History Main / RealMenHateAffection

* In {{Pippin}} when the title charecter returns home from the university of Padua, he and his fahter almost hug, but wind up shaking hands. Pippin then attempts to talk to him about his feelings of emptiness and quest to find something meaningful, but his father fobs him off with cliches and 'well i've got to go.' By the way, his father is Charlemagne. Yes, ''that'' one.

* Ray in ''EverybodyLovesRaymond.'' In one episode he seems ''incapable'' of understanding his wife's need for affection, even stating that [[NoTrueScotmans no man]] enjoys cuddling, they only put up with it to [[AllMenArePerverts get sex.]]

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* In {{Pippin}} when the title charecter returns home from the university of Padua, he and his fahter almost hug, but wind up shaking hands. Pippin then attempts to talk to him about his feelings of emptiness and quest to find something meaningful, but his father fobs him off with cliches and 'well i've got to go.' By the way, his father is Charlemagne. Yes, ''that'' one.

* ''[[RanmaOneHalf Ranma 1/2]]'': Played straight with Ranma and his father, Genma. They never hug or tell each other that they care; they very rarely have personal talks. The thought of getting parental affection from his dad is so weird to Ranma that Genma once used an attack against him that consisted only of an overly affectionate hug, which totally freaked him out. Growing up with the Real Men Hate Affection mindset could explain why he [[HatesBeingTouched doesn't really like being touched]] and seems to only have love/hate relationships with the people he's closest to. (i.e. [[ThreeAmigos Ryoga, Akane,]] etc.)

* [[CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming Heartwarmingly]] subverted in this YouTube [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nNau6FnW_BE video]] where a dad pretends to not hug his little boy because its 'un-manly', yet kids around and cuddles with his son afterward.

* {{Friends}} also averted this with Chandler and Joey who were very close, ''did'' talk about their feelings and often engaged in hugging.

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* ''[[RanmaOneHalf Ranma 1/2]]'': Played straight with Ranma and his father, Genma. They never hug or tell each other that they care; they very rarely have personal talks. Affection from his dad is so weird to Ranma that Genma uses an attack against him that consists only of an overly affectionate hug, which totally freaks him out. Growing up with the Real Men Hate Affection mindset could explain why he [[HatesBeingTouched doesn't really like being touched]] and seems to only have love/hate relationships with the people he's closest to. (i.e. [[ThreeAmigos Ryoga, Akane,]] etc.)

* {{Friends}} also averted this with Chandler and Joey who were very close, ''did'' talk about their feelings and often engaged in hugging. There were some HoYay jokes at their expense, but not as many as the fandom might have you think.

* ''TheEmperorsNewGroove'' has this at the very end. Kuzco and Pacha finally get the potion, embrace... and then separate, looking rather embarrassed because guys don't do this... see it [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jjlVRWynkhM here]], at about 2:50.

* [[CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming Heartwarmingly]] subverted in this YouTube [[www.youtube.com/watch?v=nNau6FnW_BE video]] where a dad pretends to not hug his little boy because its 'un-manly', yet kids around and cuddles with his son afterward.

* In ''TheHotChick'', the titular hot chick's boyfriend describes his feelings for her to a friend, expecting a similar confession from the friend, who calls him [[YouFailLogicForever gay]].

* Averted in ''AcrossTheUniverse'', with Max and Jude. They only knew each other for about a year, yet they are doing the MeadowRun by the film's end.

This is a relatively recent trope, and of varying geographical distribution. Until around the eighteenth century, it was expected of "men of sensibility" to show their emotions much more openly (as in The Song Of Roland, in which the heroic French weep and faint away in groups of twenty thousand at a time). Even PDA between males was much more common as little as a hundred and fifty years ago, though generally more restrained in Anglophone countries (with their Puritan traditions) than elsewhere. (19th century English diarists record their horror at seeing male Frenchmen and Germans kissing each other on the mouth, though this gesture had been actually more common among all genders in England than elsewhere up to the time of the Civil Wars.)

-->"Love? What kind of man tells another man that he ''loves'' him?"

** Hank is an extreme version of this, unwilling to show any more affection than a handshake to his own mother. It's implied that this is due to emotional abuse from his father. Ironically, his greatest fear is that his father will die without ever telling him that he loved him. [[spoiler:Which was exactly what happened.]]

In fiction, every guy usually follows the [[FictionalDocument Bro Code]]. One of the rules of the Bro Code is that guys do not hug each other. They also don't talk things out or get emotional, because that's what chicks do, either that, or it's gay. Sensitivity is never a priority for guys, no matter how they appear on the surface. Every guy is like this, even the most understanding guy will not want to seem sensitive, for fear of being called a pussy or "gay".

* Zigzagged in spades in ''{{Berserk}}''. The main male characters, Guts and Griffith, can be described as ambitious, ruthless, {{Jerk Ass}}es, [[MenAreUncultured uncultured]] in the case of Guts, and [[CompleteMonster a monster]] in the case of Griffith ([[HeWhoFightsMonsters and almost with Guts]]), but one thing for sure is that they're not afraid to talk about their feelings, especially to one another ([[HoYay making certain implications arise]]). In the case of Guts, he can switch from being [[http://www.mangakong.com/manga/Berserk/037.047/210 a gruff jerk]] to being [[http://www.mangakong.com/manga/Berserk/037.047/211 very tender]] [[http://www.mangakong.com/manga/Berserk/037.047/212 and caring]].