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* ''Series/ADifferentWorld''. Dwayne becomes worried that his friend Freddie will be a victim of this when her date, a fellow basketball player, matter-of-fsctly describes having done this to another girl, thanks to his firm belief that NoMeansYes. Luckily, he's there to stop it.

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This trope is ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin. A character (most often female) is out on a date with someone (most often male) who seems nice and normal … until they force themself on the victim, by drugs (whether the substance is [[ButLiquorIsQuicker offered openly with an ulterior motive]] or [[SlippingAMickey administered surreptitiously]]) and/or by violence. Though this is a [[{{Pun}} dated]] definition: the proper term now is ''acquaintance rape,'' owing to the fact that there doesn't even have to be a date (or even a dating relationship) for it to happen - acquaintance rapes have happened as BrotherSisterIncest, between co-workers and roommates and similar, by delivery people or hired employees, by [[DepravedDentist medical]] [[DrJerk professionals]] while the victim was under anesthesia and in nontraditional relationship settings (e.g. a member of the GroupieBrigade of a band's singer is at a party and gets roofied and raped by the bassist; or a woman is meeting with a male sex worker and instead of having consensual sex with her, he rapes her) among others.

* Subverted on ''Series/{{Sisters}}'' when Cat (daughter of second-oldest sister Teddy) meets a classmate in his dormitory for a ''study'' date rather than the typical romantic scenario. They start making out, but she nixes it because she doesn't feel ready to sleep with him yet. He's not pleased, but she doesn't realize just how angry he is until she goes for her run that evening. . . and he shows up at the track and assaults her. During her attacker's trial, her aunt Georgie (the middle sister) admits to having been date-raped herself while in high school.

* Rocko's song "U.O.E.N.O.", featuring Music/{{Future}} and Music/RickRoss, became OvershadowedByControversy due to a line from Ross's verse that was believed to condoning this trope:
-->'''Rick:''' ''Put molly all in her champagne, she ain't even know it/I took her home and I enjoyed that, she ain't even know it.''

* ''Fanfic/ISpokeAsAChild'' is a short ''Foster's Home For Imaginary Friends'' DarkFic themed around this. After Frankie is assaulted by her date, the rest of the fic deals with the next few days. In her stressed state, Frankie has an outburst at Mac and curses him out. The next day she apologizes to him and has to explain the situation in a way a nine-year-old would understand.

* The plot of Creator/JodiPicoult's ''The Tenth Circle'' focuses on a fourteen-year-old girl who accuses her ex-boyfriend, a popular hockey player, of date-raping her at a party.

* There's a clearly meant-to-be-educational example in the novel ''Literature/Rule34'' by Charles Stross. Unusually, the moral is not a victim-blaming "Girls, beware of guys you don't know and don't drink", but rather "Only yes means yes." and "Rapists are violent psychopaths, not people who just made a mistake, or just [[ImAManICantHelpIt 'boys being boys']].", and it seems specifically aimed at a young male readership, the ones who commonly make jokes about "surprise buttsex". What happens in the book is that one polyamorous female character, who likes to have one-night-stands when in a strange city, unknowingly gets into bed with the book's villain. She consented to rough sex, but not to anal. In the middle of the sex scene, he just turns her around and penetrates her anally, hurting her but finishing so fast that she doesn't even have time to really struggle. Then he tells her to leave, her purpose for him having been fulfilled. Later in the shower, she's very upset but unsure herself whether that qualified as rape. But when she tells the main character (a policewoman) what happened, she confirms that yes, of course it was rape. Later on in the book, the rapist is described as ''certifiably'' psychopathic several times and the reader gets to witness firsthand what exactly that means through his POV.
* The second book of the ''Literature/{{Nightrunner}}'' series has an unfortunately ambiguous example. The protagonist Alec, 16 years old and very virginal[[note]] Up to this point in the story, he was unusually shy about things like nudity and had literally zero sexual attraction to anyone, which is part of the reason readers often head-canon him as demisexual or as having SingleTargetSexuality for the friend he actually falls in love with. The author may have meant it as a sign of delayed puberty due to his [[spoiler: half-elven]] heritage - or just as a gender-flipped version of MyGirlIsNotASlut since this is an early m/m romance series.[[/note]], gets very drunk at a party. A seductive woman of his acquaintance (she's the kindly old mentor character's mistress as well as having regular sex with another male friend), who has a reputation of being a "virgin chaser" / "man-eater" and who also wants to perform some villainous, plot-relevant magic on Alec once she gets him alone and asleep, flirts with him while also putting a seduction spell on him, which could be interpreted as the magical equivalent of roofies. She asks if he wants to be let go, but she doesn't lift the spell for this and he's still drunk. He says no, and she teleports him away for a night of off-screen marathon sex. The next morning, Alec initially claims it was great when his best friend asks [[note]] Though said friend had a habit of laughing at him whenever he got groped or kissed against his will by a girl before, and generally had an attitude of "You need to get laid."[[/note]], but his internal narration afterwards is more ambivalent, stating that he feels used and in need of a bath, and later the friend briefly notices that Alec seems to avoid standing close to the woman at social gatherings. While Alec was in the woman's bed, several characters worried about what kind of magic the woman was using on him, but the only one seriously worried about the sexual consent issue was basically an old lady who'd been celibate all her life and who is described as "prim" in this scene. There's never really any in-depth discussion about what happened and the main characters kind of joke about the woman using magic to get formerly celibate men into bed later on. Not even the kindly authority figure whose mistress she is [[note]] Their's is an open relationship, with the man already elderly and perfectly aware that she's just with him to learn magic from him. He's not in love with her either.[[/note]] actually seems to investigate what magic she was using on the boy, while he was sleeping or earlier. Which is why the woman's villain status is a surprise for the good guys later on in the plot. It's hard to say if this was meant to reflect the male characters' [[DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale double standards]] and that it comes back to bite them in the ass, or if the author genuinely thought this wasn't a big deal that needed to be clarified with regards to Alec's ability to give free consent. Especially since this was written in the early 1990s.
* A key plot point in ''Going Too Far'' by Catherine Alliott is that protagonist Polly got drunk on a night out and cheated on her husband with film director Sam. She has no memory of this happening, and just assumes that if everyone thinks she willingly slept with Sam it must be true; even though it's clear to the reader that she was much too drunk to consent and this would be rape. [[spoiler:Subverted with the revelation that he actually drugged her and checked them into a hotel together, using her to create a false alibi whilst he burgled her house.]]
* In the ''Literature/MercyThompson'' book ''Iron Kissed'', [[spoiler: Tim]] has Mercy drink from a magic goblet when she comes for dinner to make her fall in love with him, and takes advantage of her when they're alone.

* ''{{Series/Liar}}'': Laura accuses Andrew of this (after drugging her drink), and looks into his past, finding incidents making her think he did it to other women as well. [[spoiler:He's guilty of not only her rape but ''many'' more.]]

This trope is ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin. A character (most often female) is out on a date with someone (most often male) who seems nice and normal … until they force themself on the victim, by drugs (whether the substance is [[ButLiquorIsQuicker offered openly with an ulterior motive]] or [[SlippingAMickey administered surreptitiously]]) and/or by violence. Though this is a [[IncrediblyLamePun dated]] definition: the proper term now is ''acquaintance rape,'' owing to the fact that there doesn't even have to be a date (or even a dating relationship) for it to happen - acquaintance rapes have happened as BrotherSisterIncest, between co-workers and roommates and similar, by delivery people or hired employees, by [[DepravedDentist medical]] [[DrJerk professionals]] while the victim was under anesthesia and in nontraditional relationship settings (e.g. a member of the GroupieBrigade of a band's singer is at a party and gets roofied and raped by the bassist; or a woman is meeting with a male sex worker and instead of having consensual sex with her, he rapes her) among others.

[[JustForFun/IThoughtItMeant Do]] ''[[JustForFun/IThoughtItMeant NOT]]'' [[JustForFun/IThoughtItMeant confuse with]] DateCrepe.

This trope is ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin. A character (most often female) is out on a date with someone (most often male) who seems nice and normal … until they force themself on the victim by drugs (whether the substance is [[ButLiquorIsQuicker offered openly with an ulterior motive]], or [[SlippingAMickey administered surreptitiously]]) and/or by violence. Though this is a [[IncrediblyLamePun dated]] definition: the proper term now is ''acquaintance rape,'' owing to the fact that there doesn't even have to be a date (or even a dating relationship) for it to happen - acquaintance rapes have happened as BrotherSisterIncest, between co-workers and roommates and similar, by delivery people or hired employees, by [[DepravedDentist medical]] [[DrJerk professionals]] while the victim was under anesthesia and in nontraditional relationship settings (e.g. a member of the GroupieBrigade of a band's singer is at a party and gets roofied and raped by the bassist; or a woman is meeting with a male sex worker and instead of having consensual sex with her, he rapes her) among others.

This trope is ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin. A woman, or more rarely a man, is out on a date with a person who seems nice and normal... until they force themselves on the victim, either [[ButLiquorIsQuicker by drugs]] or by violence. Though this is a [[IncrediblyLamePun dated]] definition: the proper term now is ''acquaintance rape,'' owing to the fact that there doesn't even have to be a date (or even a dating relationship) for it to happen - acquaintance rapes have happened as BrotherSisterIncest, between co-workers and roommates and similar, by delivery people or hired employees, by [[DepravedDentist medical]] [[DrJerk professionals]] while the victim was under anesthesia and in nontraditional relationship settings (e.g. a member of the GroupieBrigade of a band's singer is at a party and gets roofied and raped by the bassist; or a woman is meeting with a male sex worker and instead of having consensual sex with her, he rapes her) among others.

* ''Film/{{MFA}}'': This happens to Noelle when she goes on a date with her classmate, then into his dorm room where he forces himself on her. Her attempts to find some kind of justice set in motion the events that will turn her into a {{vigilante}}, hunting and killing those who have got away with rape or sexual assault.

* A [[{{squick}} disturbingly]] large amount of {{hentai}} manga and dōjinshi plots. Often employs the NotIfTheyEnjoyedItRationalization.

* In ''Fanfic/NobodyDies'', Asuka's nameless date attempts this. He doesn't get far since [[spoiler:NERV set up a sting operation, and the would-be rapist gets knocked out and handed over to [[CrazyAwesome Rei]].]]

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Do ''NOT'' confuse with DateCrepe.

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* ''Film/BasicInstinct'': The first scene of Nick and Beth in her apartment. Feeling sexually frustrated from dealing with Catherine's interrogation, Nick acts it out on Beth by aggressively coming on to her. She seems to enjoy it at first, but by the end he forces himself onto her and she's clearly struggling against him, and at one point flat-out tells him "no". After they're done, she calls him out on the fact that he wasn't making ''love'' to her, and angrily tells him to leave.