Playing With / Lie Back and Think of England

Basic Trope: Sex is a necessary evil for the purposes of baby-making, or perhaps ensuring your spouse's fidelity by fulfilling their needs, not something to be enjoyed.
  • Straight: Alice has sex with her husband, Bob, but really only for purposes of giving him the son he's always wanted.
  • Exaggerated: She actively records her menstrual cycle and only has sex on days when she can possibly be pregnant.
  • Downplayed: Alice only has sex to fulfill Bob's needs and when she wants a child, but when she does, her needs are fulfilled together with him.
  • Justified:
    • Alice is a lesbian or asexual, who either is unaware of her sexual orientation, or doesn't want to admit it because of the scandal it would cause.
    • Alice and Bob live in a society where Sex Is Evil, even for married couples.
    • Alice and Bob are in an unhappy (or even outright abusive) marriage.
    • Alice would rather just go to bed, but worries that Bob would cheat on her or divorce her if she didn't fulfill his "needs."
    • They could have sex that was pleasurable for Alice, if Bob would focus on her needs and slow down/give her more foreplay/use more lube/etc...and if Alice would communicate that information to Bob.
    • Alice experiences pain during sex, due to hormonal changes, trauma, hang-ups about her sexuality or her relationship with Bob, health problems, structural issues, medications, or any combination thereof.
    • In Alice and Bob's society, sex is only for procreation, within the context of marriage, not something to be enjoyed for its own sake.
  • Inverted:
    • Alice enjoys sex as much as Bob does, and sees it as something to be enjoyed for its own sake, rather than as a means to an end.
    • Alice's libido exceeds Bob's stamina.
  • Gender Inverted: Bob is the one enduring rather than enjoying sex with Alice.
  • Subverted:
    • Alice is having sex with Bob, and seems to be enjoying it.
    • Alice and Bob's religion eventually say that they are allowed to enjoy the pleasurable aspects of sex within their marriage.
    • Alice and Bob are trying to make a baby, but they both enjoy it too much.
    • Bob is thinking about something not related to sex, so as to keep himself from finishing before Alice is satisfied.
  • Double Subverted:
    • She faked the orgasm so Bob would be satisfied.
    • But it also says they are not to use any sort of birth control (save for the rhythm-method or fertility awareness), because the act is first-and-foremost meant to bring new life into the world.
    • Eventually, the Law of Inverse Fertility kicks in and they ended up frustratingly sexless.
    • It works...too well. Bob ends up being both physically and psychologically unable to continue.
  • Parodied: Alice literally thinks of England: Big Ben, the British flag, Benedict Cumberbatch...
  • Zig Zagged: Alice starts off thinking she'll like it, but the experience ends up not being as impressive as she'd hoped. When Bob wants a second round she begrudgingly agrees, only for it to be more fun this time, up until something awkward or unpleasant happens.
  • Averted:
  • Enforced: The writers want Alice to be a pure character, but they fear that'll clash with Fridge Logic of her having children.
  • Lampshaded: ???
  • Invoked: Bob, wanting to have sex, convinced Alice to have children.
  • Exploited: Bob, insecure with women, marry the conservative Alice knowing she's been taught to only have sex for babies.
  • Defied:
    • Alice, not wanting to have sex for children, asked Bob if it's okay if they just adopt instead.
    • Bob, not wanting Alice to end up sexually frustrated, suggests to Alice to explore new positions or techniques, role-play, etc., rather than focus on their ultimate goal of reproducing.
    • Alice and Bob work on their communication skills, and Bob learns to make sure Alice's sexual needs are met. The sex and the relationship improves.
  • Discussed: ???
  • Conversed: ???
  • Played For Drama: Alice and Bob's marriage is crappy, to the point of being outright abusive. Bonus points if the Marital Rape License is "invoked" by Bob.

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