Romance

You shouldn't. But I know a lot of people who feel that way. My advice is to try flipping the perspective and thinking about how you would feel hearing that someone who had a crush on you. Would your first instinct be to think, "Eww, they're creepy"? Most likely not. We're always so tough on ourselves, thinking that everything we do is so awkward and creepy and that everyone is judging us, but in actuality, people aren't.

I dunno. I think myself as...sigh.

I can kind of see their eyes saying that I'm creepy. I mean, I wear all black all the time and don't smile. It's easier to think that.

• shrugs*

I just remembered how much I love my girlfriend. I hit the jackpot...

Good for you.

I feel the similarly about Nova-chan. I mean, we have so much in common, our personalities match in a lot of ways, and we care about and try our best to support each other. Plus, both of us think the other is hella adorable.

And at no point have I thought, "Damn, how did she end up loving me" or "I don't deserve her", because that's the thing with us: We do deserve each other, and we both know that. We're like two halves of one whole, I guess. I feel like she really, really understands me and vice versa. And neither of us act superior or put the other on a pedestal. That's one of the more important things that makes a relationship healthy and enjoyable, imo.

What I'm mainly saying is, I feel very lucky, but not in the "I don't know how I accomplished this" way that many people exhibit, but more so in the "So lucky we met" way.

edited 28th Jan '17 5:51:33 PM by Konkfan7

Good for you. Really happy for you.

I'm going to try to stay single until I'm at least 30 because people...I can't trust anyone enough to date.

edited 28th Jan '17 6:42:09 PM by marcen12

Going to be asking my crush out soonish. I made a joke the other day about how I haven't had anyone send me any Valentine's Day gifts since elementary/middle school and she asked me if I would want one from her. I asked her if it would make us Valentines, and she replied with a genuine smile and a "maybe".

I'm not expecting a yes, but it's worth a shot.

How about a third option, see about making someone be happy with you?

As for this basically being the singles thread, I hang out here and I'm in a long term relationship, but there's not much to say, I just give advise when I feel I can.

The way I look at relationships is you want to find someone who makes you happy and that you make happy. Someone you get on with well.

I had a weird conversation yesterday, the presence of alcohol might be partially to blame but I don't really know. A friend of mine, who's a lesbian, I must add was telling me that in theory, they would date me as well as do other things to me. In practice, well they're gay and has had bad experiences with men. Like apparently, according to them, I'm the kind of guy who's like harmlessly masculine and the sort of manly they like... So uh yeah, kinda weird but pretty cool.

edited 29th Jan '17 2:23:59 AM by RevolverZen

I mean, hey, I'd interpret that as being a compliment, basically saying you're a catch and anyone attracted to guys would be lucky to have you.

I do see it as one like it's really nice of them to say. I returned with that if they were attracted to men I'd jump their bones. But what's weird is I that had no idea they had any interest in dudes.

I think I need to get out more and do things like despite what I think, I'm not that bad looking (self-worth is just a big problem for me in general). Yeah so it is a big boost to my tiny ego.

I have a beaten up ego so I can't say much.

Mine's probably scarred, just saying.

-sigh- It's regular.

I'm actually kinda glad of my newfound singleness - I can drunk with reckless abandon without catching flak for it, if I want I can try to flirt with that gothy chick that comes through the store I work at. I'm glad though me and Caiti stayed friends. I like her as a person, yeah, but there was a lot in the relationship I didn't quite like.

Relationships are complicated, to say the least. Kudos to my friends for finding people who they love. However, I'm staying away from relationships because, you know, eff people sometimes. I don't even know how to flirt, despite someone on Xbox Live telling me that I am flirty. It's pretty much dollar store romance flirty. Soooooo cheap and ew.

Don't give up, however. I wish I could do what you do while you're single but I can't drink. All I think about is things not involving people and that's harmful in a relationship. And my aunt wants me to have kids and I'm like, "No."

In the end, I'd rather be.

@Konkfan, that pretty much sums up how I feel about my relationship with Bad Girly Colt.

And this year I can once more take part in my tradition of getting drunk as hell on Valentine's Day. Except I'm gonna make it a two day affair.

Why two days, if I may ask?

Because the stench of Valentine's Day goes into the next day.

I met a really qt boy on the 'net a while ago. There's a lot of chemistry between us, we play Lo L together and flirt a little (okay, a lot), but he lives on the other side of the pond so it's kinda pointless to try and turn it into something serious. It's so difficult to find gay guys who are both good looking and are actually decent people AND don't live thousands of miles away from me. .-.

edited 2nd Feb '17 6:36:46 PM by Mely

I'm sure you'll find someone.

Yep, that's why I don't give up! But it's kinda difficult nevertheless and I'm only beginning to get over my shyness, hah.

That's the spirit!

Don't mock the day after Valentine's Day. It's International Cheap Chocolate Day, after all. (And a certain Cail's birthday)