Asexuals and Aromantics Unite!

Well, since my friends now I'm ace (and likely aro or demi-romantic) I've started jokingly setting prerequisites to date me. Some of them are impossible, or mutually exclusive. At least that guarantees that 'Nice Guys' who think aromantic/asexual means 'just hasn't found the right person' will go on a highly amusing wild goose chase if they want to date me.

Or ya know, they'll just keep stalking me.

edited 25th Jan '17 3:58:09 PM by BlizzardeyeWonder

So at this point I think I'm probably aromantic heterosexual. So I half belong on this thread.

Cool, that means you're like phantom! (IIRC, anyway.)

If you only half belong on this thread, I'd imagine a lot of people on this thread also only half belong here. I don't think there are that many aro aces here. The title of the thread seems to imply that it's for aros of all sexual orientations and aces of all romantic orientations, though.

I wonder how active a thread solely for aro aces would be. Probably not very active.

edited 26th Jan '17 3:30:43 PM by DeathsApprentice

Yeah it's for everybody with one or the other.

Sounds like it could go into the category that a lot of people dub "graysexual" - technically experiencing sexual desire, but having negligible actual sex drive. (Which is of course just one of the possible definitions - asexuality's a complicated thing.) I myself might belong in that category, depending on how you slice it.

I'm aro/ace! Not sure about aromatic, but ah well we can't win them all.

You just need to keep sachets of pot pourri in your clothing drawers. Or nice smelling soap. That's what I do.

I found a word a few weeks ago and had one of those "Oh! You mean other people do this??" moments. Autochorisexual - basically, it means you find sex and/or romance interesting in fiction/media, but can't associate it with yourself in any way.

It doesn't seem like an especially useful label to identify as. But interesting to know other people get that.

edited 27th Jan '17 1:13:12 AM by LoniJay

I don't really identify as aromantic. I just sort of... am. If that makes sense.

x3: That's awesome! I'm aro ace, too! (aro-ace high five)

I do highly doubt I'm aromatic, though. I don't smell that nice.

I'm not sure I'f I'm Aro-Ace or Demi-Ace. one of the two.

a girl in one of my classes recognized my Ace ring the other day from a GSA-type meeting she'd gone to the day previously and took me aside to make sure I had a support system, which was nice of her.

Awesome!

I complimented a girl at my school wearing an Ace flag beanie the other day. We didn't get to have a conversation because she was on the phone at the time (I felt kind of rude talking to her while she was on the phone, but I only had one chance before my next class) but she did give me a thumbs up

Or maybe I'm aromantic bisexual? I honestly don't know. The aro part is almost certainly there but I spent so long thinking that aro and ace had to be together that I sort of assumed that I couldn't have sexual attraction when I certainly do. Even the aro part is up for questioning. Maybe I'm just really, really demi.

edited 5th Feb '17 7:14:55 PM by Cailleach

Well I unfortunately don't know what type of asexuality I am .

How would you describe it?

Well I was once heterosexual then I started moving alot and I had seizures for a year, then I was rather isolationist and had fear against people. But now my fear is lessening because I'm finally hanging with the Lgbt community but I'm not really too attracted just want to be good friends and atleast hangout (which I did with a tomboyish pansexual I think), but it's rather hard to explain I guess.

edited 13th Feb '17 9:32:25 AM by BrainSewage

Been of this orientation since 2014. Considered kind of switching (to, idk, grey- or demi-) sometimes but I'm alright with it.

On a related note, demiromantic.

Wait, this exists? NICE.

Asexual quoiromantic (I could be demiromantic or something else, I have no fucking clue) because I don't know how my own goddamn feelings work. Girls are pretty, I tend to gravitate towards them more platonically and I probably would romantically as well.

Asexual heteroromantic here. Heteroromantic..ish. I eventually have romantic feelings towards girls, and dated one for a time, but I don't bother looking for dates, actually, I always hated flirting and arranging first dates, it was like a job to me, and a boring one. Now I've come to a point in my life where I feel comfortable assuming my (non) sexuality, even bought myself a black ring.

Has anyone ever had sex because you felt it's something that just has to be good? Like "It's not possible I don't like it, everybody loves it!". Most times I had sex (paid or not) it was because I felt I had to, and "this time it's gonna be good". And I hated most of the times I did it (and the other time it was just meh). Never figured out how my friends could even start banging in a horrible place like a brothel, run by criminals, with mostly ugly and unpolite girls. Or why most man are always wooing women for the sake of it, even if they are already in a relationship with a girl they like. Nothing of this ever made sense to me.

I try to see it from another angle: It's like if I didn't need to drink water or sleep. I have more time to dedicate to studying, hobbies and hang with my friends.

The only thing I have to criticize about the Ace community in general is that it's kinda prejudiced against people who are asexual because of low hormones or other biological cause, some ace think people with low Testosterone, for instance, are not "real" assexuals. Why not? I don't know if my problem with sex is just because of low T, there might be more to it, I believe. But anyways, it's below 300 (rare for 27 years old), my doctor suggested treating it, I said "no way! Why creating a necessity I don't have?". Seriously, I think being ace is awesome.

edited 21st Mar '17 7:22:43 AM by DarkLotus

I've noticed this too, and I hate it. The asexuality of people with low hormones isn't any less real than the asexuality of people that doesn't have any biological cause.

The circle I hang with (as much as you can "hang" with an Internet squad anyway) accepts all brands of asexuality, medical or otherwise.

Yeah, most places I have do, but I'm sorry to hear the ones you have don't. That stinks.

Hello

Hi, oh to the new person probably.

edited 22nd Mar '17 10:14:43 AM by phantom1

Yo