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So I finally worked why a certain very popular Beatles song makes uncomfortable.

It's that snivelling bastard, dysphoria.

Screw that guy. Wouldn't stop making fun of me in school.

*hug*

Also I guess I have some sort-of realistic goals. Only not really.

edited 7th Sep '17 2:12:17 AM by Deadbeatloser22

Still hate how quickly I end up visibly shadowing after I've shaved.

That does suck. I hope you can find a way of getting rid of the shadowing. I'd try to give you some advice, but for some reason the whole five o'clock shadow thing has never been a problem for me. Instead, my facial hair just grows back annoyingly fast, and I have to shave it all away 6-7 times a day just to keep it from bothering me.

Electrolysis has helped a lot, but I just wear makeup over it (it even helps when I've been growing it out for a session).

It mostly seems to depend on lighting and stuff. The fact there's always bits along the edge of my jaw and down onto my neck that never seem to shave no matter what I do with the razor hurts more.

But yeah, that's about six or seven hours after and it's kind of obvious.

I'd offer a trade but I dunno how that'd work. I'm only needing to shave like once a week right now and its only on my neck and it's annoying the shit outta me.

We need to develop the technology to put follicles in stasis at exactly the length we want them already.

Ever tried a depilatory cream? I experimented with using a body hair cream on my face as a substitute or supplement to shaving (it seemed to help my shaver get a cleaner shave). I didn't think the results with it were worth the trouble and also the stink of cucumber that it had, but if I were to try again, I'd use the stuff that's specifically made for black men who get shaving bumps rather than the stuff that's for making sparse body hair go away.

Didn't you have an epic beard for a bit, T? Just asking for beard envy reasons.

I'd consider an epic beard to be a thick, full lumberjack type, but it goes from ear to ear via my chin and there's an impression of intent around my mouth.

For comfort I keep it long enough it's definitely not scruff, but also much shorter than any proper beard I've seen. Every ten to fourteen days it gets scratchy and a lot of stubborn hairs stick out at odd angles and the translucent and possibly gray hairs seem really noticeable and I feel like getting rid of it all but then I trim and I'm at peace with it again.

Half the time I edge around my jaw I hear the ghost of Henchman 24 saying "a beard is not a substitute for a jawline!"

Yeah I have smattering of hairs that look like pubes on my neck but that's it. Granted, it's more than I had, but still.

So, I finally got my own place. A homely enough apartment, if you don't count the scratches on the wall made by the previous owner, having to get used to new appliances, and a certain annoying catch about the rent contract. But still. It's good.

So this is a good reference photo for transition progress, right?

When I can stop cringing at myself. ><

Self defamation will only get you so far, babs. I spent a lot of time moaning about my shoulders, height, etc. In the end, I always had a cisgender girl friend with the same "problem". Heck, cisgirls will have been called boys multiple times growing up. Human dimorphism is much less absolute than people realise. There's probably a cis girl out there who has all the same "tells" you're worried about. All you need is that same confidence in your gender.

I know it's frustrating, but don't worry about passing or becoming "more able" to pass (you can worry about looking like a supermodel if you want; most girls do), just worry about looking the way you want to look. The rest comes naturally.

And yet it's the mind I've been left with. I throw myself down like that because I just expect everyone else is going to do it anyway so might as well get the ball rolling. I don't see the positives because there's never been any point in looking for them.

Really shouldn't have gone off on one again like that.

Sorry for bitching the thread to death.

I'm sorry

And what exactly are you apologising for, again? You haven't done anything wrong. Well, you might have, but not here, obviously.

..And if this is because you're feeling miserable again, well, we are here for you no matter what, but.....well, you need to SAY what exactly worries you. And also keep in mind that we can offer emotional support at most, and can't really substitute for professional aid.

So now I'm laying here wondering why the hell more people don't hate me given the spiteful and hateful crap I keep pulling.

Because we understand where you're coming from.

@Deebs: I'll admit it can feel a bit tiresome seeing you drag yourself down so often - but from where I'm standing, having gone though the Tough Bullshit™ that is coming out, starting T, etc, and having seen many people, including some on these very threads, come out the other side as well, I believe you can get where you wanna go with transition as well. I'm not gonna talk down to you or gloss over shit because that's how I do, but I think things will really start looking up for you once you stop tryna take yourself down. Be kind to yourself, it'll take ya places.

Also, I got my postal survey for the fucken postal survey on same sex marriage today, and as much as I don't want to have the whole country vote on this bullshit, I mighta nutted a little while ticking the yes box. Cause nothing gets me off quick like the thought of having basic human rights.

The best revenge is to live well.

So, today I learned that Heracles was a very romantic bisexual >///>