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So do I, and I probably count as pansexual.

(Question for all y'all) So, when did you know you were L/G/B/T/whatever?

Uhhh....

...I think it was about a month and a half ago? There was a certain guy who helped me out in that regard...

...And with every day I'm more and more certain that yes, I am quite bisexual.

Last summer. Although, when I think about it, it's been a LOT longer than that. I remember being REALLY intrigued when I learned what Yaoi was. And kind of turned on.

A few months ago.

I decided do a little introspection, and looked back on just who I have been/am attracted to.

It was interesting, because up until that point I had just sorta "assumed" I was straight.

Although, now that I think about it, I've been thinking about this kind of stuff since my freshman year of high school and I'm just really, really dense or something.

Of few years ago is when my confusion about my sexual orientation and gender identity really started. It's only recently that I've identified as a pansexual genderqueer though. Past few months. A couple years before that I realized I was bisexual.

I was like that until I figured it out. I've known it since I was 13 or 14; When I looked back, I realized what was really going on when I used to be like "OMG, She's so pretty! Why am I so nervous?? DX"

edited 28th May '11 11:42:12 AM by Haldo

I was sitting around one day when in high school and thought "Oh hey. I like chicks too don't I? May as well stick this word to myself...whatever...OH HEY LOOK ANIMU". As you can see I have never really had to give it much thought.

edited 28th May '11 11:43:16 AM by Aondeug

I was pretty much the same. Once I was old enough to be attracted to people it was always there, I just didn't know what to call it.

I spent a while thinking "Oh, so I'm a lesbian. Cool. Oh wait, now I have a massive crush on a dude...was I just thinking I was a lesbian to be different? Oh, hang on, no. I am definitely attracted to that girl. Wait...you don't have to choose? That changes everything!"

I realised I was bi/pansexual over a period of time, and came out first when I was...16? It was to a room full of other teenagers at a diversity training day for museums interns. It was kind of a weird day.

The uncertainty was never very stressful or angsty, because I'm lucky and have very open parents and lots of LGBT and ally-ish friends. I was just genuinely unsure of which of my crushes "counted".

edited 28th May '11 12:19:58 PM by robintherose

I "realised" about half a year ago, and posted about it on these forums when I did. I'm rather sure I was straight until that point, as I don't have any memories of finding guys sexually attractive until then, even thought I did try to see if guys could turn me on.

The only GAYNGST I have ever felt was a brief period of fear with telling girls that I liked them for fear that they would hate me. Never mind that I had nothing like this happen to me and in fact fucking everyone I've met has mostly been like "Ok. You're gay. So? LET'S GO DO STUFF TOGETHER!!!". I abandoned this when I realized I was being a stupid shit. Hell even if it does happen I can always move on. Always. If I let it drag me down I'm being a loser.

That and some occasional "MY GRANDPARENTS WILL HATE ME IF THEY FIND OUT D:". But fuck that too. They don't have to know and that's just fine and dandy. I've got better shit to do than make sure everyone I so much as look at knows I'm not straight. Like bang chicks.

I've had it much worse with my crossdressing thing and the phantom cock really. Even then it was mostly just me letting it get to me.

edited 28th May '11 1:16:26 PM by Aondeug

Somewhat recently, I stopped caring altogether whether or not people know that I'm gay. I'm pretty happy about that.

Yeah it's pretty fucking awesome. We should like form a club or something. Except not because that implies we give a shit.

I don't care if people know I'm bi/pansexual, but I'm so asocial that it almost never comes up.

I just casually mention my girlfriend or that I find a chick hot without any real care. It's great.

I've had a bit of... I suppose it was "Gaynst" when I first became bisexual. It was rather sudden and I didn't really know what to do about it. I was also worried that my sexuality might change again and... well, that kinda happened anyways.

I haven't really had any Gayngst in the almost-two-week period that I have now been bisexual for. I'm still scared of telling anybody at school, but that's okay. They don't have to know...

I gayngted hard in middle school

Not much Ganygst here at all.

It helps that pretty much everyone I know is really super cool about this sort of thing.

Yeah, everybody who knows I'm gay has been super cool about it to me, too. I had a lot of uncertainty through middle school, though...

Nobody outside of this website knows I'm Bisexual (and trying to figure out if it's just that or pansexual instead). Figured it out a month and a half ago, roughly.

I'd rather keep it that way.

edited 28th May '11 6:33:03 PM by Legionnaire

I dunno. It was a slow and gradual realisation/development really, I can't put a proper date on it where I can say "well here is where I decided I am attracted to dudes too". I guess the first time I really considered the possibility was when I was about 13 or 14-ish. It didn't help that the first chick I ever had a crush on was so tomboyish that I thought she was a guy at first and went through a genuine period of wondering if that meant I was gay. But then she turned out to be a she, which just complicated things, really. So did the period of several months when I was about 15 when I felt no sexual attraction to anything at all, or even so much as a desire to touch myself.

I suppose I was about 16 or 17 when I started looking at gay porn more than straight stuff, and that's really when I became sure of it. By now I'm pretty content in my sexuality, but up until that point I remained very unsure. And it was only at that point when I actually started getting a lot more attracted to guys. There was a gay guy who had a crush on me and asked me out when I was 15/16; I turned him down because I legitimately wasn't that attracted to him, but if the same thing happened today, I would probably happily sleep with at the very least... so it's not just been a gradual realisation but a gradual development too.

edited 24th May '13 5:50:55 PM by CompassionateSadist

This.