Romance

Well you gotta find someone that you won't mind telling you that stuff. They have to challenge and want to better you, and you have to realize it and do the same for your partner. It's fine if you don't want to tell it or hear it. But I personally don't think it's long-term romance material. Communication is key. You have to be able to talk and listen. If you do and you just don't agree, well, it's probably not the right person.

Also romance should have a base on friendship if you want something that lasts.

Lol watch me give this advice without having dated someone before. My stupid expectations and priorities are high.

edited 22nd Jun '17 8:10:57 AM by electronic-tragedy

What she said.

I haven't ever gone out with anyone either, but I think that's some solid wisdom electronic-tragedy.

Jeez, I just realized I'm coming up on my 3rd "anniversary" of dating my beau. Not that a dating anniversary really means anything, but it's cool to reflect on the fact that despite three years of misunderstandings, differing musical tastes, and fights over petty shit, somehow we both still think it's a good idea for us to be together, so we must be doing something right. :3

And I have never continued to feel like I'm in love for longer than a few months before him, so I'm continually amazed when I stop and check myself—"Wait, am I still in love? Holy shit, yes. How is that even possible?"

idk maybe this belonged in Post Your Random Thoughts, I'm not really trying to provoke a conversation, just... idk, loveshitposting I guess.

It's ok. And glad you're talking here.

Bad girly colt and I will be celebrating our 2nd year wedding anniversary and 6th year together in just a little over 3 weeks .

Sometimes Troper Romance works out

<3

Thanks :3 I did 99% of my troping at work, so when I quit my job to go to school full time, I lost my regularly scheduled 8-hour troping sessions. I have a really hard time managing my own schedule; left to myself, I'd spend 99% of my time playing FFRK on my tablet and the rest of the time drinking.

Browsing on this website is a great way to kill time. I can't eat or drink for another 9 hours due to Ramadan but thanks to a combination of music and this site, the time goes by like that.

You can drink water though, right? I think if I observed Ramadan, I would probably half-cheat by just imbibing disgusting amounts of water to feel full. (Well, more "bloated" than "full", but still.)

...Off-topic, but still.

Nope, can't drink water. From sunrise to sunset.

Damn. Well, don't overexert yourself then. Low blood sugar and all that.

No worries. The last day I have to fast is tomorrow. I've been doing it for a month. I look like a skeleton so I have to gain some weight after this. Some. I'm apparently I'm under 150 pounds.

Marcen: you're a better person than I. If I was told I'd have to fast for a month (for Ramadan) I'd tell em to get fucked. I applaud your dedication.

Somewhat on topic, older I get the more I find I like solitude. It's underrated.

Its only from sunrise to sunset. It takes discipline to fast for that long.

Oh, I forgot to post a date update! It went alright, but I don't think we're really romantically into each other. But we're still going to be friends and hang out some more, so not a total loss!

Glad to hear, hope you had fun!

Sad that that's a rare outcome these da—

Sorry to cut myself off, but I sound like a grumpy decrepit old man. I just realised this while typing. Now I know what they mean when they say I have my grandfather's humour.

I don't think I'm looking for advice here, I just want somewhere to vent and someone to talk to about where I'm at.

More than 2 years since my last relationship ended I thought I'd found someone else, someone I've actually known for 3-4 years, we've been great friends the whole time, people have actually been joking about us getting together for ages, even when I was with the previous girl, which didn't really help the last relationship, but we always said we were good friends and that was as far as either of us wanted to go.

A couple of weeks ago she invited me to a party to keep her company as she didn't think she'd know anyone besides the birthday boy, turns out she knew a couple of people but that's besides the point. We ended up getting pretty drunk and admitting that we liked each other beyond being friends and she came back to mine, nothing crazy happened but she spent the night, and sobering up in the morning it didn't feel at all a mistake to have made this change in our dynamic, it felt like exactly the right thing. We've met up a couple of times since, far easier than before as she's moved closer to me for work and we were going to meet more anyway even before everything happened.

However the last time we met up she said that she wasn't ready for a more committed relationship, her last one ended badly, which I knew about, and for other personal reasons I won't go into here she's been suffering from depression for the last year, which I didn't know about, but I'm glad she trusted me enough to tell me rather than make something up.

We've both admitted there's something between us beyond friendship, but for now we've dialled it back to what it was before and I'm finding it difficult. Obviously she needs time to get back to a place where she feels ready to be in a relationship again, I'm just worried that by the time that happens she'll have changed how she feels about me. I doubt she'd want me to wait for her, although that's kind of a moot point given she's the first person I've even kissed since my last relationship over 2 years ago. I don't know, I'm just a little sad about being in a situation where we both like each other but only one of us feels able to move forward with that.

Sorry for the long post, I just had to put it out there you know, to tell someone, even if it's faceless people on the internet. Don't feel obliged to respond, I just wanted to put this somewhere, make it more real.

Working on this wedding part just gave me the feels. ^_^;;

I've developed a crush on a semi-regular customer to my store - it helps that we seem to have certain geeky interests in common, so we have stuff to talk about. I really want to run into her someplace outside of work so we can talk more while I'm not busy, maybe even work towards getting a number/ asking to hang out sometime.

I'm in Nashville on vacation.

Man, Nashville has pretty girls everywhere.

How hard is it to find a date in a metro area of 20.5 million people? Join Cail as she finds out!

It's worse in a smaller town!

Mainly because everyone either knows each other or doesn't want to talk at all.

On the plus side, once I'm able to drive, I can go travel around, get 2 collage, etc.

There should be at least one lady in the USA with low enough standards.

edited 3rd Jul '17 4:05:35 PM by RandomWriter413

There was a cute guy at school and I was flirting with him before he told me he wasn't interested in dating for the time being because personal reasons. I thought that was fine and swell. Whatever, stopped doing that.

I go on Instagram yesterday and lo and behold, he has a girlfriend.

Yeah I'm salty. I was there first and he seemed interested in me too! We even had a Meet Cute moment! It doesn't help that the girl seems oddly familiar. I don't know where I've seen her face around so. Really? That generic? Ugh.

Good way to find out if they're a tourist or not? Cowboy boots. People that live there don't usually wear them. How do I know? I live there during school. A lot of guys are a bit too hipster for me but I've seen some nice-looking ones. :P

edited 3rd Jul '17 7:44:04 PM by electronic-tragedy

I could never date a southern girl, or even live willingly in the south. For one, heat, and two... there's too much of southern culture I don't like. Like grits. Grits are fucking nasty.

Y'know, I've lived in Texas my entire life and have never once eaten grits