These are what we call the 'YMMV items.' Things that some people find in this work. We call them 'your mileage might vary' because not everyone sees these things in the same way. This starts discussions in the trope lists, a thing we don't want. Please use the discussion page if you'd like to discuss any of these items.
Reality Subtext: Some shade of it. According to the commentary, Adrienne Shelley, did have 5-minutes dates.
Tear Jerker: Damn near every scene involving Jenna having to take crap from her low life husband.
From the Real Life background: The director, Adrienne Shelley, who also plays fellow waitress Dawn, was murdered by a teenaged construction worker in her house, shortly after the post-production was completed. Such a brilliant film from such a brilliant woman is dampened when one remembers what happened to her.