Regrets

Pretty much everything. Sigh..

Don't be so hard on yourself. It's not your fault things are how they are for you right now.

Thank you. I understand.

edited 16th Sep '11 12:10:14 AM by dracosketch

Resurrecting a really old thread now, but...

I regret losing the person to whom I was closest, the person whom I had considered my best friend.

She was the one person with whom I felt I could talk and truly be myself. We were so close; she was my confidant and vice versa.

And then...one night I was in an incredibly bad mood for some reason while we were texting and I just flew off the handle, saying some things that I know I shouldn't have that I instantly regretted saying. This, well, to say it pissed her off would be a gross understatement. She refused to talk to me anymore after that. At first she said she needed some time to cool down about it, but I never heard from her again after that. It's been about a year and three months since we last spoke. The friendship that we had...I don't think I've ever had such a close relationship with anyone as I'd had with her. I was even closer to her than I was to my girlfriend that I had for a few months around that time. We just clicked. And now she's gone, and it's all my fault. I miss her so much, even though I know she probably doesn't miss me in the slightest.

Bout a year ago I got into an argument about Subbing Versus Dubbing on a forum. I brought up the fact that a friend of mine likes dubs because he doesn't like to read subtitles; the other guy said he "seems to dumb and or lazy to handle subtitled content."

After it died down, he apologized, and I accepted. I shouldn't have.

I built up a lot of bad blood on that site, and it was largely my own fault, but no matter what else I did, I never insulted someone who couldn't speak for themselves. I shouldn't have been naive enough to think they wouldn't, and I shouldn't have abided it when it happened.

I have this one particular thing I regret that was a symptom of a bigger whole that I also sort of regret, though I would't change that entire part of my past. I once had the opportunity to go to a Morrissey concert, something that will never ever take place in Hungary again. My event photographer friend told me he could take me in for free, and I loved Morrissey and The Smiths, yet I refused just so I could instead go to a shitty Hungarian band where my horrible, emotionally abusive then-boyfriend was. I feel silly for giving up that opportunity, and downright weak for always giving in to him.

I also regret that I can see myself growing apart from my two best friends, and don't know what to do about it. And, in the past, growing apart from another one, although they're very different situations.

Can't think of any regrets because many more opportunities will arise in the future which I will regret.

Bananasloth, shitty abusive boyfriends are no joke. I had one, too, and missed out on some great things because of him.

Sorry to hear about that.

I regret not going to MIT.....

I don't know if this kind of thread is kosher, but something I regret is taking an art request from a guy who was later revealed to be a jerk.

Not moving out of my parents' house when I had the chance. Now I'll probably never be able to do so unless I inherit it and sell it off.

Hitting a classmate out of homophobia when I was younger.

And similarly, I used to misgender transgender people if they were terrible, but I realized that stooping to their level isn’t any better.

Edited by Segal991 on Aug 5th 2023 at 8:38:18 AM

> "Regrets you will have if you were to die right now?". That's what the OP post appears to be about.

still too negative if you ask me

Hmm, might still be to negative; maybe make it exclusively about regrets over small/petty things instead like "I wish I got this video game when it came out but now it's sold out everywhere!" or "I regret that one time I slipped on a banana".

Edited by Cutegirl920fire on Aug 6th 2023 at 12:13:07 PM

I think the Your Old Shames thread covers this.