@Tape: Ouch. Did he get some form of comeuppance?

@Hope-son: I'm happy for you, filho.

Sadly not. He lost his job and skipped town for a while and went back to his native Romania, but otherwise he got away pretty much scot-free. It wasn't until years later, when my best mate started dating the girl who was our teacher's victim, that she started opening up about what actually happened. But by then it was of course too late to get back at the old man in any way.

edited 7th Oct '15 3:16:17 PM by TAPETRVE

Me & my crush are texting again, but I have no idea where to go from here.

Make babby

1. Do you wish to pursue a romantic relationship?

2. Do you wish to remain friends?

3. Do you have a gauge on her level of attraction to you?

4.Do you have a guage on YOUR level of attraction to her?

Depends. Are the first two points mutually exclusive?

In any case, I have no clue if she's into me just yet, and I don't want to drop the bomb on her by asking.

edited 10th Oct '15 8:12:34 AM by Spinosegnosaurus77

Well, you cannot have #1 without #2, because then, all you have is strong (and eventually muted) passion and sex (or making out or feeling-each-other-up or whatever).

In that case, yes to the first two and no to #3. I think #4 is also a yes, but you'd have to be more specific.

Hmmmmmm.

Well, truth be told; there's only one thing you can do.

Confess your feelings.

But wait!, you say. I don't want to do that! What if she hates me?

She won't. You're gonna have to. It's the only way.

My advice is summed up int this CH article.

I won't actually see her until maybe next summer. Does that still apply? I'd prefer to tell her in person.

edited 10th Oct '15 8:40:04 AM by Spinosegnosaurus77

That sounds fairly reasonable... As long as you do tell her. Just don't let it eat you up inside, Spino. That's most important.

Saying it in person should give you better chance, but don't rule out a really good opportunity to mention it during your online communication if one comes up.

Also, set HAPPENING-CON 3! I actually had a conversation with a girl on OKC. It sort of faded after a while, but then she tried to restart it today (although I was offline at the time).

What would be a good opportunity to bring it up?

The main one I can think of is if she implies that she'd be receptive to the idea of dating you. Dating talk in general may also be a sign, but it can be kinda iffy.

Otherwise, just look for signs of more than friendly interest. I have no idea what these actually are, but if you find them, it may be useful to act on that information sooner rather than later.

edited 10th Oct '15 9:20:45 AM by VolatileChills

That's a good point, Vollydad.

Also, good luck with OKC girl.

From my exp, if she acts a little more flirty or something, then you can try to act. TBH, it's really hard to ascertain. Even Buddelia - who was 100% into me - didn't make it obvious that she liked me, even though I was totally (apparently) obvious I liked her. So, sad to say, but any cues on that part will most likely seem very mixed.

Thanks, I'm going to need it.

And I agree on the vagueness of flirting, especially in internet conversations. The main reason why I think that this girl is into me is because she made the first move and it's a dating site. The conversation itself has been fairly standard asking of questions.

It's really vague. I basically had to perform Interpretive Phenomenological Analysis on her discourse to work out she liked me; and even then I was totally at a loss.

Anyway, I reckon yours sounds pretty cut-and-dry. I think those questions are to get a grounding of your personality and your self. Stay strong. Stand your ground. Ask back. Ask open-ended questions so she responds with rich text that you can analyse and pin-point info. And try to worm your way into getting a date.

The major potential downfall I'm expecting is that she's not romantically compatible with me. Our sexual tastes seem to be a good match, but she seems to be more into love than sex, and may or may not be more into long-term stuff (she mentions looking for both long-term and short-term on her profile, but her questions imply that she prefers the former).

Pretty dull date, but i really liked that venue. Tea place, spacious, loaded with style, good food/drink, cheap.

I think i'll drydock OKC from this point until i graduate and get a full-time job, though (whichever comes second). Need to have my shit together before i start looking at the romantic side again.

What does OKC stand for?

OKCupid, the dominant free online dating system.

Used to have an account on there, until one night a while ago I went scorched earth on all my online dating accounts in a drunken fury.

i've never tried online dating. i don't really want to at this point, actively seeking a partner is i think not in my best interests.

I got a visit on my profile from a 99% match. Unfortunately, she's in Europe. >.<

-cue Hopey coming in and talking about the glorious European Union-