History Main / TheyreCalledPersonalIssuesForAReason

* ''Manga/OnePiece'': Luffy makes it clear that he doesn't care about the past when it comes to his TrueCompanions.
** This tendency is so strong that on the couple of occasions when a character's backstory has to be related in order to explain the current situation, Luffy simply ''falls asleep'', not to bother waking back up until the talking's over.
** This was first seen in the Arlong Park arc, when Nami's sister, Nojiko, prepares to explain Nami's past to the Straw Hats, only for Luffy to say that he doesn't care before immediately leaving on a walk.

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** ''Film/XMenFirstClass'': There's a hint that [[Characters/XMenFilmSeriesProfessorCharlesXavier Charles]] had an unhappy childhood, but he simply chooses not to speak of it. After Erik makes a snide remark about his friend's wealth, Xavier's expression is a mixture of annoyance with a little bit of hurt, and Raven steps in between two men as if to "shield" her brother from Erik's not-so-nice comment. Although she says, "It was a hardship softened by me" in a light tone, there is no sarcasm in her voice, and Charles kisses her on the cheek as a quiet "thank you" for her support and understanding in what is a very sensitive matter to him.

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** ''Film/XMenFirstClass'': There's a hint that Charles had an unhappy childhood, but he simply chooses not to speak of it. After Erik makes a snide remark about his friend's wealth, Xavier's expression is a mixture of annoyance with a little bit of hurt, and Raven steps in between two men as if to "shield" her brother from Erik's not-so-nice comment. Although she says, "It was a hardship softened by me" in a light tone, there is no sarcasm in her voice, and Charles kisses her on the cheek as a quiet "thank you" for her support and understanding in what is a very sensitive matter to him.

* ''Webcomic/StandStillStaySilent'': Emil and Lalli, after spending most of the comic in an OddFriendship relying on a platonic version of LanguageOfLove, get to talk with the benefit of the dreamscape TranslatorMicrobes. Emil tries taking advantage of this to actually find out a little about Lalli's childhood. Lalli, between his implied DarkAndTroubled past, [[spoiler:the more recent death of a family member,]] and being new to the whole "having a friend" thing, responds by telling him it's none of his business.

* ''Webcomic/StandStillStaySilent'': Emil and Lalli, after spending most of the comic in an OddFriendship relying on a platonic version of LanguageOfLove, get to talk with the benefit of the dreamscape TranslatorMicrobes. Emil tries taking advantage of this to actually find out a little about Lalli's childhood. Lalli, between his implied DarkAndTroubled past, [[spoiler:the more recent death of a family member,]] and being new to the whole "having a friend" thing, responds by telling him it's none of his business.

* By all accounts, even close friends, Richard Nixon was this. He never shared his personal issues with anybody.

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* By all account, even close friends, Richard Nixon was this. He never shared his personal issues with anybody.

* In ''Literature/RedeemingLove''--set in the Old West during the Gold Rush--once she's reformed and in love with Michael, Angel refuses to tell anyone about her past career as a prostitute. She deliberately dances around the subject when they meet their new neighbors, or when she acquires a job as a cook. They know she's hiding something, but are mostly kind enough not to press her too hard. [[spoiler: it eventually turns out that almost all of the people she deliberately hid it from found out at some point along the way and [[CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming never held it against her]].]]

* In ''Literature/RedeemingLove''�set in the Old West during the Gold Rush�once she�s reformed and in love with Michael, Angel refuses to tell anyone about her past career as a prostitute. She deliberately dances around the subject when they meet their new neighbors, or when she acquires a job as a cook. They know she�s hiding something, but are mostly kind enough not to press her too hard. [[spoiler: it eventually turns out that almost all of the people she deliberately hid it from found out at some point along the way and [[CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming never held it against her]].]]

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* In ''Literature/RedeemingLove''—set in the Old West during the Gold Rush—once she’s reformed and in love with Michael, Angel refuses to tell anyone about her past career as a prostitute. She deliberately dances around the subject when they meet their new neighbors, or when she acquires a job as a cook. They know she’s hiding something, but are mostly kind enough not to press her too hard. [[spoiler: it eventually turns out that almost all of the people she deliberately hid it from found out at some point along the way and [[CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming never held it against her]].]]

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** {{Lampshaded}} by Gideon:

* ''VisualNovel/UminekoNoNakuKoroNi'' uses this as one of its main morals, especially late in, with the usual metaphor of reading someone's diary. In Episode 5, Erika read Natsuhi's diary in order to find [[spoiler:a motive for her being the culprit]]. In Episode 8, [[spoiler:Hachijo sets the entire audience into a frenzy by saying that she will not present to them Eva's diary, as she had announced, in order to keep Beatrice's catbox closed]].

** In ''Film/XMenFirstClass'', there's a hint that Charles had an unhappy childhood, but he simply chooses not to speak of it. After Erik makes a snide remark about his friend's wealth, Charles' expression is mixture of annoyance with a little bit of hurt, and Raven steps in between two men as if to "shield" her brother from Erik's not-so-nice comment. Although she says, "It was a hardship softened by me" in a light tone, there is no sarcasm in her voice, and Charles kisses her on the cheek as a quiet "thank you" for her support and understanding in what is a very sensitive matter to him.
** In ''Film/XMenDaysOfFuturePast'', by 1973, Charles had never revealed to anyone--not even Raven, Erik or Hank--that as a nine-year-old kid, he thought he was going insane after his telepathy became active, and he didn't learn until he was twelve that he could in fact read other people's minds.

* In ''[[TheItalianJob2003 The Italian Job]]'', Left Ear refuses to deal with the [[AngryGuardDog guard dogs]] because of an unspecified bad experience.

See also ThereAreNoTherapists. Note in RealLife, an experiment where people who didn't want to talk about their problems were randomly assigned to do so or not, the group that talked about them felt more miserable than the control, so this can certainly be TruthInTelevision.

* This trope comes into play in WebVideo/WhereTheBearsAre, namely Todd's reasons for [[spoiler: not wanting to talk to the police in Season One.]] In Season Two, we find out that [[spoiler: his uncles were in the Mafia back in Philadelphia, he was in a gang, he has a record, and he came to Los Angeles to get away from all that.]]

* In Literature/TheNameOfTheWind, a great deal of the problems that the hero, Kvothe, has with his close friends and LoveInterest Denna stem from the fact that the evil group he's chasing isn't just terrifyingly powerful and to all appearances immortal, but so determined to staying secret that most people only know them from a few nursery rhymes they show up in. As such, none of his friends know the secret that is driving him.

* In the ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'' episode "Zuko Alone", the farmer who takes in Zuko says that his past is his own business. True enough, the revelation to the whole village that Zuko is the Fire Nation prince makes them all turn against him.

->''Everyone has something at home they don't want anyone to see; that is one of the functions of a home, to provide a spot to keep such things.''

* In the sequel of ''VideoGame/KnightsOfTheOldRepublic'' Atton Rand really doesn't want the PC to find out about his DarkAndTroubledPast. If you ask him to tell you about his past, he will say that he does not ask questions about the PC's past, so he should be left alone too. He is so unwilling to share that when [[MagnificentBastard Kreia]] digs up the truth via MindRape, he agrees to be her pawn so that she doesn't tell the Exile. He will get over it if your influence is high enough, though.
** His counterpart from the first game, Carth Onasi, is another example. In Carth's case, he doesn't like to talk about his past precisely ''because'' of trust issues stemming from the betrayal of his mentor. It's not that he doesn't want someone to talk to, but that he's afraid of getting hurt again. Eventually he will come clean when he gets to trust you enough, but it will have to happen bit by bit as he'll always get defensive after a bit of talking.

* In ''Fanfic/TheTeacherOfAllThings'' the events of V-Tamers have left their mark on all the previous chosen. This is most visable in Tai who is unable to trust the rest of the Digidestined at least in part because he always had to save the day on his own before.