History Main / LovedINotHonorMore

* Too many military families to list.

Many writers, naturally, take a more cynical view of such cases, and are not averse to depicting such heroes as selfish jerks who are not only too weak to handle their burden alone but willing to make others miserable instead of declaring IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy. Note that cynical and more optimistic approaches to this trope both sympathize heavily with the girl. And, sorry, [[TheAeneid Aeneas]], but sleeping with the girl and then splitting the morning after to continue TheQuest doesn't count; try that, and you're asking for a WomanScorned.

->''Tell me not, Sweet, I am unkind,''\\

''Loved I not Honour more.''

* Zuko on ''AvatarTheLastAirbender'' faces the assymetrical HeelFaceTurn complications.

* A mixed example on HarryPooter. At the end of Half-Blood Prince, Harry does an IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy and breaks up with Ginny, knowing that he has to leave to hunt Horcruxes, and fearing that she may end up dead if they stay together. Ginny can't go with him because, being under age, magic done around her is Traced. But she leaves it clear, at that moment and at the beginning of Deatly Hallows, that ''she'' is not breaking up with ''him'', making her this trope. [[spoiler:However, they both seem to fall in this at the Epilogue, when they're married with children, ''and'' Harry is the Head of the Auror office.]]

* This shows up in, of all places, the 1960s cartoon ''{{Underdog}}'' in the episode "The Witch of Pickyune," when Underdog meets a witch who will only wake his love interest from an eternal sleep if he helps her TakeOverTheWorld. Proving himself to be smarter than [[StarWars Anakin Skywalker]], he flat out refuses (before accidentally saving the girl anyway with a TrueLovesKiss).

Doesn't overlap with TheMasqueradeWillKillYourDatingLife because your significant other has to be in on any masquerade in cases of this trope. May overlap ItsNotYouItsMyEnemies but not necessarily. If the hero leaves his love interest to protect her, it's ItsNotYouItsMyEnemies; if the hero could recite Lovelace's poem in context, it's this trope (too).

-->''John, it pleases me that you care for what I have become...but never forget who I was...what I am and what I can do.''
-->BabylonFive

* Delenn talking to Sheridan in BabylonFive ''Lines of Communication''.

-->Husband: ''Emma had to do it, right? She didn't have a choice.''
-->Gibbs: ''No, she had a choice. That's what makes her a hero.''
-->Husband: ''A hero...''

-->'''Blossom:''' It was never becasue we didn't like you, it's just...

* Delenn talking to Sheridan in BabylinFive ''Lines of Communication''.

[AC: Real Life]]

-->'''Lizzie:''' I'm tired of competing with the Kids Next Door.

-->Husband: ''Emma had to do it, right? She didn't have a choice.

-->Husband: ''A hero...

-->'''Lizzie:''' I'm tired of competing with the Kids Mext Door.

Instead of becoming a CelibateHero, heroes who say "loved I not honor more" enter a committed relationship and accept the strain that their role will put on that relationship. They allow themselves to fall in love, but the romance must take a backseat to duty. They'll dislike having to leave the wife or girl home alone to go save the world, but they won't hesitate (long) to do it. Making a HeroicSacrifice to [[AlwaysSaveTheGirl save the girl]] is perfectly acceptable, but [[LoveMakesYouEvil turning the Dark Side]] isn't. There will be times when the lovers can't spend as much time together as they want, when the girl will get jealous of her non-human rival, and when he will have to make a SadisticChoice. There will be tears for his safety on her part, guilt on his part for making his beloved suffer, and periods of believing that she would be better off without him. But in the end, she will have to admit that his devotion to a heroic cause is one of the things she loves and admires most about him, and they will have the satisfaction of knowing (and making sure their enemies know, too) that withstanding so much tension and danger makes their love all the stronger.

This trope can be particularly hard on villains who make a HeelFaceTurn while in a committed relationship. They'll have to rely on LoveRedeems to get their significant other to understand why he suddenly left ehr to side with the enemy.

''And with a stronger faith embrace''\\

''The first foe in the field;\\