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Nice! Hope things go well.

Saw a Facebook post from a friend in Oregon that not only are he and his husband going to pride they'll be in the parade. They're going to have their car 'wrapped' by Lyft.

Nice!

What does that mean, having a car 'wrapped' by Lyft? I know what Lyft is but...

The car is wrapped in advertising for Lyft turning their car into a motorized billboard.

Not sure why he quotation marked it, by there you go. He said "They said it will be rainbowie with LYFT on it for the parade. And they would be proud and happy if my husband and I BOTH wanted to join them in the parade."

Well, took a gamble with not at least cutting down the fringe on the wig I was going to wear today... And lost.

Looks like I'm going in street clothes.

Still pretty gutted about it but at least this time it wasn't anxiety flare. Course what I should've done was bring my regular skirt and stuff so I could keep the toe in the water. Count two for me being a moron there. ^.^;

Can I ask an question or two about sexual harassment?

Uh...sure, I guess?

Um sure?

For what purpose? And why on this thread, out of all places?

So there we are, that's the con over with. Now I can go back to my room and cry about how I'll never look as good in costume as the other girls.

Hey... Can I get some advice from y'all? I really need some.

Sure go ahead

My new BF is really amazing, but he has a short, furious temper. I want to help him work through it, but I'm not sure how to approach the topic without insulting him by accident. Any thoughts?

So my mon caught an guy staring at me. So I was standing in front of an water vending machine, minding my own business. All of an sudden, she starts yelling, I brushed it off as her yelling at my stepbrother since my hearing is bad and he's been acting weird lately. I bent over, and according to her, he was still staring at me like he's checking me out. She continues screaming and calling him an faggot and an pervert for staring at me. As I turn around, I see him staring at me like there's something wrong with me.

I walk over to mom's van because I was almost done and tells me what went on in the above paragraph. I, feeling weirded out by this guy, waited behind an pillar that was in between us instead of standing right in his view again like an idiot as the machine filled up the last water jug. I get done and listen to her ranting about what's going on with society until she gets an second opinion from my stepfather, who merely said that what that guy did to me wasn't right. And I agreed with the both of them and developed an sense of paranoia over this.

I'm an straight guy who's almost 22 years old and I really don't care much for the LGBT community. I know it's one thing to (covertly) stare at people, but I'm pretty sure that an few lines have been crossed when you're staring at someone, you've been caught, and that person turns out to be the "victim's" strong-willed mother. Fortunately, nobody called the cops and I learned an few lessons that public education doesn't provides; but I'm wondering how often does stuff like this happen and how to deal with it without escalating the situation.

As for why I chose this thread, I'm lazy, the 2-4 LGBT threads in OTC are focused on religion or politics, and this felt like an good place to ask, so...

You just ignore it. Gay dudes can stare at people they think are hot, and so can lesbians, and straight women and straight men.

To be honest I don't see where there's any "assault" here.

Also, nitpick, but could you not use the word "an" in front of words that start with consonants? It's grammatically incorrect.

Yeah, all of that really doesn't qualify as harassment. Especially if you're not even certain if it was in any way because of sexual attraction. After all, it was your homophobic mom who thought the guy was gay anyway, and people like that can't be trusted to recognise sexual orientations at all because of their seriously unrealistic misconceptions of what LGBT people are like.

The guy might have been acting like a creep, but it might have also been that he was looking at you in a more hostile way (if you looked or were wearing something that he didn't like the look of). Or he was very unsubtly planning to mug you or something. Or it might have been as a some kind of weird prank. These are just a few examples of what it might have been. I've only a vague idea what goes on in the minds of other people, and the reasoning of those minds is often weird, twisted, or nonexistent.

edited 28th May '17 1:26:10 AM by ArilouLaLeeLay

So sleep hasn't helped me feel better after yesterday.

x5: If being stared at by gay and bi men concerns you, you could take the approach that women who don't want to be stared at by straight men do and...stay quiet, lest we be accused of being hysterical.

edited 28th May '17 5:20:56 AM by Bisected8

Sorry, should've stayed quiet.

No No DBL it's okay to let it out.

I mean it does still feel like everything that happened yesterday was me being childish.

I mean I will find another way and chance to do it all but it still hurts.

Well I'm not exactly a fashion expert but a needle and couple of string to sew it together would make it easier so it won't ruin the costume. As for the forgetting to pack normal female clothes I'd like to write it down on a script of paper or make a notice on your phone to remind you every 4 hours or so.

edited 28th May '17 10:48:55 AM by Coleman

The thing with the skirt wasn't the deal breaker on its own. It just made me stressed out to the point where the wig thing was what made me ragequit the idea. And I already know how to fix both issues.