The Totally Radical Thread for Crotchety Old Bitches

Yeah, I agree with Teuf: you dodged a bullet. I'd put money on that place being a right pain to work in.

Lera: alright, fair enough. Offer still stands whenever you want to call in the favor.

In good news for me, having shaken this cloud of oppressive despair and apathy, I'm gonna start making life progress. First step is I'm gonna get my stepdad's old '88 Cadillac. It's old, rusty on the outside, but damn the thing is a tank. Simultaneously I'm gonna start doubling my efforts seeking employment. There's like 6 fast food places near my house less than 1.5 miles away. Maybe moving in some direction in life rather than idling around will alleviate the depression a bit, maybe not. Worth a try.

edited 13th Sep '15 4:15:11 PM by Leradny

Lerad: Sorry things are a bit rough. Hang in there best you can.

In happier news my brother who was doing work with the peace corps in Albania is back state side. :D

Unrelated...

This is a painting of a tanuki hauling other tanuki using his scrotum for a boat.◊

I just... Honestly, Japan... Where do you get these things?

Euo's observation of life: those who seem all peachy on the surface are usually hiding something: impending divorce, looming debt, hidden drinking, unrecognised gambling or some other undiagnosed issue. Usually. :/ So, it's not a good idea to take the surface as a criticism to beat yourself up about, as their wheels might well be just as unsteady out of eyeshot — it's a waste of good self-hate.

You'd be amazed at the number of masks walking about, Lerad. Not all people are professional actors, though. <hugs>

edited 13th Sep '15 4:14:35 PM by Leradny

I didn't say anything before, because you didn't ask for help. But here's something that helps me when I'm feeling just stuck and fucked.

I look at my choices — all my choices, even the awful ones. There are innumerable things I am capable of doing, including running away or suicide. When I look at all my choices like that, and it comes up, "Well, I could stick this out or take a walk off the Golden Gate or hitchhike to Nevada and start turning tricks," my current situation usually starts to look pretty good. It still sucks, but it's the best of my choices, and I chose it. Me. Not shitty life.

OK: wrong message received — my bad. <_<

I was shooting for the "even if things look great on paper for another person, they've still got issues I don't want, even if I don't know what they are: if I had to choose to swap a good thing of theirs with a bad thing of mine; and then swap out a good thing I've got for a bad thing of theirs, I'd probably get a nasty surprise both on what I lose and gain" angle.

It's a reminder that even at your happiest, you had issues even others wouldn't want in exchange for part of that happy. And even while you're low, you have high points you really don't want to lose.

It helps you find the happy, so you can pull out of the low.

There's really no point in comparing where you are to where others are: your life is your life, not theirs — even if it sucks in the short or medium term. The only competition is with yourself, and your choices can change how you deal with the random shit to get to happier places.

Envy of others is a quick way towards making yourself extremely unhappy for outside factors they had that you couldn't duplicate, even if magic wands existed. :/

Dwelling on what you "should" be, how much you "should" be earning, how easy things "should" be or where your relationship status "should" be? By what yardstick? Whose expectations? What competitive event?

"Should" is just finding reasons to beat yourself up: you're already working towards where things could go as best you can — and, that's all that anybody can actually do. There's no timer; there are no guarantees. Failure is always an option, but it's not necessarily 'bad'' to fail.

I think that's the hardest lesson to learn after all those lessons at school where "failure = loser = bad = fear it" was drilled into all of us. Failure is neither good nor bad. It's a sign you need to try something else, that's all.

Even bankruptcy isn't the end of the world. Even homelessness isn't the end of life. Even getting sick doesn't mean you can't be happy or succeed in things you didn't know existed before you got ill and had to make changes.

Life is not the competition sociopaths and psychopaths like to convince us it is, Leradny. <hugs> It's a whole lot weirder than that.

edited 13th Sep '15 12:29:07 AM by Euodiachloris

edited 13th Sep '15 4:15:22 PM by Leradny

Yackfest has an audience closer to that response.

Um... invest in Gallows Humor to vent in? That way we can get a dark joke-chain going while you vent, maybe?

So I've now seen Fury Road 6 times.

Also I think I may be a Warboy for Halloween. Though being shirtless in late October in Michigan ain't the best idea, I'll probably throw together a suitably post apocalyptic jacket.

Witness! Shiny and Chrome!

According to my cousin Becca, there is silver spray color decoration for cakes, so I need to find some of that. Rest of the costume is just flour, grease, and some cargo pants.

Meh. You don't actually need nipples.

Hey, it never hurts to be prepared. ;D

But honestly, I was wondering why all the foodstuffs, too.

edited 13th Sep '15 6:16:29 PM by mona.soyun

... you planning on having somebody lick this costume off you?

Bleh. That sliver stuff tastes horrible, though. xP

edited 13th Sep '15 7:29:41 PM by Euodiachloris

Tuef: See, I read that as, "Witless, shiny and chrome..."

edited 13th Sep '15 6:34:37 PM by Pyrite

Oh, I googled and I get it now (shudduuuup, I have kids). Cake paint, nice.

There is nontoxic body paint. Just grab it off Amazon. It will be cheaper that way and yes, you can use it on your teeth. I've used it before.

If you want silver that won't flake off, I recommend liquid latex and paint it on so long as you are not allergic

Reason I said flour is it seems like a cheap way to get that Warboy white powdered look, engine grease for the head bit, and the cake spray seems cheap.

In other news my buddy is doing better, it seems. Based on some posts on Facebook he's walking around a bit with a cane now, so that's good.

T: fuck no. I'd be frankly irate if someone messed up my costume. That is if I am doing anything for Halloween. If not, may put it off till next year.

edited 13th Sep '15 7:06:55 PM by MarkVonLewis

Mark, flour would look terrible. Get the facepaint. Other than that you;ve got a good plan going.

I don't know about flour, but I experimented a bit with baby powder during a sorta wannabe Goth phase...

(I lived in a prep/cowboy town and didn't really know the look had a name. This was kinda before the Internet — and thank God. I hated my body enough as it was without knowing about Suicide Girls).

Hm, baby powder may work. I'm sure I'll conjure up something to work as the powdery-white coating the Warboys have. Hey, it is the post apocalypse in sun scorched outback Australia with cannibals, maybe it's breading?

In other news, man I'm having a craving for some Jameson. For the sweet taste.