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Being a heterosexual manly man with a beard and no gender crises whatsoever I can't speak personally but the sole trans individual I know in person went right for the hormone therapy and started wearing dresses immediately. She seems to be doing all right but to be honest I haven't noticed any drastic changes. She only recently started though.

Oh really when?

I hope not...

To be honest, one of the reasons I used to think I was non-binary was that I didn't want a feminine chest and hips. I don't want to be curvy. And most transwomen I met wanted to be curvy.

But I still like being feminine in every other way and like thinking of myself as a girl.

I want a more feminine voice. And I want to be more petite. I wish I were shorter and my shoulders were smaller. But there's not much I can do about that. I've heard there are surgeries to make you smaller or shorter or taller. But they're really expensive and dangerous. And I want a more feminine, cute face. And I wish I had fully functioning.. oh gosh, this feels so uncute to say. Um.. how do I say it in a delicate manner? I wish I had fully functioning girl-parts.

So like... every feminine thing except the curviness. I don't know if that makes me less of a transwoman. I hope not. I thought I wasn't a transwoman for many years because of things like this. But... well, I feel like a woman.

Do you think that I should get HRT before voice feminization surgery or face feminization surgery?

edited 26th Jan '15 8:13:32 AM by RobotPrincess

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@Nova: Doing little things can help. Getting a more feminine hairstyle (longer hair, or even a bob or a pixie cut) can help, as can shaving your body hair, plucking/waxing your eyebrows, practicing with makeup, figuring out what clothing you like, and tons of other stuff.

I'd highly recommend doing HRT first. It doesn't always affect your hips, and if you're already finished with puberty, its even less likely to. You won't get ultra curvy either. Voice coaching is, in many girls' opinion, a better idea than voice surgery. Less risky.

edited 26th Jan '15 8:12:01 AM by smokeycut

That really sounds like something you'd want to talk with your doctor about but in my wholly inexperienced and unprofessional opinion I'd imagine you'd wanna see how the hormone treatments affect you before doing any surgery.

Oh really when?

I have a sort of bob right now. it looks cute.

But I'd like to go with something longer down to like my shoulders

My hair comes most of the way down my neck, and it's still really annoying.

"Yup. That tasted purple."

Okay, I'll try that. Thank you. At least after I'm done with electrolysis.

I wonder if there's any way I could get insurance to cover HRT.

Why were you born in such a cruel, violent world?

Could have your doctor say it's medically necessary.

Oh really when?

So I tried on my full outfit for the first time.

Not sure why I photographed it, but I did. And I'm embarrassed about it. >.<

"Yup. That tasted purple."

Depends on the insurance. There is insurance that covers a part of it at least, I know that much (notably because a few university's student health plans do.) You'll have to look into the specifics.

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@DBL: Its easy to be embarrassed by things, but don't let it get in the way, okay? The point is, you did something. You bought those clothes, and thats nothing to be embarrassed about.

>.<

"Yup. That tasted purple."

Although thinking back at it the embarrassing thing is the fact I decided to photograph myself doing it rather than the fact that I did it.

"Yup. That tasted purple."

Hey, homogays, lesbigals, asexubros, and transpals.

...

"Yup. That tasted purple."

Did I forget a group?

What?

Bisexfriends?

"It's so hard to be humble, knowing how great I am."

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edited 26th Jan '15 4:10:33 PM by SpaceWolf

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Deadbeatloser always has those periods of voiced silence.

I think it's part of his nature.

I wish I could voice my silence. :p

edited 26th Jan '15 4:15:45 PM by Keybreak

I'm just grumpy this evening for some reason.

"Yup. That tasted purple."

Oh, I read it like Google translate does in Japanese.

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So, quick question to other Cis people on this thread, since I've been trying to figure some personal stuff out: if you were to be misgendered, or treated differently than the gender you're designated at birth, would you feel any serious discomfort or disconnect akin to what I've heard trans people go through when misgendered? Or is it just a "lol yeah whatever" apathetic kinda feeling regarding it, sometimes even just going with it if it's someone you're close to or not bothering to correct if it's not a big deal in the first place?

I don't know. I know that I actually enjoy being misgendered to a certain degree...but that's because I feel like some sort of mysterious individual.

There's also the fact that I am obviously a cis woman, so I only ever encounter it in isolated incidents, not compounding. And proof is simple, because obvious cis woman.

However I know I am definitely frustrated when I have to argue my credentials, or argue my position. Having to argue my gender sounds horrible, and seems absolutely draining.

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Like if people started calling me a girl and treating me like one?

I dunno, that's never happened seriously to me before. I'd probably brush it off. I've gotten good about not giving a shit lately.

edited 26th Jan '15 4:23:31 PM by LeGarcon

Oh really when?

I would be annoyed, definitely, but it would be less about being misgendered, and more about whoever's insulting me thinking that "Girly" or calling me by feminine pronouns is somehow a good insult. Pointing out perceived femininity is such a playground tactic, and I really don't have the energy to be angry about it.

edited 26th Jan '15 4:23:20 PM by Mukora

"It's so hard to be humble, knowing how great I am."