-Don't be the guy who posts smilies in every single post. Especially not every single sentence in your post. It just makes you look like you're still 4 years old. Sadly I've seen 80 year old guys that do this stupid crap on some forums.
-In a debate or technical discussion, use your own words. Don't just copy and paste a wiki article.
"If everybody is thinking alike, somebody isn't thinking"- George S. Patton:3
ᐅᖃᐅᓯᖅ ᐊᑕᐅᓯᖅ ᓈᒻᒪᔪᐃᑦᑐᖅAND THIS IS WHY I NEVER TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY, ZERSK.
also
ohai honey how are you
If someone wants to accuse us of eating coconut shells, then that's their business. We know what we're doing. - Achaan ChahWell that's okay. :3 I mean, I can't take myself seriously, I dunno why I should expect others to. :p
And hai Mepty! :D
edited 16th Jul '12 11:56:20 PM by Zersk
ᐅᖃᐅᓯᖅ ᐊᑕᐅᓯᖅ ᓈᒻᒪᔪᐃᑦᑐᖅI agree with all that. Good show. Three of my own:
- Discussion is not a competition. Debate isn't, either, despite the common assumption. Enter every thread under the assumption that your life does not depend on you "winning" what is ostensibly intellectual discourse.
- Similarly, it isn't actually all-important to sound smarter than everyone else. Speak like a person. If I want to read a textbook, I'll read a textbook.
- My grandfather once told me that everyone in the world knows something you don't. Be willing to learn.
- Don't make false or exaggerated claims. It won't help.
edited 17th Jul '12 12:02:27 AM by Bookyangel2438
Alt account of Angeldog 2437.Remember that tone does in fact carry in written word. It's just harder to use and properly gauge. This is why word choice and sentence structure are very important. If multiple people are considering you to be aggressive and angry look at your word choices and the way you make sentences.
Is the word "you" involved in the general sense? Are you swearing or using words like "enraged" or "irritated"? Do you ALL CAPS things for emphasis a lot?
Is it something else?
Look at how you write and how people react to it and edit yourself to adapt. The right words at the right time get through to people. The wrong words leave people wondering why you're a dick or a child molester (example: many an unfortunate okcupid profile).
edited 17th Jul '12 12:04:39 AM by Aondeug
If someone wants to accuse us of eating coconut shells, then that's their business. We know what we're doing. - Achaan ChahTo add to Exelixi's comments, be mindful when someone mentions their qualifications on a given subject. If someone has studied genetics in a formal academic environment, you should probably shut the hell up and at least listen to what they have to say about autism or other developmental disorders before you dismiss them entirely.
Also, this website doesn't seem to have this problem from what little I've seen, but on the flip side, don't start throwing titles at people to intimidate them. Expertise and credentials are not equal to perfection, and when having a discussion on a subject of which you are highly knowledgeable, the courteous action to take is to lead and guide the discussion and analysis of the subject, not to dominate the discussion.
Just a minor nitpick of mine: I have a hard - but not impossible - time taking someone seriously when their avatar is some sort of pony or an anime character being sexually assaulted. Then again, I can carry on a fascinating debate about global capitalism and the Arab Spring with a guy who calls himself breadloaf, so take that with a grain of salt.
edited 17th Jul '12 12:12:50 AM by Aprilla
So wait.
I shouldn't use all caps, ignore the other person's argument, post smilies after every sentence and just generally be an asshole?
I call bullshit on that.
"It's so hard to be humble, knowing how great I am."You may do this in OTC.
If someone wants to accuse us of eating coconut shells, then that's their business. We know what we're doing. - Achaan ChahI don't know what y'all are talking about. Similes are totally okay, dammit.
If I were to write some of the strange things that come under my eyes they would not be believed. ~Cora M. Strayer~Not metaphors, though. They are the albatrosses around the argumentative neck.
ᐅᖃᐅᓯᖅ ᐊᑕᐅᓯᖅ ᓈᒻᒪᔪᐃᑦᑐᖅThat's just like...your opinion, man.
If I were to write some of the strange things that come under my eyes they would not be believed. ~Cora M. Strayer~BE AS LIKE THE CUP OF TEA CLEANLY SIFTED ON A WARM SUMMER'S DAY IN THE MEADOW WHERE TURTLES AND COCONUTS ROAM.
If someone wants to accuse us of eating coconut shells, then that's their business. We know what we're doing. - Achaan ChahScribbly: No that would be a simile, those are okay. :3
ᐅᖃᐅᓯᖅ ᐊᑕᐅᓯᖅ ᓈᒻᒪᔪᐃᑦᑐᖅI'm of the opinion that if you're trying to persuade others and be taken seriously on a forum, you're doing it wrong.
Obviously, everyone can ignore what I just said.
It's fine to not want to be taken seriously, the only request is to keep it out of a serious conversation. This isn't one, but if people get into a discussion about the implications of failed Post Communist Transitions in Eastern and Central Eastern Europe, and you keep making like, I dunno, My Little Pony jokes and references.
Wrong time wrong place.
Internet or not you need to keep a few things in mind:
- You should be willing to lose/have your mind changed
- Your opponent might not
- Know who you're arguing with, if they're someone who's just going to hector, assault, and lie, then just ditch the conversation
- There's a difference between being mistaken and wrong, if someone disagrees with you about something, don't assume the worse to start
- Controversial example: people can disagree with Gay Marriage out of their beliefs but actually have nothing against gay people just don't want the term marriage applied that way. If you believe in equal marriage rights for all, don't assume the person is a hateful homophobe, but instead give the person a chance to prove they're only mistaken (not bad, not evil, just disagree with you
Also, hey yeah I'm back for the time being, till I get distracted and forget to sign on here again for 3-4 months then come back with some other excuse to exert my "wisdom" upon you.
Obligatory self promotion: http://unemployedacademic.tumblr.com/To exert my "wisdom" on you.
Bow chika wow wow?
Mura: -flips the bird to veterinary science with one hand and Euclidean geometry with the other-I promise not to get any in your hair.
Obligatory self promotion: http://unemployedacademic.tumblr.com/Oh, another and I apologize for the double post, but regardless of the format NEVER say:
- I don't care what anyone says but __________
If you don't care what people have to say, then why are you in a discussion.
Besides being bad for you, it tells others that you're not open to actual communication. It does increase the probability of things devolving into a shouting match.
We don't want those.
Obligatory self promotion: http://unemployedacademic.tumblr.com/Make sure your word your points as clear as possible and with class.
I know sometimes in forums you have mixed groups of all sorts of backgrounds and it's sometimes possible to offend someone without trying. But try and use good judgement in saying your point.
Example: I don't understand why African American Urban culture encourages the use of the "n" word, but other groups can't regardless of their intent.
VS.
Well if Jay Z and Snoop Dogg call each other N####R why can't I use it?! I ain't being hateful!
"Psssh. Even if you could catch a miracle on a picture any person would probably delete it to make space for more porn." - AszurI AM THE GREAT NECROMANCER! ARISE THREAD ARISE!
Anyway, one quick tip for not so much being taken seriously, but having better discussions on the subject of religion:
- Just accept the fact that the myths of any religion sound ridiculous to people not raised in them
- Accept that all religions have a set of ethics that is generally good
- Make it clear when you're arguing against the institution or the beliefs
- Also try to avoid painting the daily normal believers with too broad a brush
- Do not insult the intelligence or moral worth of your opponents. If you believe in god I don't think you're dumb for doing so, don't think I'm amoral because I don't follow your creed or any supernatural creed
Some of this applies to political beliefs too, you don't have to worry about the religious mythos (in most cases) but you do have to worry about reducto ad absurdium.
Obligatory self promotion: http://unemployedacademic.tumblr.com/Also, don't try to sound intimidating over the freakin' internet. It doesn't work and makes you sound like an idiot.
If you have an issue with what another member of the discussion is saying, address your comments to them, don't speak about them. Don't say things like, "Clearly resetlocksley doesn't understand why..."
Don't misquote someone or trim quotes to make it sound like they're saying something that they aren't.
Fear is a superpower.Proper grammar, punctuation and capitalization adds to the illusion that you know what you are talking about.
Use that to your advantage, young padawan.
Been a while since I've posted much so I figured it was a prime opportunity to make myself seem conceited and pompous by telling you all how to do things.
The internet is not known for hosting logical and thoughtful debates of subjects. This is a partially deserved reputation, but there are things we can do to improve the environment. Discussion and conversation should be about sharing ideas and change minds (even your own) not scoring points and acting like a troll.
So yeah. Add your own, or feel free to call me out if you think I'm being overly nitpicky or what ever. This is just what I've observed and my personal feelings, largely informed by how I react to things myself.
edited 16th Jul '12 1:56:20 PM by MEPT72
Obligatory self promotion: http://unemployedacademic.tumblr.com/