Having someone come on to you (esp. someone of the same sex)

I think he thinks it comes accross as lame, desperate and "Nice Guy" -ish in a bad way, as if yu were tryintg to buy them, with a drink.

Honesly, I used to think so too, but given the personality you project you might just pull it off.

That and the fact that she's using you for a drink.

Pretty gals probably get bought enough drinks as is, and is only really worth it in the scenario of buying in turns. Otherwise it comes across as sleazy.

Oh, never realised, I just thought that someone might want a drink if there's is empty. I know I would.

If you yourself are buying too, by all means. But the "can I buy you a drink" scenario comes across as trying to get someone drunk in the worst case and hopelessly patronizing(as in, relying on dudes to get her drinks) in the best case.

Ahhhh, got it, will bear that in mind.

I don't buy chicks drinks because let's face it my budget is rapidly shrinking. I ain't got the cash for it. Just enough to get me drunk.

Buy liquor and get drunk beforehand.

Ej, at my 100Kg, I have to drink a lot to get anywhere near drunk, and then it fades away like in an hour or so. Luckily I'm so Hot-Blooded I don't need alcohol to get me going crazy. It's just a convenient excuse.

Organizing a pre-pubcrawl movie is a neat way to kick off the night, but it's too often used as an excuse to get sloshed before you even reach the bars in question. Spreading it out over the evening works better in my opinion, making you actually step up to someone in a non-offputting manner.

My girl friends pee in the street. When drunk. At night. It is not hot. And I am a pee fetishist.

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"So what part of the city are you from" or "Are you from the city or burbs" xD

edited 24th Mar '11 6:51:17 PM by BalloonFleet

The first yes, the latter, no. "Burbs" is not an answr conductive to conversation.

in the USA, the sprawl is so bad you can get into discussions on if you're from a suburb close to the city proper, a mid-range suburb, or a full on exurb by the rural areas. Then there's the whole 'how's your scene' and 'who do you know' thing and 'how far do yo drive/walk from where you live' thing (people have set territories in cities and suburbs, they dont hang out around the entire metro area in 'large' metro areas, just a small radius. E.g. people in the south suburbs of chicago don't go more than a few miles from their central point, to a rich mall, to a local college, to the border of the city, etc. They rarely go into the city. IF you live close to the northwest side of Chicago, you might go to the stuff around the airport, or to the nearby suburbs there, or to the hipster or gay neighborhoods further south, or the city core, or some suburban malls.)

From my knowledge, you can get suburban people to get into nice discussions on how rich/poor/etc their hood is - just as you see that when people argue about which side of the city or neighborhood they are from. Err not argue but discuss.

edited 24th Mar '11 8:13:46 PM by BalloonFleet

Ard: I'd have to disagree with chicks peeing in the street being not hot, sir. In my mind it is very hot. Then again I too am a pee fetishist, but this is TMI.

edited 24th Mar '11 8:31:28 PM by MarkVonLewis

I've had men offer to buy me drinks and yes it's a little forward, but it's still kind to offer in the first place. The best way to go about it without seeming "sleazy" as someone put it, is to offer a drink whilst you're buying a round for friends.

Honestly though with the amount of date rape stories women hear about and drugs being slipped in drinks, women are far more suspicious of the offer than ever before. But bars are the worst place to pick up women in my opinion, and will do little for your self-esteem.

I've never had a good relationship stem from meeting someone in a bar. NEVER!

There are no "burbs" in English cities, just the sprawl of the city and the villages swallowed by it.

Its kind of hard to meet people anywhere else, I don't go to uni anymore.

edited 25th Mar '11 1:16:41 AM by JosefBugman

Don't stop. Believing. Hold on to that feeling. Streetligh. People.

Ard, man, you just won some respect from me.

First time I heard that song was on Glee. (Cue Face Fault)

All I know is that song is fuckin' AWESOME when you're smashed.

Its one of my friends "previous boyfriend" songs, so it becomes a bit worrying whenever its on in case she breaks down crying.

It's an entire song about You Suck, right? I found the lyrics were pretty dark...

edited 25th Mar '11 5:55:18 AM by Ardiente

I would personally freeze and be left flabbergastered regardless of gender. If it was by the same gender though, there would be a healthy dose of squick added with it. Thankfully it hasn't happened yet and I highly doubt it ever will.

Well, I'm late to the party here, but I've read the whole thread. I've had this happen to me once. It was the last day of school freshman year, and I noticed there was this guy in school that everyone seemed to avoid like the plague. He would walk around saying hi to people and they would just speed by him like he was after their money or something. So I felt bad and I decided to say hi back when he tried it on me.

He followed me everywhere. He asked for my name. My grade. My phone number. My address. I answered the first two, made my excuses for the second two, and started speeding up. But he was almost foot taller than me and could easily catch up. I tried to run into the girl's bathroom, and he just stood there in front of the door, looming over me. He asked if we could meet up sometime over the summer. At this point, I decided it would be a bad idea to go in the bathroom and trap myself, so I just shoved him out of the way and sprinted off campus.

You can't be the only person to answer him, of course he'll latch on to you. And if he's lonely, of course he'll be needy. Don't attempt to give that sort of person what they want unless you are powerful and confident enough that you can stop them wherever you want. That is, only contact them if you actually want to undertake the project of redeeming them before society. That will include introducing them to your group of friends, teaching them how to socialize and get along with people... it can take moths if not years before that person becomes able to have that casual contact you tried to get.

I know this because I was that sort of person. I got lucky, that's all. But I could have ended up like the protagonist of Chaos Head.