ship. What these terminally online fujoshi don't realize is that there are many reasons for disliking a ship. For example, I hate Bakudeku not because it's gay, but because it's a ship between a scrawny twink and the guy whose been bullying him since the beginning of the series. Bakugo literally told Deku to kill himself in the very first chapter of the goddamn manga!!! How is that romantic in any capacity!?!?!?!

If you invision a character as gay or straight or bi or ace or whatever, more power to you. In the end, it's your headcanon, and as long as you aren't violently attacking people over it, you're fine. That said, if you hate a gay ship because it is gay and for no other reason, sorry to break it to you, but that's pretty homophobic ngl.

I agree! Very wise words!

Well, there's a scan of the Starfox manga that I think confirms Falco as aroace(or maybe just aromantic). Which is why I don't like it when Starfox/Smash fans ship Falco:

Speaking of it, what about confirmed straight characters(like, [insert character here] explicitly said they're straight) with the same gender?

just in the closet :p lord knows i said the same thing half a decade ago and look at me now

I try to avoid it on both ends. If a character is confirmed to be a particular sexuality, then I won't put them in a ship that would fall out of the bounds of that sexuality.

If a character is canonically attracted to a particular sex, I'd rather ship them with characters of that sex than with anyone else.

Edited by Pogakure on Jul 13th 2023 at 6:47:34 AM

Speaking of fujoshis, I've had issues with how people talk about popular gay ship fadoms lately, mainly when they act like those ships are all fujoshis. Many of those ships are just as popular with queer and trans guys, some possibly even more popular, and conflating gay trans guys with straight girls fetishizing gayness is literally a TERF talking point, so it rubs me the wrong way when people generalize like that, even if they aren't being bigoted on purpose.

So did the blue hair thing.

...This is why you're supposed to bleach first, kiddies.

Also why you do a test first; I had to bleach my hair back when I was dyeing it pink.

... I should do that again tbh, it was pretty.

A classmate in middle school died his hair blue once, but he had dark hair so you had to get really close to see that it was navy and not black.

I've done my (naturally soft-black) hair navy blue before, it made a deep inky midnight color, very cool. I should do that again sometime.

'though lately I've just been dyeing my bangs purple (...and yes bleaching my hair enough to get it to show is not fun, which is why I only do the bangs and not all of it.)

i'm very lucky im naturally blonde, it makes dying my hair so so much easier

needing to bleach my hair would make me so worried about killing it

Edited by EpicBleye on Jul 15th 2023 at 2:52:29 PM

My hair's fairly light, but I got it bleached before I started dying it purple because I wanted a more vivid colour.

My hair's quite dark brown, so I never even tried dying it without bleaching first. Also kinda wanna dye my hair again but worried about *groan* "looking professional"

I'd like to dye my hair white, but I might need to get it bleached first.

That reminds me, I need to dye my hair again soon

I'm starting to think I'm asexual, as I've never felt any lust.

I've never dyed my hair, and at this point I'm kinda afraid to do it because I have pretty thin hair and I don't want to damage it.

OK so started trying to strip the dye out of my hair so I can bleach it and try again.

I'd really like to meet other LGBTQ people in my city, but it's hard to find places where I could meet people when I don't drink or stay out late. Anyone have any suggestions about the kind of places to check out?

Assuming you're right, welcome to the club!🍰

Check out any pro-LGBT groups in your area and see if they're having any public meet-ups. There's also pride parades, but it might be a month too late for those.