I think you guys need to write your own matriarchal societies. This is clearly something you would enjoy writing.
I don't think there would be a social stigma for men in the army. It's well within their established gender roles. Of course, there would be a bit of an issue if they're unable to stay home with you, so maybe because of that they're not considered terribly good 'husband' material. But it would still be a fine, honourable calling for a son or brother to go and risk his life for the country.
I don't know a lot about how historical dowries actually worked; guess I'll research that. If anything, though, I think it would go with the husband to his new family, so that he isn't joining it empty-handed.
How money is handled after a divorce would depend a lot on the circumstances. If the wife finds out that the husband is cheating, she's within her rights to keep all of the money that belonged to them as a couple and send the husband back to his mother in disgrace with nothing. If it was her fault, or if it was nobody's fault, he's much more likely to get an equal share of things.
Male prostitution is... difficult, because of course women don't want to get pregnant by some strange sex worker. It would exist anyway, but I don't think it would be all that socially acceptable. Indulging your lust in a risky way probably is seen as a bad thing, because women are supposedly the ones with more control over their desires.
For female prostitution... well, I can't see it being socially well-regarded for a woman to serve a man's needs in a subservient way, so for those, much of the power would rest in the prostitute's hands. I expect most of them would be mature women, probably lower class, in it for the money and maybe because they just like lots of men, who exercise a lot of control over what is acceptable behaviour and who they will or won't accept. If people look down on them, I doubt they care. I expect there aren't a lot of pimps, but if there are they're women.
I had not thought about flower and animal symbolism yet, but I shall
Hmm, infertility. I guess one option would be for them to divorce their husband and try with another one. I don't think there would be as much stigma against infertility as there was in our society, though.
Feminine men... hmmm. It's definitely seem as odd and out of place. Men are probably the source of most of the hostility, because most have no real problem with the way things are. They're not interested in such things; why should other men be? Female attitudes are probably not as hostile, but there is definitely an idea that said men are trying to be something that they're not and will undoubtedly do a horrible job at it anyway.
edited 28th May '12 3:59:41 AM by LoniJay
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