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12th Jun '17 5:23:14 AM DoctorNemesis
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* There is no hard rule for helping a person with a wheelchair or a scooter with a door, as they are just as different with their feelings as everyone else. Some are quite adept with opening doors on their own and prefer to do so, some ask for help.
** In fact there '''is''' a hard-and-fast rule for helping someone in a wheelchair/scooter with a door. Ask if they want help (note the use of the word want, ''not'' "need") and if they decline the offer, ''back off''.
*** Yes, make an elaborate show of asking the poor dears whether they need help or not, thereby showing just how helpless (and emotionally fragile!) you think they are - that's more condescending than help as a reflex action. The real solution: hold the door for everyone, apparently disabled or not.
3rd Jun '17 10:10:09 AM nombretomado
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* At the SuperheroSchool Whateley Academy in the WhateleyUniverse, Greta is a genius inventor who is on a training team and likes to mix it up on the front lines. She's in a wheelchair, and she has real trouble getting her teammates to respect that she doesn't need to be protected constantly. In "Ayla and the Birthday Brawl" we see that some other people have spotted that this is now one of her team's big weaknesses.

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* At the SuperheroSchool Whateley Academy in the WhateleyUniverse, Literature/WhateleyUniverse, Greta is a genius inventor who is on a training team and likes to mix it up on the front lines. She's in a wheelchair, and she has real trouble getting her teammates to respect that she doesn't need to be protected constantly. In "Ayla and the Birthday Brawl" we see that some other people have spotted that this is now one of her team's big weaknesses.
22nd May '17 3:02:15 PM SparkyYoungUpstart
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* This is certainly the mindset that Agnes' family and friends have towards her in ''Literature/{{Run}}''. While there are a few things that Agnes does need help with, such as if she's in an unfamiliar place with unfamiliar voices, she's quite independent. It takes befriending Bo to give her the confidence to start striking out on her own.
23rd Apr '17 9:49:30 AM nombretomado
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* In the SweetValleyHigh novel "That Fatal Night", football star Ken Matthews is blinded in a car accident. Despite initially trying to take care of himself, he comes to believe this trope, to the point where his would-be girlfriend is waiting on him hand and foot and feeling guilty for not being at his beck and call. She finally blows up at him over his ingratitude, at which point he finally realizes that he ISN'T incapable of taking care of himself.

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* In the SweetValleyHigh Literature/SweetValleyHigh novel "That Fatal Night", football star Ken Matthews is blinded in a car accident. Despite initially trying to take care of himself, he comes to believe this trope, to the point where his would-be girlfriend is waiting on him hand and foot and feeling guilty for not being at his beck and call. She finally blows up at him over his ingratitude, at which point he finally realizes that he ISN'T incapable of taking care of himself.
20th Apr '17 7:35:20 PM Pichu-kun
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* Sometimes it seems as though Nunnaly from ''Anime/CodeGeass'' feels this way. She ''is'' the one with the disability (she can't walk or open her eyes), and prefers for the entire first season to have Lelouch take care of her, even though they're ''both'' teenagers (she gets better about this and finally starts acting on her own in season 2). In Episode 21 of R2, Lelouch says that Nunnally kept smiling because, disabled as she was, it was the only way she knew how to show her gratitude to him.
** Very decisively zig-zagged in the final episodes. On one hand, [[spoiler:Nunnally ruthlessly, though regretfully, used [=WMDs=] against her brother's forces]]. On the other hand, everything about her in the final episode -- from her [[spoiler:confrontation with Lelouch]] to her outfit in the final scene -- suggests helplessness and even objectification.

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* Sometimes it seems as though Nunnaly from ''Anime/CodeGeass'' feels this way. She ''is'' the one with the disability (she can't walk or open her eyes), and prefers for the entire first season to have Lelouch take care of her, even though they're ''both'' teenagers (she gets better about this and finally starts acting on her own in season 2). In Episode 21 of R2, Lelouch says that Nunnally kept smiling because, disabled as she was, it was the only way she knew how to show her gratitude to him.
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him. This is very decisively zig-zagged in the final episodes. On one hand, [[spoiler:Nunnally ruthlessly, though regretfully, used [=WMDs=] against her brother's forces]]. On the other hand, everything about her in the final episode -- from her [[spoiler:confrontation with Lelouch]] to her outfit in the final scene -- suggests helplessness and even objectification.



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* Subverted with Music/EvelynEvelyn. They're ConjoinedTwins with deeply traumatic pasts but are self-taught musicians who want to be popular.
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* In the ''{{WesternAnimation/Arthur}}'' episode "Prunella Sees the Light", Prunella invites her blind friend Marina over for a [[Franchise/HarryPotter Henry Skreever]] sleepover. However, she worries that Marina may not see the decoration in her room or may get injured because she is blind. Marina doesn't like the special treatment Prunella is giving her, and fortunately Prunella learns to treat Marina just like any other friend. We also get see the tricks and methods that Marina uses in her own house, but here they are ''her'' methods and ''her'' choices.

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* ''{{WesternAnimation/Arthur}}'':
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In the ''{{WesternAnimation/Arthur}}'' episode "Prunella Sees the Light", Prunella invites her blind friend Marina over for a [[Franchise/HarryPotter Henry Skreever]] sleepover. However, she worries that Marina may not see the decoration in her room or may get injured because she is blind. Marina doesn't like the special treatment Prunella is giving her, and fortunately Prunella learns to treat Marina just like any other friend. We also get see the tricks and methods that Marina uses in her own house, but here they are ''her'' methods and ''her'' choices.



* This is also why Toph's parents in ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'' kept her so sheltered that even her ''existence'' was a secret. Why, their helpless little blind girl would obviously perish if allowed to leave the house for even a moment! When she proved to them that she is ''more'' than capable of handling herself, their reaction was to declare that she had been given ''too much'' freedom and will now be monitored 24/7.
** This kind of upbringing presented a whole new set of problems for Toph later in her life in ''WesternAnimation/TheLegendOfKorra''.

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* This is also why Toph's parents in ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'' kept her so sheltered that even her ''existence'' was a secret. Why, their helpless little blind girl would obviously perish if allowed to leave the house for even a moment! When she proved to them that she is ''more'' than capable of handling herself, their reaction was to declare that she had been given ''too much'' freedom and will now be monitored 24/7.
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24/7. This kind of upbringing presented a whole new set of problems for Toph later in her life in ''WesternAnimation/TheLegendOfKorra''.
16th Apr '17 6:25:16 PM nombretomado
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* An interesting version appears in the StarTrekDeepSpaceNine episode, "Melora". A scientist named Melora from a race called Elaysian comes to [=DS9=] and because her home planet has much lighter gravity, she has to wear braces on her body and use a wheelchair to get around in any environment with "normal" gravity. Being very sensitive of her condition, she ends up lashing out to anyone who tries to help her, thinking that they're seeing her as helpless or weak. After Bashir calls her out on this, she starts to cool down and the two of them become friends and a little bit later, romantically involved.

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* An interesting version appears in the StarTrekDeepSpaceNine ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'' episode, "Melora". A scientist named Melora from a race called Elaysian comes to [=DS9=] and because her home planet has much lighter gravity, she has to wear braces on her body and use a wheelchair to get around in any environment with "normal" gravity. Being very sensitive of her condition, she ends up lashing out to anyone who tries to help her, thinking that they're seeing her as helpless or weak. After Bashir calls her out on this, she starts to cool down and the two of them become friends and a little bit later, romantically involved.
17th Mar '17 6:50:05 AM ShaulaAntare
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* A common problem for those who are [[TheMentallyDisturbed mentally ill]] in RealLife. Mental and neurological illness can be disabling, sometimes to the point where those who suffer from it cannot work or cannot drive a vehicle. People with these "disabilities" need support and help -- which is why they often seek financial assistance or learn to use public transportation, for example. Having a mental or neurological condition does not, by itself, make someone insane, irrational, intellectually deficient, prone to violence, or in any way not a capable, reasonable adult.

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* A common problem for those who are [[TheMentallyDisturbed mentally ill]] in RealLife. Mental and neurological illness can be disabling, sometimes to the point where those who suffer from it cannot work or cannot drive a vehicle. People with these "disabilities" disabilities need support and help -- which is why they often seek financial assistance or learn to use public transportation, for example. Having a mental or neurological condition does not, by itself, make someone insane, irrational, intellectually deficient, prone to violence, or in any way not a capable, reasonable adult.
1st Mar '17 9:45:55 AM JJHIL325
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** An [[WholeEpisodeFlashback earlier episode that flashes back to]] everybody finding out that Buster has asthma has all his friends start dusting things off for him, to the point where he skips out on a trip to the nurses office for his inhaler so they don't worry about it anymore. After that backfires on him, Buster decided to explain how asthma works to his class as part of his school project so they aren't so scared of it, teaching everybody a lesson.

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** An [[WholeEpisodeFlashback earlier episode that flashes back to]] everybody finding out that Buster has being daignosed with asthma has all his friends start dusting things off for him, to the point where he skips out on a trip to the nurses office for his inhaler and pretends he's cured so they don't worry about it anymore. After that backfires on him, Buster decided to explain how asthma works to his class as part of his school project so they aren't so scared of it, teaching everybody a lesson.and they begin to treat him like normal again.
15th Feb '17 10:08:33 AM IndustriousArc
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* ''FanFic/ABrighterDark'': Subverted with Silas. Despite having his leg crushed very early on, he is still able to use his arms well enough to hold a sword. Though both he and everyone else acknowledges he should stay out of the thick of the fighting, he's still able to defend himself well enough.
30th Jan '17 6:09:38 PM BigJaredMonkey
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* Comedian Mike McConnell suffered from muscular dystrophy his entire life (his slogan was "100% comedy, 0% standup"). One of his routines dealt with "helpful" people who would push him and his wheelchair around without first asking or even warning him if it was okay, and blamed the fact that people felt okay doing this on the assumption that because he was in a chair, he was mentally dysfunctional.
-->''"Look, its pretty simple: treat the handles of a wheelchair like a pair of breasts. Unless they are attached to you, or unless you have permission to do so, keep your damned hands off!"''
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