Adultery

Not the polyamoury kind. The not-agreed-on kind. It pisses me off. Immensely. I Have This Friend, here's his story about it.

So, what do you guys think? What should this guy do/have done?

EDIT: THREADHOPPERS: THAT TOPIC IS SOLVED. WE ARE NOW DISCUSSING THE RIGHTEOUSNESS OF ADULTERY IN GENERAL. Apparently some tropers fid it morally outrageous that some would leave people they say they care for just because they went and had sex with other people. Others are amazed people can be horny enough that they'd compromise a romantic relationship for one-off sex.

edited 29th Oct '11 1:18:43 AM by PacificState

Great quotable phrase, I saved it.

Far too many people beleve that any belief in the value of being good is primitive "idealism" or even "naivity", but immorality in general is realistic and mature.

Guess what! We have a word for the opposite of good, and it is "evil". People like this are, in effect, openly supporting evil as better than good.

Of course, that assertion only applies for moral realists/moral objectivists.

All the same, that's one shitty girlfriend. Future Dancing Bear material.

edited 26th Oct '11 2:56:33 PM by MRDA1981

There is a word for this girl, and isn't a nice one.

edited 26th Oct '11 3:01:52 PM by joeyjojo

No, it doesn't. If you support something evil, and you don't believe that evil exist, you are still evil. Refusing to believe in it won't get you a free pass.

Edit: By the way, I'm wondering, would you still have brought that up if instead of evil, I would have said "bad" or "mean" or "shitty", etc?

edited 26th Oct '11 3:08:31 PM by Ever9

Cheating is bad, mkay?

So, OP has a sister who's in college. She has friends OP doesn't like. She goes to parties, comes home late and has sex, because she's in college. And OP does not like.

Yeah, I'm not really seeing the Philosophical Debate on Morality here.

Frankly, what friends of OP's sister are up to in their personal lives is none of OP's business. OP needs to have a chat with his/her sister on being good room-mates, because getting woken up and/with phone calls at all hours should not become a regular occurrence.

OP Just sent her a informational pamphlet on cervical cancer and be done with it.

edited 26th Oct '11 3:31:16 PM by joeyjojo

I think your friend was a prude: So that girl was screwing a dude different from her boyfriend. What's the big deal?

Aside from the calling over and over again thing, that was rude. That's why houses with roommates shouldn't have a phone line . Have your promiscuous roommate either shut down the phone or take it with her when she's going to be away, and y'all won't be bothered again.

edited 26th Oct '11 3:38:23 PM by SavageHeathen

If we have to explain what the big deal is, Savage, you probably have no respect for the people you date and won't comprehend or won't care why it's a gigantic dick move.

Does your friend have the phone number of the boyfriend? He deserves to know what's going on, but anything else should be decided by him.

edited 26th Oct '11 3:42:43 PM by feotakahari

@Savage: ah man you crack me up some time

"If you support something evil, and you don't believe that evil exist, you are still evil."

In your mind, maybe...

^^^ NO!. It is not this guy's place to tell the boyfriend.

Frankly, It sounds to me like it's something that he really needs to butt out of, aside from asking his sister to be more considerate about the phone calls.

edited 26th Oct '11 3:48:41 PM by Madrugada

Moral relativism isn't relevant here.

Basically, in some, the sister is vaguely a bitch, and the woman who is cheating is a ridiculous jackass, and you should advice this person to tell the boyfriend so he doesn't have to deal with their bullshit.

Why the hell not? Oh, yes, letting him find out that he's never even been relevant to her is so much better than at least giving him the chance to stick it to her and end it on his own terms. Nonsense, I say.

edited 26th Oct '11 3:48:56 PM by USAF713

@Maddie: If I were the boyfriend, I would want to know, even if I had to learn it in the most painful way possible.

Decent folks don't meddle in other people's business.

edited 26th Oct '11 3:54:20 PM by SavageHeathen

{Don't make it personal —Madrugada}

Decent folks don't cheat on their partners, either, for that matter. A decent person would have the heart to tell this dude that his girlfriend is horrible and not worth his time.

edited 27th Oct '11 9:26:29 AM by Madrugada

LOL! Clearly moral relativism does have a place here!

@Savage: The Golden Rule is as much "for" as "to." Like I said, if I were being cheated on, I'd be grateful to anyone who told me. (And if I were cheating, and I was told upon, I'd accept it as the cost of my actions.)

edited 26th Oct '11 3:58:17 PM by feotakahari

'Principles are for people who don't have orgasms.'

At any rate, you (or anyone else, for that matter) don't want people exposing your dirty little secrets to people. It's only fair that you see no evil, hear no evil and speak no evil when it comes to other people's vices and indiscretions.

edited 26th Oct '11 3:59:33 PM by SavageHeathen

The topic is adultery. If you don't think adultery is bad, then explain why. The meta-argument isn't relevant.

Good for you. That just makes you an ass. Now go enjoy not having any respect for significant others.

edited 26th Oct '11 3:59:25 PM by USAF713

I don't like adultery and I don't like busybodies.

As mitigation, though, I hope these birds' boyfriends are out getting their cocks sucked, instead of pining for those flakes.

edited 26th Oct '11 4:02:08 PM by MRDA1981

I think whether adultery is good or bad matters less than whether the boyfriend thinks adultery is good or bad. I'm generally against concealing information from people. (Granted, there are circumstances where I'm against telling someone that they're being lied to, but I don't think any of them apply here—the boyfriend has no power over the girlfriend, and he's unlikely to do anything to hurt her.)

{Don't make it personal —Madrugada}

edited 27th Oct '11 9:27:36 AM by Madrugada

I have no problem with casual sex outside of the relationship, whether the partner is aware and acquiescent or not. Commitment shouldn't be threatened by sexual attraction.