"IIRC she didn't choose that title for the first WSJ article, and it implies something she didn't. In fact, her book's freakin' front cover implies differently"
Mmmmm, not quite. The "Humbled by a Thirteen-Year Old" bit of the subtitle actually refers to the fact that her daughter 'rebelled' by getting Chua to switch her focus from forcing her daughter to 'excel' at playing the violin to forcing her daughter to 'excel' at playing tennis, a sport which her 13-year old daughter valued for its own sake. Note
that Chua changed absolutely
nothing about her parenting, merely shifted her attention to a different lofty, unreasonable goal for her children. I'm more than willing to bet that her mother's constant criticism and shaming will rip the poor girl's love of tennis to shreds, given time.
That is the 'independence' Chua refers to in her little Q&A session. 'Independence', because standing up to one's parent just once in an effort to claim some small amount of control over one's life qualifies as independence. 'Independence', because managing to grow up at least semi-happy and successful in spite of her mother's screeching having destroyed her self-worth will be a miracle
Re: Child Abuse: People who grow up in households in which they are constantly denied parental approval have an obvious tendency to bear the psychological scars of such treatment later in life, always believing that their parents disapprove of the job they're doing, no matter how phenomenally well they're actually doing, and even if the parents have mellowed out over time and actually do
approve of their children. Recipe for success? Maybe, by a certain standard. Recipe for happiness? Absolutely not.
By the way, the fact she says that she didn't choose the title of the article means next to nothing. As a statement, that could still be true even if she merely gave input, just as long as she, herself did not choose the exact wording. That entire Q&A reads like very clear and very fast
edited 19th Jan '11 10:16:18 PM by darksidevoid