Romance

I probably could. It just feels like a foreign concept anymore. It is so weird.

you haven't had a chance for a romantic prospect in a while?

A large part of which is that I have made zero effort in the last couple years, since a series of ill-fated dates kinda pissed me off. I mostly blocked the whole idea out, aside from occasional sadness, and I honestly do/did think I should get my life in order before I really try for any kind of relationship. I feel I need to fix the fact that I'm in a dead-end job first, and I'm having no luck there, but I've also kinda had a combination of poor luck and fear of my own awkwardness help convince me not to.

So yeah, I'm kind of confused. And I think flattered. But still.

edited 4th Aug '15 6:03:58 PM by MrMatt

yeah i think wanting to get your life in order before getting into a relationship is perfectly understandable.

if you're feeling better now though, what do you have to lose by giving it a shot? you might feel bad for a while but in my experience that tends to pass after a few days provided you didn't get that invested in whether you'd be getting a yes or no.

I'm actually less concerned about a no than a yes that implodes because my act isn't completely together yet, financial/career/living situation-wise. I've gotten no before and I can move on with my life. It's yeses that go boom that worry me.

So, I don't know how much background I should give on this issue I have, but I'm gonna give the minimum I think is necessary. If you require more, I can give it to you.

About two and a half years ago, I met a girl. At the time, we didn't talk much, and while I thought she was attractive, I was also busy nursing a crush on another girl (which is still there, but won't ever work out), and spent the night flirting with yet another (which didn't lead anywhere except a kiss). Not to mention that she also had a boyfriend, so given everything, I hadn't paid her much mind at the time.

Recently, though, after she sent me a birthday message, we started talking more regularly. And she was way more fun than I expected her to be, so I kind of started to develop a crush on her. To figure out whether it could be more, I tried to meet up with her, but she was always busy. More recently, my cousin and I had made plans, and during one of our chats, when I mentioned it to her, she said she could join us if it was OK for everyone. Which, of course, got me overjoyed, and my cousin said we could arrange the date to suit her better.

Then, last week, she sent me a message saying that, for private reasons, she would not be able to join us, and that she was sorry to cancel on me. I thought, OK, I did something wrong, and didn't push it further. For all I knew, she was going to cut off contact forever.

Then she sent me another message.

It had nothing to do with meeting up or anything - she just thought of a series she said I'd enjoy, and wanted to tell me that. After a brief chat, she once again disappeared.

So, I don't know what to do. Given that we're in different cities, even if I want to pursue it to a definite answer (yes or no), I'd have to wait until September to see her, when she comes back for college. If not, well, I feel like I just missed all the other romantic opportunities I had the last few months for no good reason (yeah, yeah, sunk cost fallacy - romance never works out logically).

Thoughts?

Well, she was the one who mentioned joining you and your cousin, wasn't she? Seems to me that she genuinely couldn't come for unrelated last minute reasons. °° On the other hand, it's very possible (I'd say likely) that she's interested in meeting you just as a friend, at least for now.

Personally, I'd advise you to try to keep your expectations low until you can meet in person, and that the first time you do it should be just a friendly thing. You can see if and how things develop from there. But I also know that the heart has his reasons, etcetera. :P

always good advice.

not that it means you should be pessimistic. hope for the best, expect the worst.

I don't really have any expectations besides a broad "golly, I hope I do find me a nice gal someday". I'm not even sure if this is a crush or just me enjoying her conversation, which is why I want to meet her in person.

I hope you don't mind, I read that in the voice of Mickey Mouse.

I don't know what Mickey Mouse sounds like.

Wait, really?

I can't find any videos that line up the many voice actors of Mickey, so here's an example of Walt Disney performing him.

I only read comic books of Mickey Mouse and never watched any animated stuff. So, yes, really.

Khat has Mickey's and Pete's voices confused.

Well, I'm very excited so I'm just gonna spit this out:

Me and Electric Nova are OTP Canon now.

You have maxed out your Social Link! You have forged a bond that cannot be broken!

Yes indeed.<3

Note: my super facetious congratulation aside: real life relationships are more akin to non-maxed out Persona 3 social links, where you have to keep at them constantly. So, um, don't get confused by my ridiculousness.

But I am happy for other people. Envious, but happy.

yep <3

-nuzzles Nova-<3

Nova and Konk: You know, this makes who I was thinking on casting you two on DMC 4 and Drakengard 3 seem awfully curious...

Maybe what Yakuzu said on the Shokugeki No Soma thread was true... maybe I really AM a prophet.

Khantalas: You have good taste in comics.

edited 5th Aug '15 1:57:34 PM by SaintDeltora

Did you touch the Monado?

OMG congratulations Konk and Nova! <3