Do You Trust Me?
A Stock Phrase
usually used by characters believing in The Power of Trust
or The Power of Friendship
to save the day.
This usually goes down one of two ways. In the first, Bob and Alice are in danger. Bob has a plan, but needs Alice to trust him in order for it to work. Perhaps she needs to jump a ravine and trust that he will catch her. Or perhaps he needs her to act as a distraction for the Big Bad
and trust that he will take the Big Bad
down before she's in serious trouble. He will ask, "Do you trust me?" and if she says yes she will immediately need to prove her trust.
The second scenario is usually romantic with little to no real danger involved. Alice may be a little nervous of something, and Bob uses the question to reassure her. She may be wary of stepping out on a high balcony to look at the view or dancing in front of other people. The question may also be asked before Their First Time
. Be careful though, if the wording is "Don't
you trust me?", especially in a slightly pleading tone, it may be a sign that the person is at the best Not Himself
and at the worst The Casanova
or The Vamp
. That little apostrophe can make a lot of difference.
Common subversions will often either have Bob miss or Alice say that, no, she doesn't trust him. Sometimes they'll do it anyway.
This trope is about the truster confirming their faith in the trusted. Compare Remember That You Trust Me
where the trusted reaffirms the faith of the truster.
- Used repeatedly in Disney's Aladdin, first in the face of danger, and later romantically. The latter is what tips Jasmine off that Prince Ali is really Aladdin.
- National Treasure includes Nicholas Cage saying this to his love interest. He is holding her from falling off an old lift. The trust comes from having to risk dropping her onto a lower platform to grab the Declaration of Independence from falling into a deep chasm. She understands perfectly.
- Comes up in Twilight.
- Jack asks this of Rose in Titanic (1997) in the scene on the bow of the ship.
- The Titanic example is lampshaded and subverted in Love Actually.
- In Head Over Heels, Freddie Prinze Jr.'s character doesn't ask the question, but simply says, "Trust me."
- Blade Runner: Deckard must help the replicant Rachel escape or she'll be killed.
Deckard: Do you love me?
Rachael: I love you.
Deckard: Do you trust me?
Rachael: I trust you.
- The Seeker: The Dark Is Rising
Maggie Barnes: You need to give me the Signs before it's too late. You need to trust me. Do you trust me?
Will Stanton: Yeah, I trust you.
- Inverted in Casino where Robert De Niro as Ace Rothstein asks his wife, Ginger, several times in one scene: "Can I trust you?" He can't.
- Done in Despicable Me with Gru and the orphan girls. Margo trusts him enough to have Edith and Agnes jump over the gap to Gru, but Vector catches her before she can jump herself.
- Also inverted in Law Abiding Citizen when Nick Rice asks this of Clyde before revealing that he's already made a plea bargain with the murderer of his wife and child. The rest of the movie involves Clyde making Nick regret this bitterly.
- Sherlock Holmes: A Game of Shadows. Sherlock stops an attempt to murder Watson and his newly-wed on a train. While Watson exchanges shots with the killers, Sherlock opens the carriage door and notes they're approaching a bridge. He asks Mary if she trusts him. Given that Sherlock is highly-eccentric and dressed as a woman at the time, Mary naturally replies, "No."
Sherlock: Well then I shall have to...(checks to see Watson isn't looking) do something about that. (throws her off the train into the river)
- Repeatedly subverted in an episode of The IT Crowd:
Roy: Do you trust me?
Moss: *without any hesitation* No!
Roy: (frustrated) C'mon, Moss! Do you trust me?
Roy: (angry) Moss!
Moss: I. Don't. Trust. You!
- Scully and Mulder say that to each other regularly on The X-Files, though it became less and less frequent as the series progressed—not because they stopped trusting each other, but more like because their mutual trust reached almost telepathic levels.
- Subverted in the Two and a Half Men episode "Walnuts and Demerol".
Evelyn: Do you trust me?
Alan Harper, Berta, Charlie Harper, Rose: No!
Evelyn: Okay, but you know I have your best interest at heart. Don't you?
Alan Harper, Berta, Charlie Harper, Rose: NO!
- The Chuck episode "Chuck vs. the First Kill"
Chuck Bartowski: How do I know I can trust them? The government wants to keep the Intersect in my head. My father's the only one who can get it out. It's not rocket science.
Sarah Walker: Okay, I know that you don't trust them. But do you trust me?
Sarah: Good. Then I promise you, we're going to find him.
- In the Smallville episode "Doomsday", Clark has just admitted to Jimmy that he's the Red-Blue Blur.
Clark Kent: Jimmy, do you trust me?
Jimmy Olsen: Always, C.K.
- And the episode "Reckoning"
Clark: [Places the key into the pedestal and they are both surrounded by beams of light] It's okay.
Lana: [Looks around in amazement as Clark reaches out to her]
Clark: Do you trust me?
Lana: [Grabs Clark's hand and they are instantly transported to the Fortress of Solitude]
- The biggest one is probably in Collateral, when Chloe returns and asking Clark to trust her to escape from a virtual reality. He hesitates and loses the first chance, but he knows he still trusts her deep inside. It takes a darker turn when a bad guy assumed her likeness in the virtual world...
- The Dollhouse episode "The Target".
Boyd Langton: You can't go after this guy. You don't have the right imprint. You don't have the right training. [snip]
Jenny: Do you trust me? [snip]
Boyd: With my life.
- In the Doctor Who episode "The Time of Angels", the Doctor and associates are surrounded by Weeping Angels, who are prevented from attacking only because someone can see them.
Doctor: Do you trust me?
Doctor: You lot, do you trust me?
Bishop: We have faith, sir.
Doctor: Then give me your gun. I'm about to do something incredibly stupid and dangerous. When I do ... jump.
[He shoots out the only light source.]
- Just generally used a lot in the new series.
- And from "Flesh and Stone":
The Doctor: Amy, I need you to trust me. It's never been more important.
Amy: But you don't always tell me the truth.
The Doctor: If I always told you the truth, I wouldn't need you to trust me.
- Francis Urquhart is fond of the phrase "You do trust me, don't you?". If he ever asks you it, run.
- Sara asks Grissom this before starting to shave him in CSI.
- Angel asks Buffy in "Lie to Me", "Do you love me?" before agreeing to reveal the truth about how he turned Drusilla into a vampire. Buffy replies, "I love you. I don't know if I trust you." (Angel replies, "Maybe you shouldn't.") In Season 6 "Dead Things" Buffy is having a relationship with another vampire, Spike, but keeps insisting their relationship is purely sexual with no love involved. In response Spike offers her a pair of handcuffs and asks, "Do you trust me?" Buffy replies "Never" but the next day is seen rubbing her wrists in a telling manner.
- Angel asks potential Love Interest Detective Kate Lockley if she trusts him before handing over information on a Serial Killer without revealing the source. She says she does without hesitation, but later in the episode Kate discovers Angel is a vampire and she never fully trusts him again.
- A variation occurs in the BBC Mini Series The Sinking Of The Laconia. Junior Officer Thomas Mortimer asks passenger Hilda Smith this, saying he only has four hours off-duty to do "whatever he likes". The set-up of the scene leads viewers to think he is making a sexual pass, but it turns out he's asking to be allowed to babysit her infant so he can remind himself of his own children.
- Game of Thrones. In "The Laws of Gods and Men" Tyrion Lannister is on trial with his father Lord Tywin as judge. It's a Kangaroo Court with all the witnesses against him, so his brother Jaime makes a backroom deal with Tywin; if he pleads guilty and asks for mercy, Tyrion will be sent to the Wall instead of being executed. In exchange Jaime will leave the Kingsguard (who are sworn not to take wives or inherit titles) and become Tywin's heir. Tyrion balks at this, as he knows his father hates him and the last person given such an offer had his head chopped off anyway. Rather than explain the bargain he's made Jaime says only, "Do you trust me?" Tyrion just has time to nod before the trial recommences.
- Jon Snow has to get the support of the wildling clans, hereditary enemies of the Nights Watch, so forms an Enemy Mine alliance with clan chief Tormund Giantsbane. Their alliance is put to its first test when the two disembark at Hardhome in the midst of thousands of hostile wildlings.
Tormund: (quietly) You trust me, Jon Snow?
Jon: Does that make me a fool, then?
Tormund: We're fools together now.
- Star Trek: Voyager.
- In "Counterpoint" Inspector Kashyk uses this trope to justify the anti-telepath policies of the Devore Imperium. note
Kashyk: Captain, do you trust me?
Janeway: (instantly) Not for a second.
Kashyk: Exactly, and why should you? Trust has to be earned. It's gradual, and yet it's the foundation of every relationship, professional and personal. It's also a concept alien to the telepathic races. Why take someone at their word when you can simply read their mind?
- In "Scorpion" Captain Janeway comes into conflict with her Number One, Commander Chakotay, over an Enemy Mine alliance with the Borg that Chakotay thinks is both reckless and unethical.
Janeway: Do you trust me, Chakotay?
Chakotay: That isn't the issue.
Janeway: I appreciate your insights, but the time for debate is over. I've made my decision.
- Teen Titans: Terra says this to Beast Boy, complete with the Aladdin hand up right before she takes him out on a date and Titans Tower is attacked.
- The Zeta Project: In "Lost and Found", Zeta goes through flashbacks of his last mission. During this, the daughter of the accountant he impersonates wants to learn how to ride a bike. When she has trouble riding straight, Zeta tells her to stabilize by going faster, and says this.