Romance

He said if you two have a disagreement.

Oh, okay. I already understood as much, but thanks regardless Terl.

Yeah, I think respecting each other in a disagreement is important.

I actually met someone once who was similar to Rachel, but we had a disagreement and she did not know how to handle it, then I went in to berserk mode, and after all those events, I hate said person with a passion.

You see, respect can make a BIG difference.

Seems like a no brainer but I've seen enough couples forget and prolong the thing by either sweeping it under the rug or flat out not address the issue.

edited 28th Apr '14 4:45:29 PM by terlwyth

Of course, better anger management skills could help in a situation like that too...

Folly is human nature. Tons of people are fully aware of these things yet slip into those habits sometimes themselves. I'm sure you've slipped into that before too.

edited 28th Apr '14 4:47:18 PM by Odd1

Had one of those moments where I realize just how different someone is from me to the point that I don't think a relationship between us would ever work out should the chance ever arrive.

To wit:

• Her night last night: Passed out drunk in her car and then argued with the cops
• My night last night: Spent hours listening to a podcast, ate Mc Donalds, and then fell asleep in the bathtub.

Is maybe an automatic no?

No, I'd lean towards it being a no,but once in a while it comes out to yes.

"We'll see" on the other hand...

Also,less than a week left before I get to see her again.

Exactly.

edited 2nd May '14 11:22:42 AM by terlwyth

I'd say it depends on the context. And if the maybe was oral, the tone of the voice and body language also carry great meaning. Playful "maybe" is closer to "yes", whereas bored or indifferent "Nah, maybe" is a clear, even if gentle "no".

So I need some help, a teenager needing help with romance?

Never heard of that before did you?

Anyway, I'm having a situation with my crush, I'm not sure how to exactly describe it, expect just... Stagnant.

I don't really talk much with her, I haven't sat with her in classes (I'm in the first year of high school right now.) ever since Passover vacation because she skipped most English classes, we haven't had Chemistry ones because it keeps being cancelled due to whatever.

And in the Art classes I just... Don't really talk to her, and she doesn't talk to me.

For those who need details, back at around November I've had a bit of shit with her, basically we started in the year as friends once we knew we had common interests, which is not something I usually find, causing me to want to be with her as much as I can, then she was distant, and I had a crapton of mental breakdowns in that trip, and the day after the trip, I gathered up enough courage to ask her if I was not giving her enough space to breathe, and she said yes.

Basically, from that for at least a month, I've had minimal interaction with her, and only started to really talk with her a lot when I got the implied okay from her (basically her acting really friendly with me), and for a while things with her were good, I didn't confess, but I didn't have to fear doing stupid shit and wasn't as nervous anymore.

And I am currently in the state at the start of the post, I know this is just nervousness and stupid cowardice stopping me, but acknowledging that intellectually doesn't really help me.

I should try to talk to her.

But I don't know how.

It's the same thing I have with new people, my relatives, or with a lot of people in general, I just don't know how to keep a smoothe conversation, I don't know what to say, I don't know how to start it.

I know I need to talk to her, that much is obvious, so I think the advice I need is more along the lines of how do I actually do it?

edited 2nd May '14 12:32:27 PM by LiorVal

1. Walk up to her

2. Wave a knife and/or a gun in front of her face.

3. ???

4. Make outs.

Have you ever asked her to have a cup of coffee or eat ice cream or something?

If you got back the trust, you can ask her to hang out, basically.

Not helping. Guns don't work.

edited 2nd May '14 12:38:09 PM by Quag15

I see you haven't changed a bit in the month (2?) I avoided Yack Fest Rosvo.

Good, Yack Fest needs a guy like you.

Not really, I basically only discussed this with Egg before, sorry, but I can't really explain the whole year precisely, but I think you're mistaken, she pretty obviously has forgiven me for that shit I did at the start of the school year, but no, I have only once been to her house, and once I've been in a con with her and a bunch of her friends. But outside of that, not really.

Also, I don't drink coffee.

edited 2nd May '14 12:41:02 PM by LiorVal

Quag, have you tried it?

The greatest relationship counsellor is Dr. Colt.

Lior: There aren't more guys like me?

"Coffee" is, for the most part, an expression to hang out at a cafe/bar/whatever and talk. You can have tea, orange juice, etc.

Well, she forgave you, you're friends again, neither of you feel uncomfortable around each other, and you were with her at her house and a con. So, I'd say: ask her to hang out, or, if you want to go the subtle way, drop a hint along the lines of "If you're not busy, we could have a coffee or something".

It is an inefficient method, for the most part. I prefer persuasion.

Fair enough. If you want, you can always PM me.

edited 2nd May '14 12:46:01 PM by Quag15

Not enough, for this place.

I won't devolve further into the subject.

I was joking.

Anyway... Eh.

It's harder than it sounds. At least, in the scenario I make in my head.

edited 2nd May '14 12:46:15 PM by LiorVal

How about sending her dickpics?

But cameras steal your soul Rosvo.

Oh yeah.

Well, how about just walking up to her and whipping your penis out?

Too much risk of landing me in jail man.

Why would you get arrested?

She'll just be in awe of your masculinity and immediately have sex with you.

Nah, I'd be arrested by random bystanders in the area.

Well, after I saw your PM, I can say this:

Try talking with her on a regular basis. And I'm not talking about during classes. Every couple of days, have a little chat with her about different stuff (I'm sure you have stuff in common, since you went with her to a con). After that, you can ask her to hang out again. If she gives vague answers, ask her again a couple of weeks later. If she says something like "I'm busy", you can: move on to another one or bide your time.

I was in a similar situation like yours until I've asked the girl I'm interested in to have a coffee. I did what I said in this post and we're gonna have a coffee next week.

I think I'll try first by, ya know, actually saying hi while not in classes, asking her how she is. Something I haven't really done in a while, and hope it won't be weird. And go from there.

edited 2nd May '14 1:34:33 PM by LiorVal

A good decision. Good luck.

edited 2nd May '14 1:39:17 PM by Quag15