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Well what calms you down DBL? And what are some precautions that you would take to ease that stress?

Having actually had a decent amount of sleep would've helped. I had to be awake at 4 to be out the door at 5:30 ready to meet everyone by 6:30. And the heat, humidity and follow on issues meant that despite my best efforts I had had less than three hours of sleep.

I wasn't in the most rational state of mind as a result.

How about meditation and peaceful walks through a park at evening? That always helps me or maybe drawing and writing stories.

ok, so, i may or may not be starting to identify as androgynous right now. im not entirely sure yet, but i dont want to tell anyone i know in real life.

Honestly it can be difficult for a partner to help a person work though anger issues, it's a path that can easily lead to the partner becoming the target fo the anger and having to deal with things that they shouldn't.

The best advise I can give is to remember that you're not a professional, you don't know how to deal with such issues and as such you're best bet for helping your partner is to guide him towards someone than can help him, a professional that knows what they're doing.

the own bit of personal advise I can give you is to do you're best to ensure that lashing out in anger doesn't become his default responce, it being a default can be seriously harmful not just for thsoue around the person with anger issues but also the person with the issues.

Sometimes we need challenging on thing, something we need to be told that we're out of line. A sign of strong love is a willingness to call a person out on their bullshit.

As for an initial aproch, there are some basic to having any difficult conversation that can be good to use.

Have the conversation when you're both already in a good mood, when you have time for it to drag on and no other immediate plans, have it in a space where you can both walk a way to cool off if need be, have it when you don't already have another issue under discussion, have it when you're not in the middle of a fight caused by the issue you want to discuss, if you're nervous give yourself some prep time to right down your main points that you want to bring up.

Also framing matters a lot, don't talk about the thing as something wrong with your partner (even if it is) but as an issue you've noticed and that you want the two of you to work on addressing together.

It's never "you're a bad guy because you did X", it should always be "So X happened and it made me feel in Y negative way because of Z, I think we should address the problem of X by doing K, what are your thoughts on how we can address the problem of Y, do you have ideas for a solution other than K? Perhaps Q might work?"

But above all, remember to keep an eye on what's good for your own health, you can compraise yoru won physical or mental health for your partner, it's not good for you and a good partner won't want you to do it. If you partner does want you to do it they may not be as good as you think they are.

edited 28th May '17 5:56:57 PM by Silasw

@Rabid Tanker. When my spouse and I are out at the mall or other places we catch people checking us out all the time.

A lot of times it is "straight guys" with their gf's/wives/ and even with their kids on occasion.

You know what we do about It? Nothing. Because who cares?

Hi, I'm a non-binary queer person who has no non-binary or queer friends of my own (or friends, in general—the people I hang w are my girlfriend's friends) and I'm lonely. I'm new here and thought I'd reach out. Hello!

Kon'nichiwa, PNF! I'm fairly new to this forum myself (well, I'm actually new to the LGBT community in general, but let's not split hairs) and I also don't have any non-binary friends IRL, the closest being my aforementioned SO who is a two-hour drive away and with whom I'm having issues with >_\\

Hey, I'm Smokey, one of the local lesbians. There are a few nonbinary people on tvt, so I'm sure you'll fit right in.

I'm Marcen. 26 year old bisexual. No one. Or whatever.

Hey, I'm Golgo. Transgirl, pansexual, hipster. Nice to meet ya.

Time for introductions once again?

Hiya! I am Arilou, and I'm a about 19 years old lesbian trans woman. I also occasionally do stuff.

I'm Keg, a bisexual man. I'm writing a web novel.

It's not really lgbt related (though I'm planning to introduce a couple of minor characters who are lesbians and half the cast is pansexual and genderfluid by default), I just wanted to say that. Read my book.

Gay, married, 26 yo Male. Will be turning 27 in a little over a month.

edited 30th May '17 1:08:27 AM by RainbowMatt

I exist. That is all.

Bisexual demigirl here. Welcome to the thread, ya nutshack.

-peeks into existence- Hai~ 21 yr old polyamorous Transbian, happily dating fellow trooper Mezzopiano.

Whoa, whoa. If Kegisak gets to self-plug, so do I. Speaking of Keg, you gonna post anything in the ConCrit forum to help me out? Would appreciate it greatly.

I'm also planning to add LGBT characters to my novel, but it's going to be a bigger plot point, particularly once No, you don't get to know what's going to happen unless you read it.

Whereas my novel is slow-burning to that point, my Pokemon fanfiction has an official gay couple already. Not minor characters — Valentine is going to have a very big role to play later on. But right now, I'm struggling just to get the next chapter written. Am I cool yet?

Alright, I gotta get ready for work. I spent the last twenty-five minutes writing this fluff piece Welcome to the wild, wild weast, partner.

Hi, I'm both asexual and aromantic cis-male although my body form makes it a bit difficult to figure out.

edited 30th May '17 7:35:42 AM by Coleman

Bisexual cisgendered male, currently hating his life.

I return.

Hi new person, I'm Cail, and I'm somewhere on the LGBT map (haven't figured out quite where yet) She/her pronouns are good. Just coming back from hiatus after finishing finals (having three majors and a minor, finals were an ordeal)

Don't mind me. Just venting again.

Hey. I barely post here but... 19 year old homoromantic asexual cis guy.

I have recently been experimenting with tinder. It's not going super well, mostly as I'm awful at talking to people I'm attracted to (although getting any matches at all was a little confidence booster, although on the other hand some people will right-swipe anything).

To be fair, I'm not good at talking to people I'm attracted to either

Female. 33. Bisexual. Polyamorous.