History Main / LastDisrespects

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* In ''WebComic/{{Shortpacked}}'' Mike shows up to Blaine's funeral in a Hawaiian shirt and party hat, throws confetti when Amber reveals just how abusive Blaine was to her and her mother, and flips off Blaine's corpse, saying 'later jerkhole, I'm fucking your daughter'.

* In ''VideoGame/TheWitcher'' Emhyr var Emreis the Emperor of Nilfgaard, once he reclaims his rightull throne has all of the graves of the Usurper's fellow plotters disintered and uses the remains and gravestones to pave his ballroom. An act that earns him the moniker The White Flame that Dances on the Barrows of his Enemies.''

* In the NSFW comic ''Moon Over June'' Summer (who had to be goaded into attending the funeral in the first place) is surprised to find out her siblings wish to pay this upon their father. As it turns out, they suffered as much under his toxic masculinity as she did (if not more, because she at least got sent to boarding school). When she expresses a desire to piss on his grave upon finding out, they tell her to not do that...because she doesn't have enough piss for it yet.

* ''Machinima/RedVsBlue'' has three "funeral" scenes (the deceased in question were still living), and all are about people being completely disrespectful at funerals, sometimes for their own agendas, sometimes just because they're jerks.

* Defied in a ''ComicStrip/NonSequitur'' strip, when the person had the foresight to have the [[https://www.gocomics.com/nonsequitur/2018/10/22 "No Dancing Please" sign installed on his grave.]]

* In 'Man Needs Shite At Funeral' [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3_FL_f11cJE]], ''Creator/{{Limmy}}'' (Brian Limond) improvises a tale about a man whose parents have just died. The man (called Craig) sits through the service needing to use the toilet, until he is called up to deliver his eulogy. He struggles to leave his seat, and people misinterpret this as him being overwhelmed by grief. Wincing in discomfort, Craig stands up at the podium. The story ends with Craig cursing his parents and defecating in their coffins, something so notable that it becomes commonplace and traditional at proceding funerals.
* On ''WebVideo/BeingTheElite'' this happens twice during Wrestling/JoeyRyan's funeral:
** First, Scorpio Sky of SCU begins their speech saying that [[CatchPhrase "this is the worst funeral I have ever been in!"]].
** Then, Arthur starts dissing Ryan himself in front of the entirety of The Elite [[spoiler:sans "Hangman" Adam Page, who wasn't there]], who were grieving Ryan.

* In ''WebVideo/RainbowDashPresents Bittersweet'', at Pinkie's funeral, Rarity is too busy gloating that she called it that Pinkie would kill herself, Twilight expresses disbelief that Pinkie would die by diabetic ketoacidosis ('what is this, the dark ages, we have medicine!'), Applejack tries to be respectful but ends up concluding Pinkie died to spite everyone, and Rainbow Dash makes her eulogy all about ''her'' feelings of guilt about Pinkie's death. Fluttershy ''might'' have been the only respectful person at the funeral, but since she was drowned out by dubstep per Pinkie's last will and testament, we'll never know. What's more, when her spirit comes back to give the rest of the Mane Six closure, Dash is just confused while the others complain about it.

* In ''Series/BrooklynNineNine'' Madeline Wuntch's grave is used as part of the scavenger hunt used as part of the final heist. When the gang gets there, they find a baloon arch, which Holt states that he replaces ever week.

* In ''ComicBook/TheUltimates'', Betty Ross/Ultimate ComicBook/SheHulk was an unempathetic AlphaBitch who thought it appropriate to eagerly report to Nick how things are going with the team's approval rating following their battle with [[ComicBook/TheIncredibleHulk the Hulk]] ''at the funeral for the Hulk's victims.'' Even Nick, a known {{jerkass}}, [[EveryoneHasStandards is appalled by that one]].

* In ''ComicBook/TheUltimates'', Betty Ross/Ultimate ComicBook/SheHulk was an unempathetic AlphaBitch who thought it appropriate to eagerly report to Nick how things are going with the team's approval rating following their battle with ComicBook/TheHulk ''at the funeral for the Hulk's victims.'' Even Nick, a known {{jerkass}}, [[EveryoneHasStandards is appalled by that one]].

And that's not touching on those who are much more direct about their scorn toward the deceased. If the deceased was a {{Jerkass}} or guilty of other negative qualities in life, then expect people to open up and gossip about their faults or [[SpitefulSpit spit on his coffin]] now that the deceased is no longer around to complain. Sometimes, the deceased's family won't even wait to express their views until the funeral, [[http://www.snopes.com/media/iftrue/obituary.asp as they will expose him/her in the obituary as a bad person]].

Sometimes this disrespect comes in the form of [[SpeakIllOfTheDead discussions that are brought up]] around or even ''at'' the time the proceedings begin. Perhaps the deceased is an adult involved in one of the ends of an inheritance dispute. Maybe the deceased was survived by an illegitimate child or, even worse, a child that none of the relatives are completely willing to take custody of. In any event, the attendees of the funeral will be all too eager to talk about ''those'' matters than to mourn, not realizing that talking about them is putting their selfishness and spite out in the open.

Many times, criminals who are guilty of (especially) the most heinous of acts will have private funerals, if they have one at all; that is, the funeral is open only to those explicitly invited, and often the funeral location will not be announced publicly. Other times, the obituary will run only after the funeral service and burial. This is to keep unwanted intruders from interrupting the service – for instance the embittered victim who was personally (or had a close friend or family member) particularly harmed by said deceased criminal's actions from showing up and -- in the process of screaming about how the decedent ruined his/her/others' lives --
disrupting the service and disrespecting the religious traditions of a funeral. After all, even the most heinous (now-deceased) criminal still likely has family and/or friends who wish to, in the very least, mourn that person in peace and remember him/her how they wish to. In these cases, usually there will be an usher or a police officer standing by the door of the funeral location to stop anyone who does happen to show up uninvited.

Funeral scenes like these also come up -- particularly in fiction -- to show how the people the deceased ''thought'' they were close to truly care once they are gone. Either they never truly did or they only cared to a shallow degree; or the funeral is a way to release pent-up frustration, hate, contempt and so forth toward the decedent, emotions that were held in for whatever reason while that person was still living. Other times, these scenes show what {{Jerkass}}es the family and "friends" can be in general once the deceased is no longer around to remind them when to filter out their open contempt toward the deceased, his family, and/or his life decisions.

In the worse case scenario however, the funeral becomes the site of a bloodbath, where a rival family or embittered enemy comes armed and takes grieving members of their loved ones with them to the afterlife seeing that the death of just one person does not suffice and the rest of them can join them in death. More often then not there are additional bodies to bury in the wake of the massacre.

* In ''ComicBook/{{Fables}}'', [[Literature/TheJungleBook Mowgli]] comes back to the Farm to talk to Bagheera, and mentions wanting to dance on Shere Khan's grave. Bagheera informs him that [[UpToEleven Baloo had already done a song and dance revue performance for seven nights (plus a Sunday matinee) on it]], and that [[CrossesTheLineTwice Bagheera himself, not being much of a dancer, had contented himself with pissing all over it.]]

* ''WesternAnimation/DuckTales2017'': At Scrooge's funeral in "The 87-Cent Solution!", [[TheRival Flintheart Glomgold]] shows up in a white sequined suit and starts dancing to Music/DJKhaled's "All I Do is Win" and making it rain dollar bills while everyone else stares in disgust. [[CrossesTheLineTwice Extra diss points to Glomgold]] for ''twerking'' up against Scrooge's casket(!). He would have danced on the casket too, but an embarrassed [[CloudcuckoolandersMinder Zan Owlson]] stops him. [[FakingTheDead Scrooge is, in fact, just fine]], but the disrespect on Glomgold's part was absolutely real.

* ''Literature/TheTamuli'': King Avin Wargunson's funeral devolves into [[AndThereWasMuchRejoicing general mirth]], both because he had richly earned his ZeroPercentApprovalRating and because the manner of his death -- being nailed into a barrel of wine -- left him an unfortunate shade of purple. People do mourn the loss... of the wine.

* Creator/DavidEddings:
** In ''Guardians of the West'', first book of ''the Literature/TheMalloreon'', the funeral of Ran Borune, Emperor of Tolnedra, is primarily attended by the rival families. Since Ran Borune died without a son (and his appointed heir ''isn't noble'', oh my), all the talk is about who will vie for the throne next. Most of the attendees deliver paper-thin condolences to his daughter Ce'Nedra. The only thing keeping the insults from being overt is the presence of her husband Belgarion, King of Riva and Overlord of the West. Eventually, though, even ''his'' patience ran out and he boldly escorts Ce'Nedra out of the temple, but not before delivering an exquisite retort to all present: "''The air in here has turned a trifle ''rancid."

The deceased isn't out of danger even after the funeral is over. After that, bitter peers can pay their disrespects by vandalizing, desecrating, or even destroying the grave.

* In ''WesternAnimation/KingOfTheHill'', Luanne's ex Buckley does not get a fitting send-off at his funeral. Dale [[VomitDiscretionShot throws up into his coffin after seeing his remains]] and Luanne, who was [[EmotionSuppression suppressing her emotions]] by becoming a SoapboxSadie, raves about starving Irish kids by showing a picture of Bobby in his underwear. The only person who mourns him is Kahn, who had apparently befriended him offscreen because of how much he annoyed Hank. He was [[BastardBoyfriend somewhat of an ass]], but nowhere near deserving of having ''his corpse desecrated''.

* In ''VideoGame/Persona5'', midway through the game, [[spoiler:the principal of Shujin Academy]] suffers a mental shutdown, is hit by a truck and killed. Since most of the school hates him for [[spoiler:keeping Kamoshida around and covering for his crimes]], a lot of students badmouth him at the school assembly in which his death is announced.

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* Folk tales allege that [[UsefulNotes/ThreeKingdomsShuWeiWu Cao Cao]] ordered 72 false tombs to be constructed and his true tomb made inconspicuous in order to prevent this (this was adapted into ''Literature/TheRomanceOfTheThreeKingdoms''). Historically, his tomb's location was well known (though the location lost by modern times) and was visited by dignitaries on state occasions. The story about his tomb being made inconspicuous to discourage people seeking posthumous revenge by desecrating his body is suspected to be a corruption of his ''actual'' orders, which basically stated, "Since we're still at a state of war, don't waste money on a fine tomb for me."
* The Jolley Gang was a group of unpleasant funeral-crashers, who blagged their way into funerals on the pretext that they knew the deceased, so as to get at the free food/booze. Victoria Coren wrote a couple of [[http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2008/dec/21/celebrity-victoria-coren scathing articles]] about them after they targeted her father's funeral.
** [[http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2010/mar/21/victoria-coren-jolley-gang The second article]] details how one of the members [[DeathByIrony crashed a party celebrating Kuwait's national day, choked on a canape and died]].
* Fred Phelps Sr. was an American pastor infamous for his homophobic slogans and beliefs. One of the activities his Westboro Baptist Church congregation is well known for is going around the funerals of war veterans and picketing them, claiming that God condemned them to die because the nation tolerates "fags." As one can well imagine, this didn't do a lot to earn them points with the rest of the community, particularly due to changing attitudes toward homosexuality. Some of the most vocally offended -- both gay-rights activists and those whose military sons and daughters' funerals were picketed -- talked of similarly paying their "respects" at Phelps' funeral upon his death, but per the Christian Science Monitor, no one ever got the chance – [[http://www.csmonitor.com/USA/Society/2014/0320/Fred-Phelps-no-funeral-for-the-preacher-who-picketed-so-many-video there was no funeral]] (and presumably, his family mourned in private). In addition, [[https://books.google.com/books?id=nqfZDQAAQBAJ&lpg=PP1&dq=handbook%20traumatic%20loss&pg=PT458#v=onepage&q=cremated&f=false his body was cremated]] shortly after his death, with his ashes' whereabouts being unknown, likely to further prevent this trope.
* It is not unheard of for gang members of rival factions to show up at a rival gang member's funeral and begin trouble, particularly if: 1. The gang member's death was both brutal and at the hands of the other gang; and 2. There were especially tense emotions between the two gangs. Often, police presence will discourage any funeral violence, but it hasn't always stopped the unwanted from happening.
* Some people are so disliked -- in particular, by their own families -- that there isn't even a funeral. In at least two cases, [[http://www.snopes.com/media/iftrue/obituary.asp obituaries cursing the just-deceased person]] were actually published. In each of the obituaries, the mothers (both were women) were described by their children as hateful and emotionally, sexually and physically abusive, and that they would be remembered that way as they now try to find closure and move on with their lives.
* PlayedForLaughs at the funeral of [[Creator/MontyPython Graham Chapman]], at his request. The other Pythons noted that, with all the shocking and vulgar things they'd done for the sake of comedy over the years, it would've been unforgivable to pass up the opportunity. Chapman's family had a serious, separate funeral for themselves and the Pythons put on their own so they wouldn't wreck that one. From Creator/JohnCleese's [[https://www.funeralwise.com/plan/eulogy/chapman/ eulogy]]:
--> '''Cleese''': I guess that we’re all thinking how sad it is that a man of such talent, such capability and kindness, of such intelligence should now be so suddenly spirited away at the age of only forty-eight, before he’d achieved many of the things of which he was capable, and before he’d had enough fun. Well, I feel that I should say, "Nonsense. Good riddance to him, the freeloading bastard! I hope he fries."
* Cartoonist Al Capp had a bitter feud with Ham Fisher, whom he used to assist before starting ''ComicStrip/LilAbner''. After Fisher committed suicide, Al Capp remarked that it was the most honorable thing he's ever done.
* Paul Tibbets, who commanded the flight that dropped the first atom bomb, requested to have his ashes spread in the ocean and no grave or memorial stand in his name. His stated reason is that his grave would serve less as a place for his family to remember him and more as a site for anti nuclear protestors to deface.
* Fred West committed suicide whilst on remand alongside his wife Rosemary for a string of brutal sexually-motivated torture-murders of young women and girls, including some of their own children. None of his family, from whom he was already estranged before his horrific deeds came to light, turned up at the funeral. The minister didn't offer a proper eulogy either, instead simply reading from the 23rd psalm and stating that West's life should serve as a cautionary tale.
* An obituary that invoked SpeakIllOfTheDead to this level [[https://www.twincities.com/2018/06/05/she-will-not-be-missed-angry-minnesota-obituary-goes-viral/ went viral in June 2018]], detailing how the deceased had abandoned her children to her parents after getting pregnant by her brother-in-law and moving to California with him. The sites that initially hosted the obit [[NeverSpeakIllOfTheDead removed it a day later]].
-->''She passed away on May 31, 2018, in Springfield and will now face judgement. She will not be missed by Gina and Jay, and they understand that this world is a better place without her.''
* In 2014 a Cleveland Browns fan posted a video of himself using a catheter device to discreetly urinate on Art Modell's grave, in some delayed vengeance for Modell famously moving the team to Baltimore in 1996.
* Sometimes the death of a company rather than a person can result in this, such as the Tasmanian Greens [[https://www.examiner.com.au/story/366956/gunns-gloat-a-blight-on-green-brand/ cheering the demise of the Gunns timber company.]] Other examples where some have celebrated a work or project failing.
* Wrestling/JimCornette has stated multiple times that one of his goals is to piss on the grave of his nemesis Wrestling/VinceRusso (who is still alive as of this writing). He really hates the guy that much.
* So many people expressed a wish to do this over UsefulNotes/MargaretThatcher's grave that it is apparently under constant guard in a secure and private location. When her death was announced there were literal ''parties'' and a push to get "[[Film/TheWizardOfOz Ding Dong, The Witch Is Dead]]" on the music charts (it made number 2 — but radio stations refused to play it). Regarding a proposed state funeral, Frankie Boyle said, "For 3 million pounds, you could give everyone in Scotland a shovel, and we would dig a hole so deep we could hand her over to Satan in person."
* As teenagers, sisters Sylvia and Jenny Likens were horrifically abused and tortured by Gertrude Banizewski, her own children, and even the neighborhood children while living in her house, with Sylvia eventually dying there. Many years later, as an adult, Jenny saw Banizewski's obituary in the paper five years after the latter's release from prison, and wrote to her own mother, "Some good news. Damn old Gertrude died. Ha ha ha! I am glad for that."
* [[https://slate.com/human-interest/2014/08/dear-prudence-a-friend-may-have-killed-her-mother-do-i-have-to-tell-the-authorities.html One Dear Prudence letter]] (the second one in the link), published in 2014, had a letter-writer complaining that her mother had become "unhinged" ever since the death of her mother-in-law (the writer's grandmother). By the writer's own admission, the grandmother had been [[ObnoxiousInLaws horribly abusive]] to the mom for decades, but had been a loving grandma to the writer herself; hence, the writer was taken aback when her mother wore red to the funeral, refused to stand in line to receive condolences (while saying she wouldn't have been able to do so with a straight face), and more recently was humming "[[Literature/TheWizardOfOz Ding Dong, The Witch is Dead]]" while doing spring-cleaning. In her response, Prudence quipped that the writer should have been grateful her mother didn't bring a boombox to blare Pharrell Williams' "Happy" while dancing on the grave, especially because (per the writer's acknowledgement) nobody in the family ever stood up for her when the grandma had been vicious to her for so long.
* At the funeral of UsefulNotes/AugustoPinochet, Francisco Cuadrado Prats, grandson of a general who was killed on Pinochet's orders, [[https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-2006-dec-17-oe-dorfman17-story.html spit into the coffin of the deceased dictator.]] It didn't go so well for him; he was beaten and kicked by Pinochet's supporters before military police rescued him. By a stroke of luck, Pinochet's own grandson, Capt. Augusto Pinochet Molina, happened to be at the funeral and gave a speech defending his grandfather, both of which were unplanned.
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* A brawl broke out at [[ComicBook/TheDeathOfSuperman Superman's funeral]]. Mostly because Rex Leech attempted to buy the rights to the last Superman photo from Jimmy Olsen, Jimmy punches him away, Rex's goons try to shoot him, only to be saved by ComicBook/{{Robin|Series}}. Finding out about the guns causes people to flip out and panic.