I wanna change the title of this thread to "Is sex a sin? If so, why aren't people repenting?"
I don't think that mainstream Christianity hold sex within the context of marriage and for the purpose of having children a sin, so the statement that "sex is a sin" is in itself controversial. Better not have that in a thread title.
OK?
Quod gratis asseritur, gratis negatur.The problem with your question is that you're not taking into account cultural change. Sure, a lot of Christians still thing sex outside of marriage is sinful, and thus don't have sex outside of marriage. As well as often shaming those who do. BUT! In the Western world at least, the Sexual Revolution has taken hold and generally the idea of sex as sin has fallen out of popularity in modern day American culture.
So yeah, quite a few people don't see engaging in sex as much of a big deal as it used to be. Plus, the Seven Deadly Sins are sins of excess. It's possible to have sex without going after every single thing on two legs.
Interestingly, this reminds me of a news thing I saw a while ago about a preacher and his wife who were talking about sex as part of marriage and in their sermons. They had a bed on stage an everything. (It was a big enough church to attract TV recordings.)
Well, I was considering saying "Sex out of wedlock", but that's not as snappy-sounding.
edited 8th Apr '12 12:23:27 PM by 0dd1
Insert witty and clever quip here. My page, as the database hates my handle.Christians are people too, you know.
We are not perfect, far from it. And sexual attraction is certainly one powerful motivator.
But they seem to know where they are going, the ones who walk away from Omelas.I realize that, I'm Catholic myself.
The thing is, with sins, especially sins like these, one must repent in order to get into Heaven, so it seems as though (if one were to go strictly by the book on this) few people would get into heaven in this case, since nobody seems to want to repent for having sex out of wedlock (and really, who could blame 'em—few people are gonna be concerned with that, obviously).
Insert witty and clever quip here. My page, as the database hates my handle.Hooray, yet another Catholic!
Generally speaking, I think that Christians do acknowledge that adultery is a grave transgression, and they do repent about it. And then they fall again, and repent, and fall again. I am not entirely convinced myself that sex out of wedlock, when no adultery is involved, is as grave a transgression — it's not ideal, but it seems to me that if no oath- and trust-breaking is involved the matter is not as dramatic.
But as for the "few people would get in Heaven", I have to refer to the Catechism of the Catholic Church, article 1861, which says that
edited 8th Apr '12 1:17:37 PM by Carciofus
But they seem to know where they are going, the ones who walk away from Omelas.Very very true. I often wonder about how much of the Church's law is actually complete BS in God's eyes and if He would be willing to let everyone into Heaven. But yeah, it's not my place to judge or anything. Just gotta have faith, I s'pose. *starts singing George Michael*
edited 8th Apr '12 1:23:14 PM by 0dd1
Insert witty and clever quip here. My page, as the database hates my handle.Changed the title. I think this one's better.
Quod gratis asseritur, gratis negatur.I hear you. Personally, I'm very much a fan of Empty Hell Theory. But I cannot know if that is true, obviously; I can only hope that it is.
But I agree with you main point that more focus on repentance and redemption would certainly be a good thing. I think that sex is a little overplayed as a sin. Yeah, I agree that it can be one, obviously, but I think that greed or envy are far more widespread and, perhaps, more dangerous: at least if one commits a sin of lust they can generally notice that, while one can be outrageously greedy or envious and be perfectly convinced that they are not.
Yeah, that's one bulky text. But it's an useful reference if one wants to know the current position of the Church on an issue — it has no dogmatic value, and previous editions were rather different on certain points, but I find it very useful. It is here, if you are curious.
edited 8th Apr '12 1:31:18 PM by Carciofus
But they seem to know where they are going, the ones who walk away from Omelas.That's a good point, and certainly greed especially is an extremely noticeable sin entrenched in modern first-world society if one were to take a step back for a moment and really look at everything. Hell, advertising probably wouldn't be as obtrusive as it is today without greed and envy being at an all-time high.
Insert witty and clever quip here. My page, as the database hates my handle.All this vagueness about whether or not sex is a "sin" in the first place probably has a lot to do with why no one is "repenting," which is in itself, a rather broad term as well. People just aren't going to take such an obscurely phrased explanation about the nature of "why this is a sin" very seriously—especially now that the threat of the church coming down on them as heretics is long gone.
They never travel alone.I will say that the only Christians IIRC who still push the whole "sex is a sin out of wedlock" are Catholic
Dutch LesbianThe Church had never (or almost never, except during Savonarola's reign in Florence or the like) really come down on sin anyway. If you talked against the doctrine of the Trinity, you might have risked the attentions of the inquisitors; but if you betrayed your wife, that was a matter between you, your wife and God.
I mean, the Pontifical State even had legal brothels...
But in any case, I agree that a distinction must be made between "sex out of wedlock" and "adultery". The latter is unmistakably a grave sin; as for the former, opinions differ.
edited 8th Apr '12 1:43:53 PM by Carciofus
But they seem to know where they are going, the ones who walk away from Omelas.@whale: I dunno, in my experience, most Catholics I've met tend to be really moderate, to the point of almost being completely secular.
Insert witty and clever quip here. My page, as the database hates my handle.Most of the passages in the Tanakh, at least, talk about sex out of wedlock under the assumption that a woman who is not a virgin when she's married has completely dashed her marriage prospects. This is most certainly no longer true in many parts of the world, so it's debatable as to whether these are still relevant or not.
However, betrayal of one's spouse is definitely still relevant today.
edited 8th Apr '12 1:53:17 PM by ohsointocats
I'm a bit more disturbed by the "non-reproductive sex is doubleplusungood crimesex" part, personally. Gives fuel to homophobia.
"And as long as a sack of shit is not a good thing to be, chivalry will never die."Erm...the Baptists, Pentecostals, and any number of other southern Protestant sects say hi.
Yay time to provide a non-Judeo-Christian standpoint. Buddhism doesn't have a concept of sin. There isn't a "divine punishment" idea in the religion. There is the whole kamma idea, but there isn't a God punishing you for messing up. Instead sex is considered a bad thing for a few reasons. The two chief reasons being that it increases your attachment to reality and that there's a lot that can go wrong with sex. Preventing pains of various sorts is a big thing in the faith.
Now there is never, to my knowledge, a total ban or "this is wrong" on the thing for everyone. There are instead rules and guidelines and advice that is to be followed. "No sexual misconduct" is one of the five moral guidelines that laymen are to follow because sex is a very destructive thing physically, socially, economically, and emotionally. Few things can mess shit up so bad so easily and are so wanted. Monks tend to have a total ban in most schools though this varies from school to school.
As for what sexual misconduct means...That's considered to be up to debate though any definition that doesn't include rape, adultery (I consider polyamory a different subject so long as the participants are willing), and high risk sex practices (anal without lube and condoms as an example) is one that I wouldn't accept as being properly Buddhist. As well as difficult to classify emotionally damaging instances of sex.
Of course this still leaves the problem of "Why do people still run around having it willy nilly?" The answer to this is "They're human and they're still very far from the goal." The path is long and if you're Buddhist you'll get there. Maybe not this life time or anytime soon, but eventually. You might be a sexed up horn dog at the moment, but at the end of things you won't be. In theory of course. If you're serious about it you should at least be trying to cut back and trying abstinence every so often for holidays and such though.
If someone wants to accuse us of eating coconut shells, then that's their business. We know what we're doing. - Achaan ChahWhat about European Protestant churches? also I said IIRC for a reason
Dutch LesbianBecause I don't care what other people consider wrong as long as what's in question isn't hurting anyone. Not in the slightest.
With that said, sex can and does cause harm when indulged in carelessly. I've been a victim of it a few times, in a few ways, and even had a recent reminder of the damage it can cause. But when it involves responsible individuals that mean no ill will or extreme selfishness, it can be and often is a rather enjoyable, and emotionally and physically rewarding experience. That's nothing to repent for.
Cynics are optimists that have become used to disappointment.I don't think hell will be empty. Saddam, Stalin and Adolf need somewhere to hang out. I think the reason why folks do not repent having sex is that they do not see it as a sin. And no longer see priests of any stripe as having a role as a moral policeman in their bedroom.
I think you're confusing the Empty Hell hypothesis for Universal Reconciliation. They're two different, though related, notions of the Christian afterlife.
"Roll for whores."Why aren't people repenting (assuming they believe it's a sin)? Well, why do people eat junk food when they know it's bad for them? Why do people smoke? Humanity isn't all that good at denying itself things that are pleasant when they might hurt them.
Be not afraid...
So, according to quite a few (though mostly Judeo-Christian) religions, sex out of wedlock is a sin. Adultery is against the Ten Commandments and lust is considered one of the Seven Deadly Sins. Yet, people, from the most secular to the holiest of rollers, still do it anyway, and have done so throughout most history. There are even documented cases of Popes fathering illegitimate children too!
So, my question is, why is that so many religious people still do this, knowing full well that it is a sin according to their religion's doctrines, and have no remorse whatsoever about it?
NOTE: I realize I might be coming off as a tad prudish here, and that's certainly not my intention. It's just something I was thinking about that I'm curious about others' takes on it.
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